Have you ever seen a man cry? (200)
online today!online today!truheart1941brentwood, Essex, England UK83 Threads 1 Polls 25,171 Postsit,s not nice, to see anyone cry......
unlaoised: I honestly think that funerals are barbaric but necessary, yes.
I'd rather it were me in the pain than watching those I love suffer.
How are you, Missus?
I'd rather it were me in the pain than watching those I love suffer.
How are you, Missus?
Perhaps funerals are for the living, they are the first stage of grieving, coming to terms with the loss of a loved one.
truheart1941: it,s not nice, to see anyone cry......
serene56: Hmm yeah, life has changed quite dramatically in recent times, just need to find a new Happy I guess
Thank you for your wishes, they mean a lot to me
Thank you for your wishes, they mean a lot to me
You will, because that's what you do, it just takes time...quite a bit of time
Same here, my honeybunch, I know they're genuine
tomcatwarne: Perhaps funerals are for the living, they are the first stage of grieving, coming to terms with the loss of a loved one.
Of course they're for those left behind but I think they're brutal. I hate them
tomcatwarne: Perhaps funerals are for the living, they are the first stage of grieving, coming to terms with the loss of a loved one.
I agree, completely.
A girlfriend accompanied me to the funeral of a man I had been seeing for some time ..
En route I found it comforting to play Jeff Buckley's Last Goodbye and clasp my rosary beads .. his was a sudden, unexpected death ..she felt the whole thing was a 'tribal ritual' and was discomfited throughout.
I was still grateful for her presence
In response to: ...and how do you feel about it?
you want to know we all cry it is part of the human racetimbream: you want to know we all cry it is part of the human race
Are you crying into your beer there Tim, or are yuu just wearing a gas mask?
unlaoised: Of course they're for those left behind but I think they're brutal. I hate them
There is very little that is not "brutal" in the loss of a loved one. I found myself in tears tonight as I drove home from across town. Ever since the loss of my Mother I try not to hold back when I am alone. In the beginning I even kept myself from going out in public because I was too easily pulled into that sad place. It may not seem realistic or make sense to many but even now I sense her presence just above me or sometimes just to the side of my eyesight, especially when I lay down to sleep, oddly enough I thought that it was a picture on the wall for a few months till I realized there was not one there (a rather comforting feeling), not a bad feeling. It is probably just my own mind processing this loss and also dealing with this alone and without anyone or family to grieve with. I sometimes go to where she is buried and kneel there for long times and just process all the memories of she and I when we would stand on that very place and prepare flowers for family that is buried there. Strangely I have fotos of her and I in that place where we would go together. On hot days she would sometimes sit resting with her back supported by my Great GrandMother's Tombstone. Her "passing" was indeed the mark of the end of a certain generation of our family that makes her death even larger in very many ways. I am hoping that though my younger siblings do not agree on her HeadStone that soon there will be a place in the Hearts of all involved that can bring a much needed closure to that site.
For a man or woman to cry is natural in what I was taught. I know that this is not the case for all, but I do believe it is natural and also healthy in getting on and not leaving deep feelings to fester beneath the layers in the Soul or Mind.
Such beautiful words, from the heart, Dragos
A huge loss for you, losing your Mum, obviously.
A huge loss for you, losing your Mum, obviously.
Dragos1: There is very little that is not "brutal" in the loss of a loved one. I found myself in tears tonight as I drove home from across town. Ever since the loss of my Mother I try not to hold back when I am alone. In the beginning I even kept myself from going out in public because I was too easily pulled into that sad place. It may not seem realistic or make sense to many but even now I sense her presence just above me or sometimes just to the side of my eyesight, especially when I lay down to sleep, oddly enough I thought that it was a picture on the wall for a few months till I realized there was not one there (a rather comforting feeling), not a bad feeling. It is probably just my own mind processing this loss and also dealing with this alone and without anyone or family to grieve with. I sometimes go to where she is buried and kneel there for long times and just process all the memories of she and I when we would stand on that very place and prepare flowers for family that is buried there. Strangely I have fotos of her and I in that place where we would go together. On hot days she would sometimes sit resting with her back supported by my Great GrandMother's Tombstone. Her "passing" was indeed the mark of the end of a certain generation of our family that makes her death even larger in very many ways. I am hoping that though my younger siblings do not agree on her HeadStone that soon there will be a place in the Hearts of all involved that can bring a much needed closure to that site.
For a man or woman to cry is natural in what I was taught. I know that this is not the case for all, but I do believe it is natural and also healthy in getting on and not leaving deep feelings to fester beneath the layers in the Soul or Mind.
For a man or woman to cry is natural in what I was taught. I know that this is not the case for all, but I do believe it is natural and also healthy in getting on and not leaving deep feelings to fester beneath the layers in the Soul or Mind.
It makes perfect sense to me...energy doesn't just disappear into nothingness and we're made of it, so why wouldn't your Mom's energy linger around you at times?
