Do you think culturel similarity is important in relationship? ( Archived) (29)

value & perception etc. > cultural

Cultural similarity is not essential if their ideas, attitudes and behaviours are similar to each other. But cultural similarity has a positive effect on them.

sometimes it does

some things in this life are not shared universally by all cultures. If one of those this is really important to you its going to be difficult to be with someone who thinks is silly
or unnecessary
or unimportant
or barbaric
or disgusting

I believe religious similarity is though.

I would never date a non Christian. I want my kids to be raised Christian.

So many marry because they are attracted to one another and then try to figure things out as they go along. That's why so many divorce.

Religion, how to handle money, where to live, how many kids, if you are going to have kids; are all important things that rarely get talked about anymore, but they should be.

I totally disagree. In some cultures women are not equal and the man's word and decisions are more important than women. In some cultures kids are told who to date, who to marry and who to spend time with. "honor" killings are seen all over the world.

Opposites attract has NOTHING to do with cultures, it has to do with personalities. I don't believe in many of the cultures ways and customs and would not allow those types of thoughts in my immediate life so yes, cultural differences do matter.

Cultural differences matter to me - I wouldn't date outside my cultural background. Been there, done that.

It's sure a wise thing to study the marriage/divorce and custody laws of the other culture

I aqnswered maybe because it depends of the combination
of ppl , cultures and their surroundings.

Hmm.. good question.

One can make a case either way.

I was married to someone from a different culture and it worked fine. We shared the same core values and that trumps cultural precepts. I would not argue on the basis that opposites attract, but on the basis that if the core values are the same, it can and does work.

On the flipside, many people don't really think things through before they get involved. They don't familiarize themselves enough or deep enough with who the other person is, who their family are, their siblings, etc. their environment and so on. They think love conquers all, but it rarely does. The external pressure can be too much esp. if one person is caught in the middle between what the family wants and what you want.

Definitely something that must be discussed and not just cursory, imo.

Agree, that discussed & talk need it in any relations. Will be good if between a couple who have different culture can find good solution in between of culture different.
Thought won't easy or simple but guess we all different but we learn for it.

Well I think it does; a lot. What if a western woman dates someone from the middle east or another country where men are viewed as more important with more rights and thoughts as women. No way should a woman tolerate that.

I think religious is also important. If you are Christian and you want your kids to be brought up Christians, but you marry an atheist or muslim person who wants to have kids that believe like they do, then you have some serious issues.

Religion, to have kids and how many, how to handle money, where to live, etc... are all important things before marrying or dating seriously. Most though just date someone because they have the hots for them and when it gets serious, they then try to figure things out as they go along and that doesn't work.

I agree with you.

That is why I said, the core values must be the same. The things you mentioned are very important to discuss before one gets serious. No question about it.

In my case, our opinions on those issues were the same even though we come from different countries/cultures. One thing that hasn't been mentioned in the discussion is intellectual compatibility. It's not p.c. to talk about it, but it matters a great deal, esp. when it comes to discussing such important issues.

I think the resolution of any cultural differences is extremely important in a long term relationship, this along with language are extremely important to prevent any misunderstandings.

Proficiency in a common language is extremely important especially if the involved persons enjoy conversing about a wide range of topics.

Whereas these issues may not be important in a short term coupling, for the long term they are a must, and must be resolved .