should a profile pic be compulsary on a dating site. ? ( Archived) (61)

Hows about a picture of the person on profile and also a picture of there Mother as well ,so we know what were facing in the future .

It is someone's choice to not display a profile pic, and it is someone's choice who to talk to and not to talk to.

I had mainly messers contacting me with no or fake pics, I won't chat with anyone like that.

Yes, if you wanna date...

No, if you wanna rant & rave on forums & blogs....

Exactly my opinion on this topic...

I think that if you are that concerned about your privacy and people knowing that you are seeking companionship or a partner, then your decision to join an internet dating site and try to put yourself out there was, at best, dumb and poorly considered. You are way too insecure about yourself and who you are and not ready yet to jump into the pool.

That addresses the privacy issue. Other more 'first impression' reasons to not post your own photo range from, a scammer, someone already in a relationship but trying to cheat, someone whose profile was already deleted by the website owners for good cause, but who is behaving like a juvenile or a crazy person and back again with a new fake profile and believes if I don't show the old photo, they won't suspect it is me (LoL to that by the 5th post), someone really immature (see privacy issue above).

There is an old, old, excuse we used to see. "I don't know how to put my picture up," or "I don't have a digital camera." Today of course we instantly know this is total BS as 1) very few humans still use only a tower type PC to go online as almost all cell phones and tablets and laptops made today have the capability. 2) The camera with film industry is almost dead. Digital killed it (indeed even the day of the stand alone digital camera is almost over as more and more photos are being taken by the cell phone). 3) No one anymore makes a cell phone that lacks a digital camera. The reality is the most technically inept user here on CS is perfectly capable of (and a search here shows many do) standing in front of a mirror while taking a picture of themselves then uploading it as part of their profile.

Do I respond to outreach from those with no pic or even look at their profiles when searching? No to both. IME one of the reasons cited above applies to that person, so I will let them write someone else.

I hope the men don't all turn into their mothers!

@ Ken. Really, you think this is a new fake profile? Strange that I would keep the same name I suppose you didn't notice that in your haste to post that.

You did but you didn't

Actually I have no idea who you are, nor is there any kind of reason why I would have paid any attention to who wrote what. You have some ego issues too I see or else why would you expect me to recall a picture someone calling themselves mzetoile may have had up at some time in the past?

Regarding your question. Not necessarily. Please note that I offered reasons other than simply being a fake profile. Immaturity, insecurity, psychological issues, etc. Whichever one applies, I don't care. I don't waste time initiating contacts with those profiles without pictures. I couldn't personally care less which of the reasons I wrote apply. However all of them are good reasons to pass on by that profile, or just click the little Search box that says only show profiles with pictures.

I have reluctantly posted a photo due to the inability of the in-house e-mails to accept a simple drop in photo from one's files to send via request and/ or exchange. Otherwise it would necessitate the exchange of actual e-mail addresses by both parties, which I am extremely leery of doing ; obvious first reason being that the other person just may be mentally disturbed enough to cause 'problems' at some point, never mind that their photo may be totally phoney.
One must do what they can to both retain privacy and some level of security from all the varying degrees of psychos that infest these sites and our streets...

Should profile pics be compulsary?


No


I've had plenty of conversation with people on here who have no pic up.
If someone is really who they say who they are then you should have no problem about sharing one with whom they are talking to through private message.

Hi Ccincy.
I think in about two years I have received about 5 emails here from profiles with no picture. I have no idea what was in them. I just blocked the sender and deleted it.

Noting also today looking at my blocked list, there are no names which strongly implies the accounts were deleted, which also implies my suspicions of those accounts were well founded.