should a profile pic be compulsary on a dating site. ? (61)
lookinforhappycork, Cork Ireland33 Threads 15 Polls 993 Postsshell1964: I agree with you there is lots of reasons why people dont have there pics on here i have chatted with someone here before who had there own buisness and didnt want his pic for everyone to see for buisness reasons so he sent me his pic to my phone.. and also met someone like you say had an old pic and when i went to meet him i didnt recognize him i think everyone has the right to make there profile the way they want pic or not as long as there a real person and live where they say they do..
i am real and live in the real world.
lookinforhappy: i am real and live in the real world.
Ken_19: I think that if you are that concerned about your privacy and people knowing that you are seeking companionship or a partner, then your decision to join an internet dating site and try to put yourself out there was, at best, dumb and poorly considered. You are way too insecure about yourself and who you are and not ready yet to jump into the pool.
That addresses the privacy issue. Other more 'first impression' reasons to not post your own photo range from, a scammer, someone already in a relationship but trying to cheat, someone whose profile was already deleted by the website owners for good cause, but who is behaving like a juvenile or a crazy person and back again with a new fake profile and believes if I don't show the old photo, they won't suspect it is me #LoL to that by the 5th post#, someone really immature #see privacy issue above#.
There is an old, old, excuse we used to see. "I don't know how to put my picture up," or "I don't have a digital camera." Today of course we instantly know this is total BS as 1# very few humans still use only a tower type PC to go online as almost all cell phones and tablets and laptops made today have the capability. 2) The camera with film industry is almost dead. Digital killed it #indeed even the day of the stand alone digital camera is almost over as more and more photos are being taken by the cell phone#. 3) No one anymore makes a cell phone that lacks a digital camera. The reality is the most technically inept user here on CS is perfectly capable of #and a search here shows many do# standing in front of a mirror while taking a picture of themselves then uploading it as part of their profile.
Do I respond to outreach from those with no pic or even look at their profiles when searching? No to both. IME one of the reasons cited above applies to that person, so I will let them write someone else.
That addresses the privacy issue. Other more 'first impression' reasons to not post your own photo range from, a scammer, someone already in a relationship but trying to cheat, someone whose profile was already deleted by the website owners for good cause, but who is behaving like a juvenile or a crazy person and back again with a new fake profile and believes if I don't show the old photo, they won't suspect it is me #LoL to that by the 5th post#, someone really immature #see privacy issue above#.
There is an old, old, excuse we used to see. "I don't know how to put my picture up," or "I don't have a digital camera." Today of course we instantly know this is total BS as 1# very few humans still use only a tower type PC to go online as almost all cell phones and tablets and laptops made today have the capability. 2) The camera with film industry is almost dead. Digital killed it #indeed even the day of the stand alone digital camera is almost over as more and more photos are being taken by the cell phone#. 3) No one anymore makes a cell phone that lacks a digital camera. The reality is the most technically inept user here on CS is perfectly capable of #and a search here shows many do# standing in front of a mirror while taking a picture of themselves then uploading it as part of their profile.
Do I respond to outreach from those with no pic or even look at their profiles when searching? No to both. IME one of the reasons cited above applies to that person, so I will let them write someone else.
re- ....dumb, insecure,scammer,cheater,juevenile,mad person,was deleted,fake profile, anybody may have some, NONE , all, of those traits etc., whether they have a profile pic posted or not.
are u for real.
Onlyguy: should profile pics be compulsary .?
Yes, especially if they're wanted
Yes, especially if they're wanted
wanted ???
.dem fellas barred from cs .
jt3jo: Yes. Otherwise you are hiding something. Grace for the likes of nurses.
nurses:)?........bless em
Posting a picture it's a personal choice and it shouldn't be compulsary.
You could never be sure it's a fake picture you're viewing!
Some people are perhaps too shy posting their pictures. Lots of people feel uncomfortable being on a dating site and it could also be their first time on a dating site.
Blocking or deleting people without a picture automathically might also mean you're deleting a potential life partner!
A scammer it's very easy to spot and they usually have very beautiful pictures!
You could never be sure it's a fake picture you're viewing!
