After 8 weeks He is still not sharing his pic after a couple of requests (56)
solsticemoon: Thats great if you are looking for a friend..no problem.
Personally if I'm looking for something deeper I need to see who Im talking to..its a fact of life, we dont need brad pitt but if I find nothing physically attractive about the person then it aint gonna happen..thats not shallow, just realistic!
So hun, if after 8 weeks youve not skyped , seen a pic or even msn'nd then I would say you are being led up the garden path by a scammer.
And to the lady that said some people struggle using a pc..hello, they got on the dating site and created a profile didnt they!
Personally if I'm looking for something deeper I need to see who Im talking to..its a fact of life, we dont need brad pitt but if I find nothing physically attractive about the person then it aint gonna happen..thats not shallow, just realistic!
So hun, if after 8 weeks youve not skyped , seen a pic or even msn'nd then I would say you are being led up the garden path by a scammer.
And to the lady that said some people struggle using a pc..hello, they got on the dating site and created a profile didnt they!
I'd still prefer to do it my way. I've known men in the professional world and in friendships who weren't in the handsome category but they had hearts of gold, knew how to show compassion and kindness. Men like that don't often get a second look and that's why I want to know what's inside the book rather then judging him by his cover.
A very special man on CS was in that category. He wasn't particularly handsome but he was kind, compassionate, had a sense of humor and knew how to raise people up when they were down. If his picture or name didn't show in a post, I would have still known who it was. R.I.P. Buddy ~~
montemonte: I'd still prefer to do it my way. I've known men in the professional world and in friendships who weren't in the handsome category but they had hearts of gold, knew how to show compassion and kindness. Men like that don't often get a second look and that's why I want to know what's inside the book rather then judging him by his cover.
A very special man on CS was in that category. He wasn't particularly handsome but he was kind, compassionate, had a sense of humor and knew how to raise people up when they were down. If his picture or name didn't show in a post, I would have still known who it was. R.I.P. Buddy ~~
A very special man on CS was in that category. He wasn't particularly handsome but he was kind, compassionate, had a sense of humor and knew how to raise people up when they were down. If his picture or name didn't show in a post, I would have still known who it was. R.I.P. Buddy ~~
Each to their own.
I disagree with you when you say a certain person wasnt handsome...Thats exactly what I mean when I say people have that "something"..Bud was a lovely guy with a glint in his eye , a soft spoken voice and a wonderful take on life...but I stand by what I said...its still nice to see whom youre talking to..otherwise scammer springs to mind..so please dont use this thread, or lady's question to discuss a totally different issue.
solsticemoon: Each to their own.
I disagree with you when you say a certain person wasnt handsome...Thats exactly what I mean when I say people have that "something"..Bud was a lovely guy with a glint in his eye , a soft spoken voice and a wonderful take on life...but I stand by what I said...its still nice to see whom youre talking to..otherwise scammer springs to mind..so please dont use this thread, or lady's question to discuss a totally different issue.
I disagree with you when you say a certain person wasnt handsome...Thats exactly what I mean when I say people have that "something"..Bud was a lovely guy with a glint in his eye , a soft spoken voice and a wonderful take on life...but I stand by what I said...its still nice to see whom youre talking to..otherwise scammer springs to mind..so please dont use this thread, or lady's question to discuss a totally different issue.
SOL, I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to see what someone looks like. I do think it's a bit naive to think that just because you know what a person looks like that they aren't a scammer.
Anyway, I'm glad to see you back in the house..
montemonte: SOL, I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to see what someone looks like. I do think it's a bit naive to think that just because you know what a person looks like that they aren't a scammer.
Anyway, I'm glad to see you back in the house..
Anyway, I'm glad to see you back in the house..
nice to see you too hun
but if after 8 weeks shes seen no pic or chatted on cam then Im sorry..scammer scammer scammer..and yes even with a pic n cam they can be scammers of a certain kind but this just screams it...I dont understand how people can be so daft!
solsticemoon: nice to see you too hun
but if after 8 weeks shes seen no pic or chatted on cam then Im sorry..scammer scammer scammer..and yes even with a pic n cam they can be scammers of a certain kind but this just screams it...I dont understand how people can be so daft!
but if after 8 weeks shes seen no pic or chatted on cam then Im sorry..scammer scammer scammer..and yes even with a pic n cam they can be scammers of a certain kind but this just screams it...I dont understand how people can be so daft!
Skype it is then!...
you're a scammer, no, you're a scammer 
uptall: Skype it is then!... you're a scammer, no, you're a scammer
pmsl..I know youre real chick, Autumn told me all about ya!
solsticemoon: pmsl..I know youre real chick, Autumn told me all about ya!
