Would you marry someone with a handicap/disability (159)
venusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 PostsIt depends on the disability really, Im not into a mental handicap/disorder. No offence but Im not equipped to deal with that. Or something that caused impotency would definately throw a wrench into the works... 
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errr.....did you get the wrong take-away delivered ????
Kaybee50: I would love to say "Yes" to this question, but I suppose it depends on what it is.
My last serious relationship, I thought he was the "One". The first few months were nothing short of the stuff that novels are written about. And then from one day to the next, he changed radically. He would withdraw from me physically and emotionally for a week or two at a time. It was confusing, took a hit on my self-esteem, and it was madness trying to make sense out of something that didn't make sense.
After a week or two, he'd be "Himself" again and everything is rosy again, until he would drop out on me again. This cycle lasted for several months, our relationship deteroriated, I was in such pain and it got to the point that when he was Himself again, it was just too painful to brush it all under the rug.
He was on meds for depression, but I've known enough people with bi-polar disorder to believe this is what was going on. I loved him and it took quite some time, and a whole lot of courage, to go on a date after that.
My last serious relationship, I thought he was the "One". The first few months were nothing short of the stuff that novels are written about. And then from one day to the next, he changed radically. He would withdraw from me physically and emotionally for a week or two at a time. It was confusing, took a hit on my self-esteem, and it was madness trying to make sense out of something that didn't make sense.
After a week or two, he'd be "Himself" again and everything is rosy again, until he would drop out on me again. This cycle lasted for several months, our relationship deteroriated, I was in such pain and it got to the point that when he was Himself again, it was just too painful to brush it all under the rug.
He was on meds for depression, but I've known enough people with bi-polar disorder to believe this is what was going on. I loved him and it took quite some time, and a whole lot of courage, to go on a date after that.
Sounds Scary!
justjim63: I have PTSD a mental condition, does that make me unlovable? i hope not
You're lovable for me ...
I think there are many things to take into consideration.
Are our IQ's similar?
Are they able to manage a psychiatric illness with medication?
Can I afford to retrofit my home to accommodate their disability?
Can they contribute financially?
I'm sure there are many other questions I have never thought of.
Are our IQ's similar?
Are they able to manage a psychiatric illness with medication?
Can I afford to retrofit my home to accommodate their disability?
Can they contribute financially?
I'm sure there are many other questions I have never thought of.
cause being handycaped doesnt matter its whats inside the person what counts
To be honest no I wouldn't.
as someone who's been there i can say that a large percentage of the able-bodied would not.
I am particularly attracted to turets.
HollyHollywood: I am particularly attracted to turets.
My son in law has Tourette's. Only those close him know about it.
Getting to the marriage stakes is somewhat down the line.........so I doubt very much that I would even start dating someone with a handicap/disability.
I think the question should be ''would you date''
I would not date someone if I knew they have a mental problems such as depression, for me it would drag me down... and neither could I cope with the ups and downs of someones mood..
as for other disabilities, well it depended what it was.. I couldnt date a man once as he had a really strange looking amputated toe.. and looking at it turned my stomach...
and why people have to comment about how ''shallow'' others are, no they are just being honest with what they want or could cope with...
I would not date someone if I knew they have a mental problems such as depression, for me it would drag me down... and neither could I cope with the ups and downs of someones mood..
as for other disabilities, well it depended what it was.. I couldnt date a man once as he had a really strange looking amputated toe.. and looking at it turned my stomach...
and why people have to comment about how ''shallow'' others are, no they are just being honest with what they want or could cope with...
Kim431: That is discriminating against us who are disabled and yes I am talking about me, you people make me sick
Looks like you have to deal with your demons.....no offence meant from my corner.
Kim431: Look lady I am disabled so how dare you judge us, we are humans too so take your comments and stick them where the sun does not shine
No need to be offended-negative creates negative. Your worth is greater than that, and positivity attracts.
Kim431: That is discriminating against us who are disabled and yes I am talking about me, you people make me sick
so you want someone to say yes, when they mean no?.... I also have no problem with people with disabilities, I would not stop having them as friends.... BUT I just would not want to date one (again depending what the disability was) I think I would struggle to date someone in a wheelchair, or who was blind/deaf..
Hostility breeds hostility, whether its deliberate, or not.
Its up to each of us how we choose to react.
Personally, I choose to pick the pink hairs off of my jumper and be done with it.
Its up to each of us how we choose to react.
Personally, I choose to pick the pink hairs off of my jumper and be done with it.
Kim431: And another thing, I have a guy friend in a wheelchair who is married to his wife who is not disabled at all so stick that where the sun does not shine
I see your are as charming as ever lol. I have said it to you before, your biggest disability is the chip on your shoulder.
