Would you date someone who was more than 50 pounds overweight? (116)
unlaoised: I'm with you on this. I don't like cuddling bones, they hurt
ok, i'm confessing now, i have meat !! i'm not a stick i'm a trunk..
skippyguy: ok, i'm confessing now, i have meat !! i'm not a stick i'm a trunk..
I have few over weighted friends and have no problem befriending people with weight issues, but when it comes to relationship I will pass. And it is not just because of the looks but the fact that they are careless about their health and in a way disrespect themselves (unless it is related to some illness of course).
50 pounds is nearly 23kg and it is too much for me to accept.
50 pounds is nearly 23kg and it is too much for me to accept.
skippyguy: ok, i'm confessing now, i have meat !! i'm not a stick i'm a trunk..
That works, Skip
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What's the difference? that all I have to say about this poll.
What's the difference? that all I have to say about this poll.
JeanKimberley: What's the difference? that all I have to say about this poll.
Love it.
unlaoised: Ah no, I don't mean that much overweight. I like big men but not so big his health suffers
I know, you seem like a smart woman 
Happygolucky4u: I know, you seem like a smart woman
Likewise, Happy
Merriweather: Hey ah HappyGirl... I can just see you skipping down the road... I applaud you for your honesty, and good decision...
I don't mind a bloke with a bit of weight... but I will be honest and say, in general... fat turns me off..
but muscle and taut... great ...
I love to skip Merri! I can really get it going....you would be surprised at the people who try and skip after seeing me, they tell me they had not skipped in decades. Give it a whirl one day. Morning (in my area) I don't mind a bloke with a bit of weight... but I will be honest and say, in general... fat turns me off..
but muscle and taut... great ...
Happygolucky4u: I love to skip Merri! I can really get it going....you would be surprised at the people who try and skip after seeing me, they tell me they had not skipped in decades. Give it a whirl one day. Morning (in my area)
You have me smiling...
I had not skipped in years... and then along came quickstep.. and it was a dance we had to learn..(you know for the ballroom comps I did)
There is a lot of skipping in that dance... Felt good actually..
Merriweather: You have me smiling...
I had not skipped in years... and then along came quickstep.. and it was a dance we had to learn..(you know for the ballroom comps I did)
There is a lot of skipping in that dance... Felt good actually..
Some of those dances are like an arobic work out. I had not skipped in years... and then along came quickstep.. and it was a dance we had to learn..(you know for the ballroom comps I did)
There is a lot of skipping in that dance... Felt good actually..
Happygolucky4u: Some of those dances are like an arobic work out.
I know... lol.
and I sort of miss that sweating part... you know... the bit where you are so sweaty, and as you spin, the sweat spins off you...
but hey, re the skipping, it was good fun...
( it doesn't sounds so good writing it.. but it felt good at the time.)
Merriweather: Oh... roughly 76 kilos... that would be about right for your age, height??
but really, only yourself knows how you feel with that weight.. so if you feel you would like to be lighter, go for it..
but really, only yourself knows how you feel with that weight.. so if you feel you would like to be lighter, go for it..
I`m more than happy as I am
friends say they wouldn't be able to find me on a wheres wally page
If someone were breathless and had trouble walking because they had asthma, how would people feel about continuing, or ending a relationship on those grounds?
danieljosh: I`m more than happy as I am
friends say they wouldn't be able to find me on a wheres wally page
friends say they wouldn't be able to find me on a wheres wally page
Good to hear you are happy with your self...
I know I am with myself too...
jac379: If someone were breathless and had trouble walking because they had asthma, how would people feel about continuing, or ending a relationship on those grounds?
Hi Jac...
To reply truthfully... I would not start one ...
I recently twice knocked back a drop dead gorgeous guy, because he had sore knees, and could not walk distances... and even tho he suggested, that I walk and he would drive behind me...
I sorta still said No..
Don't look at me like that.... I am being truthful...
Merriweather: Hi Jac... To reply truthfully... I would not start one ...I recently twice knocked back a drop dead gorgeous guy, because he had sore knees, and could not walk distances... and even tho he suggested, that I walk and he would drive behind me...
I sorta still said No..
Don't look at me like that.... I am being truthful...
I sorta still said No..
Don't look at me like that.... I am being truthful...
I'm not looking at you like anything, Merri.
I was just curious about how people perceive health.
jac379: I'm not looking at you like anything, Merri.
I was just curious about how people perceive health.
I was just curious about how people perceive health.
Well alright then Jac.. so how about I flip the question right backatcha... what would you do..??
Merriweather: Well alright then Jac.. so how about I flip the question right backatcha... what would you do..??
If I really liked someone and they had a health issue? Work round it.
Athletes can end up unwell, or debilitated. Life is fragile and there are no guarantees for anyone.