Well I took that as a given first time you all had a look at me..was it all good then!..hope you're not one for taking one side of a story
No one can be that bad!
solsticemoon: pmsl..I know youre real chick, Autumn told me all about ya!
hey long time chickaroo
I think you just need to move on and find the right person. He's not worth it.
Ok All, I DID IT!!!!! This Jersey Girl nicely gave him the boot 
Not meanly, not accusive, no drama, just told him the truth! Besides, the world gets real small sometimes...he was also stringing along a friend of mine on the same site here.
tsk-tsk-tsk! scold:
I better just stick to waiting to meet someone in the real world someday
Thank you all again for the push and advice, sometimes, I think we all get a little stuck!
Not meanly, not accusive, no drama, just told him the truth! Besides, the world gets real small sometimes...he was also stringing along a friend of mine on the same site here. tsk-tsk-tsk! scold:
I better just stick to waiting to meet someone in the real world someday
Thank you all again for the push and advice, sometimes, I think we all get a little stuck!
virgosingle: the worst thing about skype , is finding out the women at the other only wants to get off , and nothing more remember to do a re-verse ping on there email address to check-out their email addy to see if they are in the country they say they are in
Thanks, It appears he is in this country where he says he is, I just made it a whole lot easier and said bye! Sorry there are women doing that too, they should just be honest from the beginning, there are PLENTY of people for each and the others desires. Kind of leave alone the ones of us really being sincere. It's just the way of the world I suppose. Have a nice night!
Red flag for me I wouldnt push it I would just erase him
2Whitedoves: Thanks, It appears he is in this country where he says he is, I just made it a whole lot easier and said bye! Sorry there are women doing that too, they should just be honest from the beginning, there are PLENTY of people for each and the others desires. Kind of leave alone the ones of us really being sincere. It's just the way of the world I suppose. Have a nice night!
I'm happy you got that sorted out...no point corresponding with someone for weeks on end and spinning your wheels. Life is too short.
zasimom: As far as Skype, I can't even do that. Where I live there is only dial-up available. I also don't necessary want to give out my phone number to someone.
I never thought about that, but you're right. I would have to give out my home phone number to use Skype? Yikes! My family has also been extremely security concious. We have a chat function on here, and there's even a personal chat section within chat. I've also used Messenger, and I think Google has a chat function as well. All the person would need to do is ask for my IP number, and they would know I'm right here where I say I am.
To the woman who said, "Well, he was able to put up a profile", it's one thing to do a profile on here, but it's a whole different ballgame to put up a picture. Other sites make it super easy to upload photos. This site is absolutely the most difficult site I have ever been on, as far as uploading photos, and even worse for uploading videos. I literally had many people on her trying to help me upload even one picture, and after heaven knows how long I was finally able to get a picture up.
2Whitedoves: Thanks, It appears he is in this country where he says he is, I just made it a whole lot easier and said bye! Sorry there are women doing that too, they should just be honest from the beginning, there are PLENTY of people for each and the others desires. Kind of leave alone the ones of us really being sincere. It's just the way of the world I suppose. Have a nice night!
If I had been that guy, 2whitedoves would have had anything she wanted. "Yes, dear. Right away, hon. Whatever you want is fine with me, sweetie."
maybe u can get his picture on discovery channel or animal planet.
I have to get my daughter to sort out pics for me, I currently don't have sound, a webcam and my computer freezes at the mere sniff of moving pictures.
Its entirely possible that your friend is as much of a techno-twit as I am and has other priorities right now.
There's nothing wrong with taking things slowly, as long as you recognise (and so does he) you're at a friendship stage and that is unlikely to change for as long as you're working within these restricted parameters.
Its entirely possible that your friend is as much of a techno-twit as I am and has other priorities right now.
There's nothing wrong with taking things slowly, as long as you recognise (and so does he) you're at a friendship stage and that is unlikely to change for as long as you're working within these restricted parameters.
jac379: I have to get my daughter to sort out pics for me, I currently don't have sound, a webcam and my computer freezes at the mere sniff of moving pictures.
Its entirely possible that your friend is as much of a techno-twit as I am and has other priorities right now.
There's nothing wrong with taking things slowly, as long as you recognise (and so does he) you're at a friendship stage and that is unlikely to change for as long as you're working within these restricted parameters.
Its entirely possible that your friend is as much of a techno-twit as I am and has other priorities right now.
There's nothing wrong with taking things slowly, as long as you recognise (and so does he) you're at a friendship stage and that is unlikely to change for as long as you're working within these restricted parameters.