It all depends. I try to give anyone a chance.
There are people who do well with their meds, are successful, etc. In fact they may be happier than those that are considered normal.
As for the one who is shooting off at us with her mouth because she have a disability, you've gotten into a rant. People would not react to you if you tried to make your point calmly. Now you have sunk your boat. Guys run from ranting women whether they are disabled or not. Women here don't need to read your words either, so hateful. It's not good for your health.
Was it necessary to tell someone to stick it where the sun doesn't shine? At least that one didn't have cuss words.
The Dobe
There are people who do well with their meds, are successful, etc. In fact they may be happier than those that are considered normal.
As for the one who is shooting off at us with her mouth because she have a disability, you've gotten into a rant. People would not react to you if you tried to make your point calmly. Now you have sunk your boat. Guys run from ranting women whether they are disabled or not. Women here don't need to read your words either, so hateful. It's not good for your health.
Was it necessary to tell someone to stick it where the sun doesn't shine? At least that one didn't have cuss words.
The Dobe
She's certainly not helping her cause..
As to the question at hand....
No, I wouldn't. And that's not prejudice or discrimination, it's honesty.
I wouldn't because I already have a severely disabled son and there's enough stress right there thanks very much.
Guess that debunks any prejudice
As to the question at hand....
No, I wouldn't. And that's not prejudice or discrimination, it's honesty.
I wouldn't because I already have a severely disabled son and there's enough stress right there thanks very much.
Guess that debunks any prejudice
EratoTheMuse: She's certainly not helping her cause..
As to the question at hand....
No, I wouldn't. And that's not prejudice or discrimination, it's honesty.
I wouldn't because I already have a severely disabled son and there's enough stress right there thanks very much.
Guess that debunks any prejudice
As to the question at hand....
No, I wouldn't. And that's not prejudice or discrimination, it's honesty.
I wouldn't because I already have a severely disabled son and there's enough stress right there thanks very much.
Guess that debunks any prejudice
Does being differently abled automatically result in extra (extra as in more than regularly abled) stressful situations?
Automatically? maybe not....I just know I have enough on my plate in that regard. Is it a crime to say....I have enough on my plate and wouldn't wish to take on more? It's honesty....crucify me for not lying and pretending it wouldn't matter lol
And angry lady...yes you did.
And angry lady...yes you did.
Kim431: I had every right to get mad, keep your comments to yourself
Perhaps you do, but you have no reason to, not at what hoolet said anyway. You really are coming off as a horrible person.
well that will learn me for posting before morning coffee.....delete the "yes you did" and replace with "no you didn't" LOL
Very good comment.
As for your situation, your stand is understandable. I recently saw a child in a wheelchair. He was the sweetest kid. I'm not sure what was wrong. But he won the hearts of the waitresses and mine. I was able to say hello to him and he smiled. I almost cried, he touched me so.
I hope you get some relief from your stress.
I have a Cousin A who was not given enough air at birth and is challenged. She also touches me with her personality, I can't believe she is 40 something. She likes to knit, loves cats, etc. She is also diabetic, and has a rare disease where calcium forms on top of your skin. It prevents alot of movement. They have finally found someone who has done research on this disease to help her. Just why did all of this have to happen to her?
She does have a gift. You tell her someone's birthday. If you ask her what day was the person's birthday 7 years ago, she knows the answer, and tells you. She has not been wrong yet.
The Dobe
As for your situation, your stand is understandable. I recently saw a child in a wheelchair. He was the sweetest kid. I'm not sure what was wrong. But he won the hearts of the waitresses and mine. I was able to say hello to him and he smiled. I almost cried, he touched me so.
I hope you get some relief from your stress.
I have a Cousin A who was not given enough air at birth and is challenged. She also touches me with her personality, I can't believe she is 40 something. She likes to knit, loves cats, etc. She is also diabetic, and has a rare disease where calcium forms on top of your skin. It prevents alot of movement. They have finally found someone who has done research on this disease to help her. Just why did all of this have to happen to her?
She does have a gift. You tell her someone's birthday. If you ask her what day was the person's birthday 7 years ago, she knows the answer, and tells you. She has not been wrong yet.
The Dobe
Am I barking up the wrong tree to think something was aimed at me???
If it was aimed at me, twittle dee, lamp chop. I'd say you have more than one disability. Disability to form answers without hostility.
There is enough in this world as it is without you getting on board.
Maybe join some group to help out other disabled people and use your anger there instead of here.
The Dobe, finished darlings. I don't want to be shot down again, it's such a bore.
If it was aimed at me, twittle dee, lamp chop. I'd say you have more than one disability. Disability to form answers without hostility.
There is enough in this world as it is without you getting on board.
Maybe join some group to help out other disabled people and use your anger there instead of here.
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