Is there only one true love in life or it is only a myth? Is there just one special, magical, perfec (96)
RosePetals69: That isn't true love, but I understand the feeling completely. That my friend is ADDICTION. True love is idealistic, pure, perfect, beautiful, kind, reciprocal, untainted by anyone or anything.
RosePetals69,,, I can't see from where did you get your conclusion about the real meaning of true love for me,, I was not addicted to my late husband, he was everything for me, as i was for him,, it was all perfect, from good to bad,, but i don't want to spread out my profound feelings/intimacy,, as well that of my late hubby for the sake of sharing,, things which i think is very private and only me could behold. Thanks tough for that analysis coming from an expert,,? I PRESUME !!!
Lolette: RosePetals69,,, I can't see from where did you get your conclusion about the real meaning of true love for me,, I was not addicted to my late husband, he was everything for me, as i was for him,, it was all perfect, from good to bad,, but i don't want to spread out my profound feelings/intimacy,, as well that of my late hubby for the sake of sharing,, things which i think is very private and only me could behold. Thanks tough for that analysis coming from an expert,,? I PRESUME !!!
Not everyone could feel exactly the same kind of love, if not it's a pattern,,completely uniformed and the same ,, each one has it's own way of loving, but because it is different from that of the others that we could tell that it was not true,, from one's point of view.
twazzle70: No,i dont believe there is just "the one"... Its a lovely thought,and i have maximum respect for those who have made this work,but as stated earlier in this thread "people change" and also "situations change"........Were maybe more likely to find true happiness as we become more mature as individuals....I think. I reckon we can be blissfully happy and fall in love more than once...
This is to give chance to those who failed for the first time, not all people change when it comes to love, if you find the right person, and all is going along fine, the home, the children and everyone is living a wholesome atmosphere as a couple, why change?
chris27292729: You sound like,you miss someone very badly????
Cris,,
how are you there,,, ha ha,, some call it addiction,, why not ?,,it's only me know in anyway ,,,2intrigued: Present day society has been spoon fed and conditioned to believe that everything, including relationships, is disposable. This pic kinda says it all.
2intrigued,, errors happen, society give them a chance to find the right
one, but some are justifying their errors (maybe) or maybe that most don't have the patience in fixing things,, rechange are rampant for some.
bluewave33: It is said that to be in love is the "most addictive substance on earth", or if you want, how Helen Fisher calls it "Life's greatest prize".
Being aware that with the years there is a definite step that happens, when a relationship goes from emotionally, mentally and physically desire to attachment, to getting " accustomed" with the partner, that life can have ups and downs, quarrels and misunderstandigs, I am asking you, what really binds a man and a woman for life?
I would like to share with you this issue and have your precious opinions, please. Thank you!
Being aware that with the years there is a definite step that happens, when a relationship goes from emotionally, mentally and physically desire to attachment, to getting " accustomed" with the partner, that life can have ups and downs, quarrels and misunderstandigs, I am asking you, what really binds a man and a woman for life?
I would like to share with you this issue and have your precious opinions, please. Thank you!
Let you know when I find out
danieljosh: Let you know when I find out
danieljosh,, go on searching,,
if we know what we want, it's not that easy at times,, me i got married at an age wherein some already known it was for them a failure and opted for a change, i've taken my time, and i didn't regret. That shows, stereotype don't hold in finding a partner.danieljosh: Let you know when I find out
I am looking forward! So I'll write a novel about it.
It's like asking a room full of eskimos if they believe in sunburns.
A dating site full of middle aged singles might not be the place to build
one's view of life, and love.
A dating site full of middle aged singles might not be the place to build
one's view of life, and love.
bluewave33: How many men are able of years of devotion today? There are a lot who are confounding LUST with LOVE even when they are mature enough.
But I only think they have never experienced what TRUE LOVE MEANS. They have heard this from the others but they are not able to distinguish.
But I only think they have never experienced what TRUE LOVE MEANS. They have heard this from the others but they are not able to distinguish.
"How many men are able of years of devotion today?" MANY !!!
Apparently you are confused what I wrote about lust.
Your comment came right after mine implying that I am not mature enough to know the difference of lust and love. I have 21 years of experience on you sweetheart.
The way you are talking it seems you consider yourself the EXPERT on true love. Your expertise has allowed you to quickly accuse others that they don't know what true love is unless their description agrees with yours.
True love is different for everyone. Each person has their own standards for love and relationships.
bluewave33: It is said that to be in love is the "most addictive substance on earth", or if you want, how Helen Fisher calls it "Life's greatest prize".
Being aware that with the years there is a definite step that happens, when a relationship goes from emotionally, mentally and physically desire to attachment, to getting " accustomed" with the partner, that life can have ups and downs, quarrels and misunderstandigs, I am asking you, what really binds a man and a woman for life?
