When do you really trust someone you've met online? (380)
HJFinAZ: If you do not, could there possibly be anything else??
Nope Pat there couldn't be.
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I think Reagan said "Trust by Verify".
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umm don't know most fall off into the abiss before i get that far..............
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I've had my trust issues since last summer but I think I've worked through them and as to when do you trust someone I'll just say sometimes you have to take a chance on her/him.
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Dknew: I've had my trust issues since last summer but I think I've worked through them and as to when do you trust someone I'll just say sometimes you have to take a chance on her/him.
hi dan..
yes its hard when one gets their
heart broken over and over when
they think they have found the one..
It take alot of guts and will power
to try and trust another again..
People that are here to play games
ruin it for the rest.
I am sure you will one day find that
lady..ur a great guy
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kissmedeeply: hi dan..
yes its hard when one gets their
heart broken over and over when
they think they have found the one..
It take alot of guts and will power
to try and trust another again..
People that are here to play games
ruin it for the rest.
I am sure you will one day find that
lady..ur a great guy
yes its hard when one gets their
heart broken over and over when
they think they have found the one..
It take alot of guts and will power
to try and trust another again..
People that are here to play games
ruin it for the rest.
I am sure you will one day find that
lady..ur a great guy
Thx Joanne
and give this to your hubby for me 
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Dknew: Thx Joanne and give this to your hubby for me
your welcome and i will..He said you threw a pillow at him on FB..
next time knock him off his chair
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kissmedeeply: your welcome and i will..
He said you threw a pillow at him on FB..
next time knock him off his chair
I myself hit everyone I can over there with a pillowHe said you threw a pillow at him on FB..
next time knock him off his chair
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mylifewithu: I myself hit everyone I can over there with a pillow You are next Joanne
the hair the hair
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kissmedeeply: the hair the hair
I messed up your hair good this time, I got you with a doggie paw pillow
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mylifewithu: I messed up your hair good this time, I got you with a doggie paw pillow
haha yeh i see that..got you back though
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ModestlyAwesome: I hear ya. What's the quote again....? Love and fear cannot exist together for true love will push fear out.
Something along those lines. For those too scared to love they may not find it. Then again, I'm no expert.
Something along those lines. For those too scared to love they may not find it. Then again, I'm no expert.
And I definitely do not fear love...or being hurt. I've said before that I've been ripped to shreds so many times, that I can't be ripped apart that way again. It doesn't mean that I'm cold, or afraid to love deeply...quite the opposite. I fear it no more.
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newdudeniceguy: umm don't know most fall off into the abiss before i get that far..............
Then they're not the right ones. Hang in there. 
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kissmedeeply: haha yeh i see that..
got you back though
Oh crap , I shouldn't have sent so many pillow hits to others, I only have one hit left. You will kick my butt now.got you back though
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Dknew: I've had my trust issues since last summer but I think I've worked through them and as to when do you trust someone I'll just say sometimes you have to take a chance on her/him.
Yes, sometimes you do...and I have taken that risk many times, been burned, and taken it again. And I will again, too. But it still takes time to build full trust for me. But I give enough trust at the beginning to take the chance and open up...to give my heart fully when I feel a connection with someone.
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druidess6308: And I definitely do not fear love...or being hurt. I've said before that I've been ripped to shreds so many times, that I can't be ripped apart that way again. It doesn't mean that I'm cold, or afraid to love deeply...quite the opposite. I fear it no more.
Glad to hear it.
That post wasn't aimed at you so much as people with that issue in general.
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kissmedeeply: hi dan..
yes its hard when one gets their
heart broken over and over when
they think they have found the one..
It take alot of guts and will power
to try and trust another again..
People that are here to play games
ruin it for the rest.
I am sure you will one day find that
lady..ur a great guy
yes its hard when one gets their
heart broken over and over when
they think they have found the one..
It take alot of guts and will power
to try and trust another again..
People that are here to play games
ruin it for the rest.
I am sure you will one day find that
lady..ur a great guy
Yes, game players make it harder for the honest ones...but then, if it's worth having, it's worth fighting for, right?
That's where you assuage the other person's fears by being open and honest, and answering their questions...and move to calling and meeting as soon as possible, because honestly, you don't really know them until you do get to meet...that's when trust can really start to build.------ This thread is Archived ------
ModestlyAwesome: Glad to hear it.
That post wasn't aimed at you so much as people with that issue in general.
That post wasn't aimed at you so much as people with that issue in general.
I know...but I didn't want a post this good to go unanswered.
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laura225: Ouch, Ken!
Adjusting your expectations would be a good start!
It's not you being naive (well maybe a little) and it's not solely about society. People are being people - always were, always will be.
And I don't think there is one single solitary person who wasn't burned.
I know for myself, I need a realistic type of trust when I choose to trust someone. And it's not just the matter of choosing - trust should grow in a relationship over time, not given as granted to anyone you come across. Only when you spend time together with someone, learn about their needs, fears, motivations, etc.,etc., etc., you build knowledge and understanding of this person - that's when and how trust should develop, IMO.
Blind trust? It's like CS fave clishé - "it's only what on the inside that counts". Well, this kind of trust comes and goes.
Long process? It sure is. At some point a little 'credit of trust' is due Ya know, some risk is always involved.
I agree time is the main thing that allows us to know them more and to learn we can trust them. Each time I have been hurt, I have taken more time the next time to trust someone. Adjusting your expectations would be a good start!
It's not you being naive (well maybe a little) and it's not solely about society. People are being people - always were, always will be.
And I don't think there is one single solitary person who wasn't burned.
I know for myself, I need a realistic type of trust when I choose to trust someone. And it's not just the matter of choosing - trust should grow in a relationship over time, not given as granted to anyone you come across. Only when you spend time together with someone, learn about their needs, fears, motivations, etc.,etc., etc., you build knowledge and understanding of this person - that's when and how trust should develop, IMO.
Blind trust? It's like CS fave clishé - "it's only what on the inside that counts". Well, this kind of trust comes and goes.
Long process? It sure is. At some point a little 'credit of trust' is due Ya know, some risk is always involved.
I just wished I had done that from the beginning.
Part of it was my own fault tho, I remember feeling the gut feelings of things not being right. So I believe trust in our own gut feelings should come first. We sometimes ignore the little signs that we see that tell us something isn't right. Then we get hurt, but we seen it all along, we just chose to ignore those signs. I trust my feelings first now, and get out before I get hurt.
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I hear ya. What's the quote again....? Love and fear cannot exist together for true love will push fear out.
Something along those lines. For those too scared to love they may not find it. Then again, I'm no expert.