Some people are perhaps too shy posting their pictures. Lots of people feel uncomfortable being on a dating site and it could also be their first time on a dating site.
Blocking or deleting people without a picture automathically might also mean you're deleting a potential life partner!
A scammer it's very easy to spot and they usually have very beautiful pictures!
uptall: Don't worry I know where it would be
I just read this whilst drinking a cuppa..and it projectiled across the floor!
I warned you not to make me laugh when I have something in my mouth
Frankly, I am amused more than once by 'dearest beloved' in the first email. Leave us never forget the classic, 'distance doesn't matter.'
I would say no. I don' t know of any dating sites off the top of my head that make having a picture as a part of a profile mandatory. Even if I was in administration and could make that call, I would say no.
Ken_19: Frankly, I am amused more than once by 'dearest beloved' in the first email. Leave us never forget the classic, 'distance doesn't matter.'
.... and 'age is just a number'.
Brianebartlett: I've been asking that question in my own poll in here, and yes, I think that they should be mandatory, if you place a profile in here, why shouldn't a photo also be inserted with it...if you're willing to tell about yourself...providing the information you tell about yourself is true...and I hope it is!!! Then what is there to hide? Show yourself!!! It`s like anything else that`s advertised anywhere, the product description, and a photo of it.
To add to that, the photo should also be displayed properly too...there`s an instruction in how to insert photos on how to rotate the photo so that it is displayed properly, so for any of you morons in here with the turned funny photos, there`s no excuse for those sideways, upside down photos...you know how to fix them...you just don't want to!!! I think you just want to draw attention to yourselves.
To add to that, the photo should also be displayed properly too...there`s an instruction in how to insert photos on how to rotate the photo so that it is displayed properly, so for any of you morons in here with the turned funny photos, there`s no excuse for those sideways, upside down photos...you know how to fix them...you just don't want to!!! I think you just want to draw attention to yourselves.
- providing a photo has nothing to do with assuring the profile is real
- some professions require privacy for the member on here
- you can always exchange photos privately
- not having a photo doesn't mean one is hiding something, it simply means that person prefers some privacy
one of the great things about dating sites, is that everyone has the opportunity to be genuine to themselves, even if the means no photo, or low tolerance for others.
shell1964: I agree with you there is lots of reasons why people dont have there pics on here i have chatted with someone here before who had there own buisness and didnt want his pic for everyone to see for buisness reasons so he sent me his pic to my phone.. and also met someone like you say had an old pic and when i went to meet him i didnt recognize him i think everyone has the right to make there profile the way they want pic or not as long as there a real person and live where they say they do..
mollybaby: Absolutely not.
A pic is a personal choice, as is the amount of information you choose to put up on your profile.
The moment you have a pic up here, you have a pic up on the internet for all to google and use.None of the people I have met, or even dated, from CS had a profile pic up. You can get to know people through chat/email/forums, and then exchange pics privately if you wish.
I got to know one person so well, that when we did finally meet up, both of us had forgotten that we had never seen a pic of each other, and we had to just meet blindly!
I still hope I started dating is the person I had been chatting to...!!
A pic is a personal choice, as is the amount of information you choose to put up on your profile.
The moment you have a pic up here, you have a pic up on the internet for all to google and use.None of the people I have met, or even dated, from CS had a profile pic up. You can get to know people through chat/email/forums, and then exchange pics privately if you wish.
I got to know one person so well, that when we did finally meet up, both of us had forgotten that we had never seen a pic of each other, and we had to just meet blindly!
I still hope I started dating is the person I had been chatting to...!!
mzetoile: Yeah I don't know why others don't just accept some people like privacy. I thought of replacing my previous pic but from what others have said it seems CS are clamping down on photos (so curtailing creative expression). I like my privacy but I've had no problem displaying my pic either. Anyway, how many here have their blinds completely open in their homes at night so anyone can peep in.With that though, if you've been chatting for a while then exchange pics, you can't be offended if the other person flees y'know. Or if they ask for a pic in their message. I think this is one problem why people don't like it. Puts them in an awkward position.
no prob with that kind of flees...flight or fight ...from fright..lol
as long as dont have them other kind fleas ..it ok..
bulldog5150: My reason for not posting is because I had major problems with a woman who harassed me and would not leave me alone. I don't want her to find me and I don't want her to find me.