Tears wash the soul, Dragos...and the hurt of losing a loved one needs that soothing.
I wish for you a gentle Christmas and New year
unlaoised: It makes perfect sense to me...energy doesn't just disappear into nothingness and we're made of it, so why wouldn't your Mom's energy linger around you at times?
Tears wash the soul, Dragos...and the hurt of losing a loved one needs that soothing.
I wish for you a gentle Christmas and New year
Tears wash the soul, Dragos...and the hurt of losing a loved one needs that soothing.
I wish for you a gentle Christmas and New year
I appreciate your kindness and wish you the same as well. It seems the next few days, especially tomorrow will have a very big factor in how this year closes. But I am trying to be optimistic and also realistic in what the outcome is.
serene56: Such beautiful words, from the heart, Dragos
A huge loss for you, losing your Mum, obviously.
A huge loss for you, losing your Mum, obviously.
You are very kind Serene. I can say one thing that is definitive in that while I am alive there will always be very big part of my Mother that lives in my memories and her kind and good nature will be reflected by my own as well.
Dragos1: I appreciate your kindness and wish you the same as well. It seems the next few days, especially tomorrow will have a very big factor in how this year closes. But I am trying to be optimistic and also realistic in what the outcome is.
It's a sad time for many
May whatever tomorrow holds for you, have the outcome you want
Dragos1: There is very little that is not "brutal" in the loss of a loved one. I found myself in tears tonight as I drove home from across town. Ever since the loss of my Mother I try not to hold back when I am alone. In the beginning I even kept myself from going out in public because I was too easily pulled into that sad place. It may not seem realistic or make sense to many but even now I sense her presence just above me or sometimes just to the side of my eyesight, especially when I lay down to sleep, oddly enough I thought that it was a picture on the wall for a few months till I realized there was not one there (a rather comforting feeling), not a bad feeling. It is probably just my own mind processing this loss and also dealing with this alone and without anyone or family to grieve with. I sometimes go to where she is buried and kneel there for long times and just process all the memories of she and I when we would stand on that very place and prepare flowers for family that is buried there. Strangely I have fotos of her and I in that place where we would go together. On hot days she would sometimes sit resting with her back supported by my Great GrandMother's Tombstone. Her "passing" was indeed the mark of the end of a certain generation of our family that makes her death even larger in very many ways. I am hoping that though my younger siblings do not agree on her HeadStone that soon there will be a place in the Hearts of all involved that can bring a much needed closure to that site.
For a man or woman to cry is natural in what I was taught. I know that this is not the case for all, but I do believe it is natural and also healthy in getting on and not leaving deep feelings to fester beneath the layers in the Soul or Mind.
I know ,how you feel my friend,...been there....still there after 5 years..like you i sit there..mum/dad/brother.......and talk to them....life seems so hollow now.....without them.its worse when your on your own.....to much time to think......For a man or woman to cry is natural in what I was taught. I know that this is not the case for all, but I do believe it is natural and also healthy in getting on and not leaving deep feelings to fester beneath the layers in the Soul or Mind.
truheart1941: I know ,how you feel my friend,...been there....still there after 5 years..like you i sit there..mum/dad/brother.......and talk to them....life seems so hollow now.....without them.its worse when your on your own.....to much time to think......
Life's hard, isn't it darling
So much loss and heartache, sometimes we have to wonder how we cope..
But we do, don't we
truheart1941: I know ,how you feel my friend,...been there....still there after 5 years..like you i sit there..mum/dad/brother.......and talk to them....life seems so hollow now.....without them.its worse when your on your own.....to much time to think......
And I you. I have always thought in my mind that this is not something that just goes away. Maybe people become more used to the feelings as time passed on but I don't expect that it will go away, or even that I would wish it to leave my mind. Being alone I think it is most likely that my mind seems to process it much differently than if I was around family and so on. I can tell you have felt this loss as well and my Heart goes out to you as well.
Yes, I saw my dad cry when his sister died at the age of 51.
Dragos1: And I you. I have always thought in my mind that this is not something that just goes away. Maybe people become more used to the feelings as time passed on but I don't expect that it will go away, or even that I would wish it to leave my mind. Being alone I think it is most likely that my mind seems to process it much differently than if I was around family and so on. I can tell you have felt this loss as well and my Heart goes out to you as well.
I so get this Dragos
As much as I've experienced the deaths of so many of my loved ones, I've not learned to do the 'just remember the good times' thing that people talk about
When I think of them, it's in terms of their passing, like a closed book so to speak
Dragos1: And I you. I have always thought in my mind that this is not something that just goes away. Maybe people become more used to the feelings as time passed on but I don't expect that it will go away, or even that I would wish it to leave my mind. Being alone I think it is most likely that my mind seems to process it much differently than if I was around family and so on. I can tell you have felt this loss as well and my Heart goes out to you as well.
It doesn't ever go away, we just learn to live with the heartache.
Much love to all those struggling at this time of year
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