I voted yes..... I think that if she shows the maturity to discuss the option of going on the pill,well then by consenting,you are showing a lot of trust and faith in her,and she will recognise that.And we all remember what is was like being a teenager,the more somebody tells you not to do something,the more determined you are to do it!!!Plus there may be peer pressure,maybe her friends are taking it,or saying that they are anyway... And my own daughter is 13 this year....cant wait for this convo to come up!!
I don't have a 13 year old daughter, but if I did, I WOULD consent. These kids are having kids! But I would strongly advise her that this does not protect her from STD'S!
bmcg1: I voted yes..... I think that if she shows the maturity to discuss the option of going on the pill,well then by consenting,you are showing a lot of trust and faith in her,and she will recognise that.And we all remember what is was like being a teenager,the more somebody tells you not to do something,the more determined you are to do it!!!Plus there may be peer pressure,maybe her friends are taking it,or saying that they are anyway... And my own daughter is 13 this year....cant wait for this convo to come up!!
Ok not a chance was probably too emphatic. I would certainly talk to her about it and find out the motivattion. I would also very strongly be against it. She is a child at 13 (to me) and I can only go by my experience in this matter. My 13 year old was too immature. I would try to reason with her and set targets if she was adamant she needed it and try to reason her out of her decision so that I could delay the inevitable. I just think, from my experience, 13 is too young and I would not be doing my job as a parent if I didnt really try to dissuade her.
I did a thread on this 2 years ago about my experiences in relation to this
The thing is the body AND hormones sometimes don´t get told the little guy or girl is ONLY 13!!!
Worked as a teacher in secondary schools (11 to 16 yr olds) and some 13 year old (and younger) girls are more like 16 going on 20 physically including all the hormonal changes and libido. Same for some of the boys.
On the other hand, other teens are about to leave school and still presenting the pysical appearance of a 12 year old (ish) without any hormonal changes or libido.
The emotional maturity might say "no", but the body says "yes"!!
And as a parent, who is still responsible (financially, including) for a child of such a tender age ... I would say Yes!
But... When you will get a job and your own apartment and a stable, happy relationship with a possible father of a child!
Great post! Times are changing but .. nobody hiring children of this age to work, they still consider them to be just a children, Who have to learn Life first and get ready for that life.
bodleingGreater Manchester, England UK13,810 posts
A local council here in the uk was in the news just a couple of weeks ago for giving 13 year old birth control implants without their parents knowledge.
Jantie: I agree. A lengthy discussion about STDs is a must ... it is far more important to prevent AIDS than prevent pregnancy
I agree with you!!
Apart from one bit ... they wouldn´t quite be preventing AIDS. They would be preventing HIV which although still incurable is now "containable" and doesn´t turn into AIDS.
AIDS however, is what can happen after someone has become infected with HIV and if it remains untreated, their immune system becomes depleted to such an extend that their body becomes raked with infections of all types, sometimes to the point of losing their life.
I´m not negating your message just the accuracy of the name AIDS in the context you use it. In other words, nobody can "catch" AIDS from someone else, they can however "catch" HIV.
trueheart1941brentwood essex, Essex, England UK8,005 posts
hi jono ....that was good to read.....no.joke......but how many people/teachers.........have put that much effort into doing this........as you have......and fellow speakers......
trueheart1941brentwood essex, Essex, England UK8,005 posts
hi jono ....that was good to read.....no.joke......but how many people/teachers.........have put that much effort into doing this........as you have......and fellow speakers......
Be the parent, NOT your kids best friend... Yeah, that is how it should be. But probably it is now easier said than done because children know they will have no consequences for not obeying their parents. That is a sad consequence from these games with individual liberties gone too far. Children don't know what they are doing at 13 and can't be allowed to do as they please. But as I said, it is easier said than done.
Jeeepers: Hi jono7. I sure wish that we had teachers like you when I was in school. Your students are very lucky.
thank you jeeps! but i don't think i'm different than most teachers now. (i know there are some exceptions..but that's the minority..and there's 'duds' in every profession...lol) things have really changed since you, and even longer ago, i, lol... were students in the public school system...
i think it's much harder now for youth. they have challenges we never even dreamed of.
joyaepace: Be the parent, NOT your kids best friend... Yeah, that is how it should be. But probably it is now easier said than done because children know they will have no consequences for not obeying their parents. That is a sad consequence from these games with individual liberties gone too far. Children don't know what they are doing at 13 and can't be allowed to do as they please. But as I said, it is easier said than done.
I have seen him performing in Halifax. This guy is hilarious. And by the way I do admire him for talking about something that he is not suppose to talk. Otherwise a Child Aid services will put him in a big troubles.
That's why, there was not a single response to you post. Because White people do not beat their children. They all begin to look like Ryan's mom
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WHEN YOUR. 13 YEAR OLD DAUGHTER claims she is ready for the birth control pill, do you consent?(Vote Below)