To make things short, I had no other choice but to get a restraining order against her, which she violated over 80 times, and since she did that, she spent some time in jail. I had to take her to court in order to get it resolved
So, please DO NOT be so judgmental.
:To make things short, I had no other choice but to get a restraining order against her, which she violated over 80 times, and since she did that, she spent some time in jail. I had to take her to court in order to get it resolved
So, please DO NOT be so judgmental.
(but,re judgmental??..do u mean people shoud not be so negatively judgemental re no pics displayed.?)..ot what ???
i understand ur position re ur ex.:)quiet genuine reason for no pic displayed.
Yes, people with no profile pics should have the soles of their feet beaten with a big stick.
lookinforhappy: should profile pics be compulsary .?
i have read comments from people that say that they think that people with no profile pics have something to hide, (apart from their pic)perhaps,the implication being that those with profile pics in comparison have nothing to hide...a kind of implied holier than thou attitude.
however, there are many good reasons why people may have no profile pic on display. a degree of privacy being the obvious one. maybe they dont wish family, friends, ex, etc to know their online. perhaps, they dont wish to have their pic on display for the whole population to see as its only one person that they are seeking in relationship.
i think for many reasons its ok to have no profile pic on display and to share a pic later with another person if they so wish.:)
also, i think it should be acknowledged that in addition to people with genuine profile pics on display, there are many false/fake pics on display also. other pics on display dont accurately portray the person in current times and may have been taken years ago.
i read a comment that people on dating sites should have to post a profile pic. i dont agree with this view and think that all people should be allowed a degree of privacy even on a public dating site.
also, people with no profile pic displayed , doesnt necessarily have anything to hide anymore or anyless than a person with a profile pic on display does.
anyway, i have no profile pic displayed for privacy reasons, but am willing to exchange pics with prospective partner /friend etc if recquired at later stage:)i respect equally people with or without profile pics displayed.:)
i have read comments from people that say that they think that people with no profile pics have something to hide, (apart from their pic)perhaps,the implication being that those with profile pics in comparison have nothing to hide...a kind of implied holier than thou attitude.
however, there are many good reasons why people may have no profile pic on display. a degree of privacy being the obvious one. maybe they dont wish family, friends, ex, etc to know their online. perhaps, they dont wish to have their pic on display for the whole population to see as its only one person that they are seeking in relationship.
i think for many reasons its ok to have no profile pic on display and to share a pic later with another person if they so wish.:)
also, i think it should be acknowledged that in addition to people with genuine profile pics on display, there are many false/fake pics on display also. other pics on display dont accurately portray the person in current times and may have been taken years ago.
i read a comment that people on dating sites should have to post a profile pic. i dont agree with this view and think that all people should be allowed a degree of privacy even on a public dating site.
also, people with no profile pic displayed , doesnt necessarily have anything to hide anymore or anyless than a person with a profile pic on display does.
anyway, i have no profile pic displayed for privacy reasons, but am willing to exchange pics with prospective partner /friend etc if recquired at later stage:)i respect equally people with or without profile pics displayed.:)
No...I wouldn't mind at all talking to a person with no photo, as long as her profile seems interesting. Its the people with the turned sideways or upside photos which turn me off, especially when theres an option under inserting photos that tell you how to rotate the photos. I think they don't care about doing so, or attention seekers.
jac379: Yes, people with no profile pics should have the soles of their feet beaten with a big stick.
Finally someone even more right wing than me!
No it need not be compulsory. I just don't think you should expect many people to be interested in reading your profile if you don't have a picture to attract their attention.
I also think you would have to be one heck of a good writer someone in the Steven King or Harry Turtledove or Issac Asimov class and frequently put up good stuff before I would seek out a contact with you if you had no photo. So no. There is nothing compulsory about it. No more so than when you count your change at the store, should your eyes actually be open?
jac379: Yes, people with no profile pics should have the soles of their feet beaten with a big stick.
LMAO
by people with a profile pic perhaps ?
o, the good people that u could chat to..
lookinforhappy: LMAO by people with a profile pic perhaps ?
o, the good people that u could chat to..
o, the good people that u could chat to..