I would like to share with you this issue and have your precious opinions, please. Thank you!
Being aware that with the years there is a definite step that happens, when a relationship goes from emotionally, mentally and physically desire to attachment, to getting " accustomed" with the partner, that life can have ups and downs, quarrels and misunderstandigs, I am asking you, what really binds a man and a woman for life?
I would like to share with you this issue and have your precious opinions, please. Thank you!
I blame the dearth of commitment on the disposable culture and, perhaps more importantly, people's inability to tolerate boredom. They have to have some gimic or distraction which makes them liable to stray or get bored or consider the grass greener on the other side.
My Grandparents(who stayed together)were content to bored, they were so bored that they could both whistle perfectly, but my parent's generation and my own are one and the same, we can't live without our aimless thrills.
Obstinance_Works: I blame the dearth of commitment on the disposable culture and, perhaps more importantly, people's inability to tolerate boredom. They have to have some gimic or distraction which makes them liable to stray or get bored or consider the grass greener on the other side.
My Grandparents(who stayed together)were content to bored, they were so bored that they could both whistle perfectly, but my parent's generation and my own are one and the same, we can't live without our aimless thrills.
My Grandparents(who stayed together)were content to bored, they were so bored that they could both whistle perfectly, but my parent's generation and my own are one and the same, we can't live without our aimless thrills.
But there's still a range within this. How many social networking profiles does she have? How much time does she spend on them? Is she a channel-hopper etc? These are all things I consciously or subconsciously take into consideration when assessing if she's good for the long haul.
The more distractions a person needs and the harder they find it to sit still the less you can depend on this person.
I agree with you.. "why change"... In an ideal world this would be a solid approach.. Having said that,sometimes change can be unavoidable and not always in our own hands.We may be able to apply this to ourselves in relation to not changing,but a relationship is a 2 way street. Both parties must work in tandem and be totally dedicated to making it work. Most of us here probably thought we had found "the one" in previous partners at some stage.(some maybe did but have sadly become widowed). But many of us are here as a result of failed relationships.We probably didnt envisage these relationships breaking down. The "eternal love" and "the one true love" forever and a day is a wondrous thing and a joy to behold,,something most of us dream of. I do know people personally that have achieved this,,,but unfortunately i know far more that havent.. The world is a vast place and its population is enormous. I believe there are lots of people out there who could potentially be our match made in heaven.. But as far as there being just "one" special,magical partner out there for each person.... I dont personally believe that to be true..
Lolette: This is to give chance to those who failed for the first time, not all people change when it comes to love, if you find the right person, and all is going along fine, the home, the children and everyone is living a wholesome atmosphere as a couple, why change?
secretagent09: "How many men are able of years of devotion today?" MANY !!!
Apparently you are confused what I wrote about lust.
Your comment came right after mine implying that I am not mature enough to know the difference of lust and love. I have 21 years of experience on you sweetheart.
The way you are talking it seems you consider yourself the EXPERT on true love. Your expertise has allowed you to quickly accuse others that they don't know what true love is unless their description agrees with yours.
True love is different for everyone. Each person has their own standards for love and relationships.
Apparently you are confused what I wrote about lust.
Your comment came right after mine implying that I am not mature enough to know the difference of lust and love. I have 21 years of experience on you sweetheart.
The way you are talking it seems you consider yourself the EXPERT on true love. Your expertise has allowed you to quickly accuse others that they don't know what true love is unless their description agrees with yours.
True love is different for everyone. Each person has their own standards for love and relationships.
secret,,, hi, there you have hit the point,, i feel some comments or shall i call it judgement on the feelings of others on a forum is somewhat out of ligitimate reflection. Just because we don't fit into their way of seeing things would mean we failed in love, what a pretention!!! in my/our case we made it to the end and i hope every marriage would fit into those words they wanted us to repeat and murmur in the cermony, this is of course with respect to cases that cannot be fixed despite efforts from both parties,, there are relations that unfortunately failed and those who made it,, let's set aside easy judgements that deosn't have any valid reason supporting it.
twazzle70: I agree with you.. "why change"... In an ideal world this would be a solid approach.. Having said that,sometimes change can be unavoidable and not always in our own hands.We may be able to apply this to ourselves in relation to not changing,but a relationship is a 2 way street. Both parties must work in tandem and be totally dedicated to making it work. Most of us here probably thought we had found "the one" in previous partners at some stage.(some maybe did but have sadly become widowed). But many of us are here as a result of failed relationships.We probably didnt envisage these relationships breaking down. The "eternal love" and "the one true love" forever and a day is a wondrous thing and a joy to behold,,something most of us dream of. I do know people personally that have achieved this,,,but unfortunately i know far more that havent.. The world is a vast place and its population is enormous. I believe there are lots of people out there who could potentially be our match made in heaven.. But as far as there being just "one" special,magical partner out there for each person.... I dont personally believe that to be true..
twazzle70, Hi to you, correct, for a relation to last it should be a two way, you give and you recieve. You can have two or more magical partner as you say,, that is if you failed for the first time or for the second time, each case is different, but a lot still do achieve,, the ratio of divorce is 48% from where i am,, so practically half is going along smoothly, yes the world is vast, doesn't mean you pick any you want and that easy.
secretagent09: "How many men are able of years of devotion today?" MANY !!!