I was more interested in how we perceive ill-health in different circumstances, though. Are weight issues perceived more like mental health issues than physical ones? Do we view people as being at fault if they're over-weight? Do we expect people to just pull themselves together without addressing any underlying issues, like we do with mental illness?
skippyguy: Really !!! i think it just depends how you cuddle
I have a major in cuddling skippy.
jac379: If someone were breathless and had trouble walking because they had asthma, how would people feel about continuing, or ending a relationship on those grounds?
That's a completely different scenario. We're discussing overweight in this case
unlaoised: Hiya K Exactly I like men with a bit of meat on him too
I have a bit of meat on me...I workout almost everyday BTW
so of course a reasonably fit man who is a little bigger is fine...thin men are fine too...I am not that picky about this metric
jac379: If I really liked someone and they had a health issue? Work round it.
Athletes can end up unwell, or debilitated. Life is fragile and there are no guarantees for anyone.
I was more interested in how we perceive ill-health in different circumstances, though. Are weight issues perceived more like mental health issues than physical ones? Do we view people as being at fault if they're over-weight? Do we expect people to just pull themselves together without addressing any underlying issues, like we do with mental illness?
Athletes can end up unwell, or debilitated. Life is fragile and there are no guarantees for anyone.
I was more interested in how we perceive ill-health in different circumstances, though. Are weight issues perceived more like mental health issues than physical ones? Do we view people as being at fault if they're over-weight? Do we expect people to just pull themselves together without addressing any underlying issues, like we do with mental illness?
these are good questions Jac because it is both a physical and a psychological issue for the grossly overweight. For those who are a little overweight maybe not so much a mental issue as a physical (not enough excercise or a few changes in eating habits IF they want to lose weight). For the grossly overweight, control of weight can be a very serious health issue. Overeating (for anyone not just the overweight) is usually a psychological issue or a lifestyle issue. IMO
skippyguy: Really !!! i think it just depends how you cuddle
So true!
I have dated overweight men. I, too, prefer a little meat on the bones.
Obese and unhealthy does not do it for me however.
22kgs overweight? I like tall men, so that would put him in the 110-130kg bracket....yep...I could definitely manage that...
Obese and unhealthy does not do it for me however.
22kgs overweight? I like tall men, so that would put him in the 110-130kg bracket....yep...I could definitely manage that...
I have dated overweight men. I, too, prefer a little meat on the bones.
Obese and unhealthy does not do it for me however.
22kgs overweight? I like tall men, so that would put him in the 110-130kg bracket....yep...I could definitely manage that...
Obese and unhealthy does not do it for me however.
22kgs overweight? I like tall men, so that would put him in the 110-130kg bracket....yep...I could definitely manage that...
I seem to be hiccuping all over the show with my postings lately.
jac379: If I really liked someone and they had a health issue? Work round it.
Athletes can end up unwell, or debilitated. Life is fragile and there are no guarantees for anyone.
I was more interested in how we perceive ill-health in different circumstances, though. Are weight issues perceived more like mental health issues than physical ones? Do we view people as being at fault if they're over-weight? Do we expect people to just pull themselves together without addressing any underlying issues, like we do with mental illness?
Athletes can end up unwell, or debilitated. Life is fragile and there are no guarantees for anyone.
I was more interested in how we perceive ill-health in different circumstances, though. Are weight issues perceived more like mental health issues than physical ones? Do we view people as being at fault if they're over-weight? Do we expect people to just pull themselves together without addressing any underlying issues, like we do with mental illness?
Excellent questions! While the OP's poll is obviously as rigged as a voting booth in Cleveland, many of the comments here are great.
These are questions we should all ask ourselves.
felixis99: these are good questions Jac because it is both a physical and a psychological issue for the grossly overweight. For those who are a little overweight maybe not so much a mental issue as a physical (not enough excercise or a few changes in eating habits IF they want to lose weight). For the grossly overweight, control of weight can be a very serious health issue. Overeating (for anyone not just the overweight) is usually a psychological issue or a lifestyle issue. IMO
Okay, I'm going to fiddle about with language a little here. Bear with me Felix.
I wasn't trying to imply that being overweight is a mental health issue. I'm not sure I like the term 'mental health' anyway. I do think weight may have it's roots in psychological, or emotional issues very often, regardless of amount of weight, or in which direction, over, or under.
I was more digging around in terms of how we perceive, value, or even judge people based upon weight. It strikes me, if someone ditched their partner because they had a physical illness, the public reaction would perhaps be different than if someone ditched their partner because they had a mental health issue, or if they changed weight. I wonder if we perceive physical illness as being faultless, but mental health and weight as being totally and easily within our self-control.
I'm just curious about the way we perceive these things and how that may impact upon choosing partners.
And like yourself, Felix, I'm not that concerned about this metric. If I like someone, I'm gonna value everything that comes with them.
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Will keep that in Mind !