You're the first on my list, matey and you won't be lookintoohappy by the time I've finished with you, you faceless wee beasty.
It's about time a stand was made against people having privacy and freedom of choice on a site like this because it's all about me and what I want.
In fact, I think you should be made to put up nekkid pics as penance.
Brianebartlett: No...I wouldn't mind at all talking to a person with no photo, as long as her profile seems interesting. Its the people with the turned sideways or upside photos which turn me off, especially when theres an option under inserting photos that tell you how to rotate the photos. I think they don't care about doing so, or attention seekers.
Lol Brian, you do have a thing about sideways pics, don't you!
They could be upside down and inside out as far as I was concerned, as long as they are fun, nice, decent, respectful people
mollybaby: Lol Brian, you do have a thing about sideways pics, don't you!
They could be upside down and inside out as far as I was concerned, as long as they are fun, nice, decent, respectful people
They could be upside down and inside out as far as I was concerned, as long as they are fun, nice, decent, respectful people
Or is it a thing about attention seeking?
I wonder if he might have been extensively told off for seeking parental attention as a child.
In which case, Brian, it's normal to seek attention from significant others. It's not a crime.
online today!lookinforhappy: should profile pics be compulsary .?
i have read comments from people that say that they think that people with no profile pics have something to hide, (apart from their pic)perhaps,the implication being that those with profile pics in comparison have nothing to hide...a kind of implied holier than thou attitude.
however, there are many good reasons why people may have no profile pic on display. a degree of privacy being the obvious one. maybe they dont wish family, friends, ex, etc to know their online. perhaps, they dont wish to have their pic on display for the whole population to see as its only one person that they are seeking in relationship.
i think for many reasons its ok to have no profile pic on display and to share a pic later with another person if they so wish.:)
also, i think it should be acknowledged that in addition to people with genuine profile pics on display, there are many false/fake pics on display also. other pics on display dont accurately portray the person in current times and may have been taken years ago.
i read a comment that people on dating sites should have to post a profile pic. i dont agree with this view and think that all people should be allowed a degree of privacy even on a public dating site.
also, people with no profile pic displayed , doesnt necessarily have anything to hide anymore or anyless than a person with a profile pic on display does.
anyway, i have no profile pic displayed for privacy reasons, but am willing to exchange pics with prospective partner /friend etc if recquired at later stage:)i respect equally people with or without profile pics displayed.:)
I believe having a profile picture up is a personal choice. After certain amount of time corresponding with someone I believe you should produce one. People have vivid imaginations and what happens to often if you wait to long to produce one is they have a picture of you in their head that most likely no one could live up to i have read comments from people that say that they think that people with no profile pics have something to hide, (apart from their pic)perhaps,the implication being that those with profile pics in comparison have nothing to hide...a kind of implied holier than thou attitude.
however, there are many good reasons why people may have no profile pic on display. a degree of privacy being the obvious one. maybe they dont wish family, friends, ex, etc to know their online. perhaps, they dont wish to have their pic on display for the whole population to see as its only one person that they are seeking in relationship.
i think for many reasons its ok to have no profile pic on display and to share a pic later with another person if they so wish.:)
also, i think it should be acknowledged that in addition to people with genuine profile pics on display, there are many false/fake pics on display also. other pics on display dont accurately portray the person in current times and may have been taken years ago.
i read a comment that people on dating sites should have to post a profile pic. i dont agree with this view and think that all people should be allowed a degree of privacy even on a public dating site.
also, people with no profile pic displayed , doesnt necessarily have anything to hide anymore or anyless than a person with a profile pic on display does.
anyway, i have no profile pic displayed for privacy reasons, but am willing to exchange pics with prospective partner /friend etc if recquired at later stage:)i respect equally people with or without profile pics displayed.:)
I have met those with pics up and some .......oh I don't even want to go there...so we will say pictures can be so misleading. There are a lot of different reasons people will not put up pictures. The thing is, is that you owe no one an explanation for not having one up. And don't worry about how the others comment. Would you really want to date them or have them in your life? Tho I think there are some who need that focal point to communicate....I do hope they aren't relying off the pictures to tell what one looks like and for honesty 
Now don't give it another thought. Go have fun!