Apparently you are confused what I wrote about lust.
Your comment came right after mine implying that I am not mature enough to know the difference of lust and love. I have 21 years of experience on you sweetheart.
The way you are talking it seems you consider yourself the EXPERT on true love. Your expertise has allowed you to quickly accuse others that they don't know what true love is unless their description agrees with yours.
True love is different for everyone. Each person has their own standards for love and relationships.
Apparently you are confused what I wrote about lust.
Your comment came right after mine implying that I am not mature enough to know the difference of lust and love. I have 21 years of experience on you sweetheart.
The way you are talking it seems you consider yourself the EXPERT on true love. Your expertise has allowed you to quickly accuse others that they don't know what true love is unless their description agrees with yours.
True love is different for everyone. Each person has their own standards for love and relationships.
Mine was only a rhetorical question, generally speaking and consequently with no addressee. I hope there are a lot of men devoted to their partners. You are writing "Many"- good for their woman. But, there are others, unfortunately, "Many" too who are not confounding lust with love. Sorry for having created a misunderstanding.
bluewave33: How many men are able of years of devotion today? There are a lot who are confounding LUST with LOVE even when they are mature enough.
But I only think they have never experienced what TRUE LOVE MEANS. They have heard this from the others but they are not able to distinguish.
But I only think they have never experienced what TRUE LOVE MEANS. They have heard this from the others but they are not able to distinguish.
I have the impression that you're putting a lot of people in the same basket. Easy judgement is not a sign of experience and maturity. Usually correct men doesn't engage in guessing game when it come to sentiments, or else a lot are that foolish enough not to distinquish things.
bluewave33: It is said that to be in love is the "most addictive substance on earth", or if you want, how Helen Fisher calls it "Life's greatest prize".
Being aware that with the years there is a definite step that happens, when a relationship goes from emotionally, mentally and physically desire to attachment, to getting " accustomed" with the partner, that life can have ups and downs, quarrels and misunderstandigs, I am asking you, what really binds a man and a woman for life?
I would like to share with you this issue and have your precious opinions, please. Thank you!
Being aware that with the years there is a definite step that happens, when a relationship goes from emotionally, mentally and physically desire to attachment, to getting " accustomed" with the partner, that life can have ups and downs, quarrels and misunderstandigs, I am asking you, what really binds a man and a woman for life?
I would like to share with you this issue and have your precious opinions, please. Thank you!
Once I got to know a woman, whose name was NatashaKrim. She said to me: "My sixth sense tells me you're the love of my life." After a few months of getting to know she said to me: "My sixth sense tells me you're not the love of my life."
God knows how the sixth sense of a woman works.
Obstinance_Works: But there's still a range within this. How many social networking profiles does she have? How much time does she spend on them? Is she a channel-hopper etc? These are all things I consciously or subconsciously take into consideration when assessing if she's good for the long haul.
The more distractions a person needs and the harder they find it to sit still the less you can depend on this person.
The more distractions a person needs and the harder they find it to sit still the less you can depend on this person.
To whom are you answering?
If you are answering me , you are on the wrong path. I am here only for the threads. I don't know where the problem is. I am only speaking about my personal experience, and what the statics are saying. That's all. I've never been bored during my marriage. I loved my husband and he loved me in return. There was the proper chemistry, complicity, friendship and a lot of care after, in the good time and in the bad one. I've lost him for a severe disease. I am a family oriented woman and I have no dating site. But I lived for some month with a man who had a lot of profiles. This is really giving me thrills even now when I am thinking back. I only put a question, and I said that a lot of men are confounding lust with love( women too). I am not pointing finger.
One have to wait a little and think first of throwing the words to the air.
bluewave33: Mine was only a rhetorical question, generally speaking and consequently with no addressee. I hope there are a lot of men devoted to their partners. You are writing "Many"- good for their woman. But, there are others, unfortunately, "Many" too who are not confounding lust with love. Sorry for having created a misunderstanding.