Jac is always so sensible in her answers. This is a great post.
jac379: I have to get my daughter to sort out pics for me, I currently don't have sound, a webcam and my computer freezes at the mere sniff of moving pictures.
Its entirely possible that your friend is as much of a techno-twit as I am and has other priorities right now.
There's nothing wrong with taking things slowly, as long as you recognise (and so does he) you're at a friendship stage and that is unlikely to change for as long as you're working within these restricted parameters.
Its entirely possible that your friend is as much of a techno-twit as I am and has other priorities right now.
There's nothing wrong with taking things slowly, as long as you recognise (and so does he) you're at a friendship stage and that is unlikely to change for as long as you're working within these restricted parameters.
nice post jac
i happen to have a buddha thing on my phone, and today's message is:
There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up relations.
as i read it, i thought how sad that we have become so accustomed to a media frenzy of fear mongering that we are so quick to jump to negative conclusions..
and then i wondered how many folks ended up single because they let their fears keep them from pursuing their dreams.
dunno...just thinkin' out loud...
anyhoo.. just wanted to say nice post.
jono7: nice post jac
i happen to have a buddha thing on my phone, and today's message is:
There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up relations.
as i read it, i thought how sad that we have become so accustomed to a media frenzy of fear mongering that we are so quick to jump to negative conclusions..
and then i wondered how many folks ended up single because they let their fears keep them from pursuing their dreams.
dunno...just thinkin' out loud...
anyhoo.. just wanted to say nice post.
i happen to have a buddha thing on my phone, and today's message is:
There is nothing more dreadful than the habit of doubt. Doubt separates people. It is a poison that disintegrates friendships and breaks up relations.
as i read it, i thought how sad that we have become so accustomed to a media frenzy of fear mongering that we are so quick to jump to negative conclusions..
and then i wondered how many folks ended up single because they let their fears keep them from pursuing their dreams.
dunno...just thinkin' out loud...
anyhoo.. just wanted to say nice post.
Thankyou, and to Huggerman, too.
The idea of the Bhudda phone has tickled me. Imagine being confronted with deep and meaningful stuff, but feeling like, "I don't care one hoot about your blasted philosophy! I'm trying to ring the taxman and I WANT HIM DEAD!!! Mwah ha ha!" Buddha sounds like good venting material, if you ask me and I'm sure he'd be thrilled at the prospect of saving lives.
I'm inclined to agree with Mr.B on this occasion, though. Its one thing being aware of pitfalls and questioning that which life presents to you, but another entirely if set prejudices are our default modes.
Its not just a case of singledom being affected by our fears (and there are fates worse than being single). I've just set the ball rolling for some major life changes. Setting the ball rolling involved me doing a headless chicken impression for a number of weeks, such was my anxiety about stepping out of my comfort zone, but having done it (and succeeded in initiating my cunning plan, yippee yi yay), once again I come back to one of my favourite personal philosophies - the fear of doing something is invariably worse than actually doing it.
The biggest hurdle with relationships as I see it, is getting over the fear of the potential for hurt. We need the confidence in ourselves whereby we know we are able to deal with the poo hitting the fan, if it does, and that we will be alright.
2Whitedoves: Gosh, I thought this was one of the genuine men here, after MANY hours and hours of typing, when it came to the pic and me questioning it, he was really offended. I am a very peaceful woman...do I press on, or leaveit alone? Hmmmmm
this reminds me of my poll a few weeks ago.... go back and look at the advice you and other people gave me... then make a decision.
2Whitedoves: Gosh, I thought this was one of the genuine men here, after MANY hours and hours of typing, when it came to the pic and me questioning it, he was really offended. I am a very peaceful woman...do I press on, or leaveit alone? Hmmmmm
I've only read the first page of replies...
What in the world possessed you to correspond with this guy?? Please don't waste any more of your time and lose him.
Are you kidding when you say that he claimed only his daughter can download the pic? Even if that was true, then I'm sure that within a week, she could have done it for him and showed him how.
Maybe he won't show you the picture because he's got a big "L" tattooed on his forehead
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Thats great if you are looking for a friend..no problem.
Personally if I'm looking for something deeper I need to see who Im talking to..its a fact of life, we dont need brad pitt but if I find nothing physically attractive about the person then it aint gonna happen..thats not shallow, just realistic!
So hun, if after 8 weeks youve not skyped , seen a pic or even msn'nd then I would say you are being led up the garden path by a scammer.
And to the lady that said some people struggle using a pc..hello, they got on the dating site and created a profile didnt they!