For every action there is a reaction. If no profile picture means less responses or missing out on meeting the someone special, or not, it is the profile person's choice.
It's good for me, I prefer to steer clear of "private" people.
It's good for me, I prefer to steer clear of "private" people.
a good part of the women here will not answer an e-mail if you don't have a pic posted - I feel that is very judgmental.
bulldog5150: a good part of the women here will not answer an e-mail if you don't have a pic posted - I feel that is very judgmental.
What do you find judgemental about it?
bulldog5150: a good part of the women here will not answer an e-mail if you don't have a pic posted - I feel that is very judgmental.
A lot of women want to see who they're talking to
lookinforhappy: should profile pics be compulsary .?
i have read comments from people that say that they think that people with no profile pics have something to hide, (apart from their pic)perhaps,the implication being that those with profile pics in comparison have nothing to hide...a kind of implied holier than thou attitude.
however, there are many good reasons why people may have no profile pic on display. a degree of privacy being the obvious one. maybe they dont wish family, friends, ex, etc to know their online. perhaps, they dont wish to have their pic on display for the whole population to see as its only one person that they are seeking in relationship.
Yes, should be compulsory, is our only way to tell all lies
about ourselves
i think for many reasons its ok to have no profile pic on display and to share a pic later with another person if they so wish.:)
also, i think it should be acknowledged that in addition to people with genuine profile pics on display, there are many false/fake pics on display also. other pics on display dont accurately portray the person in current times and may have been taken years ago.
i read a comment that people on dating sites should have to post a profile pic. i dont agree with this view and think that all people should be allowed a degree of privacy even on a public dating site.
also, people with no profile pic displayed , doesnt necessarily have anything to hide anymore or anyless than a person with a profile pic on display does.
anyway, i have no profile pic displayed for privacy reasons, but am willing to exchange pics with prospective partner /friend etc if recquired at later stage:)i respect equally people with or without profile pics displayed.:)
i have read comments from people that say that they think that people with no profile pics have something to hide, (apart from their pic)perhaps,the implication being that those with profile pics in comparison have nothing to hide...a kind of implied holier than thou attitude.
however, there are many good reasons why people may have no profile pic on display. a degree of privacy being the obvious one. maybe they dont wish family, friends, ex, etc to know their online. perhaps, they dont wish to have their pic on display for the whole population to see as its only one person that they are seeking in relationship.
Yes, should be compulsory, is our only way to tell all lies
about ourselves
i think for many reasons its ok to have no profile pic on display and to share a pic later with another person if they so wish.:)
also, i think it should be acknowledged that in addition to people with genuine profile pics on display, there are many false/fake pics on display also. other pics on display dont accurately portray the person in current times and may have been taken years ago.
i read a comment that people on dating sites should have to post a profile pic. i dont agree with this view and think that all people should be allowed a degree of privacy even on a public dating site.
also, people with no profile pic displayed , doesnt necessarily have anything to hide anymore or anyless than a person with a profile pic on display does.
anyway, i have no profile pic displayed for privacy reasons, but am willing to exchange pics with prospective partner /friend etc if recquired at later stage:)i respect equally people with or without profile pics displayed.:)
Compulsory photos???? Of who...of what...Reads the same as "mandatory"; same idiocy. If a photo of a person, do we swear an oath that it is of the poster ??? Baring that silliness, as an artist, one could argue that a photo of a certain object is a conceptual photo of my inner self...Conceptual self portraits/ representations can be quite revealing on many levels, psychologically speaking. Whose to say which type of photo does more to reveal the real you...
bulldog5150: a good part of the women here will not answer an e-mail if you don't have a pic posted - I feel that is very judgmental.
Yep. It sure is. It is every one's right to be judgmental and we all will be.
@ Condor, believe it or not there are at least two dating sites that have 'certified' profile pics as an option. Specifically you type your profile name on the picture with image modifying software, or have a picture taken of you holding up a note with the user name. So if i took my picture, typed Condor on it, then created an account there with the name condor and uploaded that photo, the site would 'certify' it as a genuine picture of condor. LoL, anything but actually.
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