Errata corrige. "Many" too who are confounding lust with love....Sorry!2%÷
many "humans" like fish...
some like salmon, some halibut...
some just like to go fishing but don't eat fish...
some are afraid of water...
me...i like chicken or maybe some turkey
hope this helps...
quack
some like salmon, some halibut...
some just like to go fishing but don't eat fish...
some are afraid of water...
me...i like chicken or maybe some turkey
hope this helps...
quack
Lolette: I have the impression that you're putting a lot of people in the same basket. Easy judgement is not a sign of experience and maturity. Usually correct men doesn't engage in guessing game when it come to sentiments, or else a lot are that foolish enough not to distinquish things.
Have you read well my questions, and my answers too. If not try to.
The world is beautiful because different. I've told " a lot of " not everybody. I am not judging , I am reading the newspapers and seeing the news, and sometimes not always, only when I have the time to. The percentage of divorcing is higher and higher. The main reason of divorcing is "cheating on". And cheating on is not devotion, it is not faithfullness...it is lust and no love anymore maybe? If media is making "easy judgement" and consequently is giving wrong information that means is lacking maturity...
florilove: Once I got to know a woman, whose name was NatashaKrim. She said to me: "My sixth sense tells me you're the love of my life." After a few months of getting to know she said to me: "My sixth sense tells me you're not the love of my life."
God knows how the sixth sense of a woman works.
God knows how the sixth sense of a woman works.
florilove: Once I got to know a woman, whose name was NatashaKrim. She said to me: "My sixth sense tells me you're the love of my life." After a few months of getting to know she said to me: "My sixth sense tells me you're not the love of my life."
God knows how the sixth sense of a woman works.
God knows how the sixth sense of a woman works.
Coincidence? To me happened more or less the same thing. The man told me "I am sure that you are the love of my life". "But now that we are not a couple anymore I came back to my dating sites".
Can you believe me that this man after a week turned back on the dating sites?
bluewave33:
Being aware that with the years there is a definite step that happens, when a relationship goes from emotionally, mentally and physically desire to attachment, to getting " accustomed" with the partner, that life can have ups and downs, quarrels and misunderstandigs, I am asking you, what really binds a man and a woman for life?
Being aware that with the years there is a definite step that happens, when a relationship goes from emotionally, mentally and physically desire to attachment, to getting " accustomed" with the partner, that life can have ups and downs, quarrels and misunderstandigs, I am asking you, what really binds a man and a woman for life?
One has to be attentive, tenderly, lovely to the other.
Not to be contemptously, suspicious and possesively.
It's such an easy recipe but so hard to practice.
Wish you a good night at the Lido, Madam.
Take a walk on the beach, it will help you overcome your heartache.
florilove: One has to be attentive, tenderly, lovely to the other.
Not to be contemptously, suspicious and possesively.
It's such an easy recipe but so hard to practice.
Wish you a good night at the Lido, Madam.
Take a walk on the beach, it will help you overcome your heartache.
Not to be contemptously, suspicious and possesively.
It's such an easy recipe but so hard to practice.
Wish you a good night at the Lido, Madam.
Take a walk on the beach, it will help you overcome your heartache.
Thank you for your precious advice. But practice is much more difficult than theory.
Good night und "suesse Traeume".
Look the mail!
Just go for best catch of the 50 tried and be happy. :)
Ken_19: Just go for best catch of the 50 tried and be happy. :)
somehow ken...
i have no problem thinking that will work for him...
but ain't quite gonna cut it elsewhere...
My mother had a man she'd called the love of her life but he died after two years of marriage.
Everyone told me what a kind and lovely man he was but my argument is that no one will ever know how long this euphoria will have lasted.
Perfect people can be very hard to live with... so I'm told!
I think that even people in love can become bored with one another.
Some are just very good actors!
Everyone told me what a kind and lovely man he was but my argument is that no one will ever know how long this euphoria will have lasted.
Perfect people can be very hard to live with... so I'm told!
I think that even people in love can become bored with one another.
Some are just very good actors!
I believe it is only a myth about 'one true love' it is an ideal perhaps, but in my experience you might feel like you have found 'the one and only' but over time you discover that there are differences between you. It is those 'rose coloured glasses' one wears at the start of the relationship.
I believe space is important in a relationship ... it is so easy to suffocate your partner if you insist on being with them 24/7. Each will come with their own interests not shared by the other, or friends that are not necessarily mutual .. it is important that this continues. Each requires space to pursue their own interests, and have some degree of independence.
I believe space is important in a relationship ... it is so easy to suffocate your partner if you insist on being with them 24/7. Each will come with their own interests not shared by the other, or friends that are not necessarily mutual .. it is important that this continues. Each requires space to pursue their own interests, and have some degree of independence.
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Are you writing this from experience?
Yes, I have had experience of women who subconciously seem to hate men and advocate a totally feminist and politically correct attitude. I am glad to say my successful experiences did not fall in this category