Dont look at it as the glass half empty...see it as half full
For example: If you went to a job interview...you can bet your not the only candidate selected to be interviewed for the job.
Most likely there will be several they will interview
So if there are 5 candidates, right away the chances are 1/5 that you will pass the interview with flying colors...even at the out set... the odds many well be more depending on the number of candidates...and in this day and age, competition is is fierce
...and t is the case that you do have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince!
If I am pretty smitten with a man I try not to have big hopes and I think in myself if it goes well fine but why should I be an exception to the rule, it stops me from getting too disappointed then.
Sometimes I like someone, sometimes someone likes me and in very rare cases, it's turns out to be mutual.
I think not being always "on the hunt" helps. I do have male friends and acquaintances, I like going out socialising, meeting people, chatting, dancing and I meet people of both genders doing so.
I think it's all about having a life you like, a social circle you enjoy spending time with and that makes it easier to meet someone eventually.
Rejection is never nice, but what I don't get is when someone I barely know just asks to meet up for a coffee and a "thanks, but no thanks" results in never talking again. If there is no romantic interest doesn't mean for me that there can't be any social interaction anymore.
Sometimes I like someone, sometimes someone likes me and in very rare cases, it's turns out to be mutual.
I think not being always "on the hunt" helps. I do have male friends and acquaintances, I like going out socialising, meeting people, chatting, dancing and I meet people of both genders doing so.
I think it's all about having a life you like, a social circle you enjoy spending time with and that makes it easier to meet someone eventually.
Rejection is never nice, but what I don't get is when someone I barely know just asks to meet up for a coffee and a "thanks, but no thanks" results in never talking again. If there is no romantic interest doesn't mean for me that there can't be any social interaction anymore.
It sounds to me,i stick to my ways.Like saying "you like it,fine", "you don't bad luck".
Rather than think the word rejected I think it's better to think that he is just not right for me but maybe for someone else and visa versa,
However if in a relationship with a man I really liked or loved and he ends it of course I'd feel bit rejected its only human and give my self time to grieve before I move on,
As they say pick yourself up and dust yourself down.
serena123durban, KwaZulu-Natal South Africa2,821 posts
I've always believed things happen for a reason.. If rejection comes your way, a job, or a relationship.. It means it was NOT meant for you, it forces you to look in another direction , open new doors.. Till you find what is REAlLY gonna make you happy so its not a loss at all!
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For example: If you went to a job interview...you can bet your not the only candidate selected to be interviewed for the job.
Most likely there will be several they will interview
So if there are 5 candidates, right away the chances are 1/5 that you will pass the interview with flying colors...even at the out set... the odds many well be more depending on the number of candidates...and in this day and age, competition is is fierce
...and t is the case that you do have to kiss a lot of frogs to find your prince!