Why do long relationships sometimes breakdown; your opinion of the #1 factor? (73)
I wanted a relationship where we lived in our own homes so neither had to give up where they love living the friends they love ect also for each others space which would take a lot of faith/trust.
Call me weird
Call me weird
ChesneyChrist: We're all highly stimulated people surrounded by choice and time is of the essence. That's the reason why we don't stick together, however, the irony is that many people do nothing at all when they're free and single because choice is often an illusion and any time is useless without the power to act.
There's so much to distract from til death to us part, but those distractions don't really amount to anything. People favour independence and the prospects of a better life you know the grass being greener, but at the same time they don't really live this life they espouse.
I am glad you speak for yourself there Chesney There's so much to distract from til death to us part, but those distractions don't really amount to anything. People favour independence and the prospects of a better life you know the grass being greener, but at the same time they don't really live this life they espouse.
Rachie14: I am glad you speak for yourself there Chesney
Unfortunately he describes the majority of people on here...pKrema: Unfortunately he describes the majority of people on here...
But is he describing himself? 
Rachie14: But is he describing himself?
You'd better ask him...
What I also find weird is that men treat dating/women like fast-food until they don't. Spreading the seed is evolved into men but so is the enduring bond and the romantic/protective concept of man giving up his life or seat in the lifeboat for a woman. There's both of these at play in men and the longer you've been with a man the longer you're likely to still be with him.
Women are different and in the middle sort of with a high quantity and low quality romance. Women accord themselves more closely to Marilyn Monroes Seven Year Itch. As creepily obsessive and saccharine sweet the loved up woman can be she will not stake her life on you. There's a large quantity of profoundly shallow emotion disguised as romance.
Women are different and in the middle sort of with a high quantity and low quality romance. Women accord themselves more closely to Marilyn Monroes Seven Year Itch. As creepily obsessive and saccharine sweet the loved up woman can be she will not stake her life on you. There's a large quantity of profoundly shallow emotion disguised as romance.
pKrema: You'd better ask him...
I kinda did, but he's not very sociable. I'm changing my perfume Rachie14: I kinda did, but he's not very sociable. I'm changing my perfume
Some people are not comfortable getting in details what they are on a public forum, I wouldn't answer too...pKrema: Some people are not comfortable getting in details what they are on a public forum, I wouldn't answer too...
You're answering me though. Thank you. I understand everyone has their own levels of being comfortable.
My parents were married for one month short of 60 yrs and died a few weeks apart. They never fell out of love.
They put each other first, above everything else.
Never in any way disrespectful to each other.
No power thing going on, always helped each other.
Done lots of stuff together.
They were truly happy in each other’s company.
So I suppose these are the factors that contribute to lasting togetherness and happiness.
They put each other first, above everything else.
Never in any way disrespectful to each other.
No power thing going on, always helped each other.
Done lots of stuff together.
They were truly happy in each other’s company.
So I suppose these are the factors that contribute to lasting togetherness and happiness.
MsContessa: My parents were married for one month short of 60 yrs and died a few weeks apart. They never fell out of love.
They put each other first, above everything else.
Never in any way disrespectful to each other.
No power thing going on, always helped each other.
Done lots of stuff together.
They were truly happy in each other’s company.
So I suppose these are the factors that contribute to lasting togetherness and happiness.
A beautiful love story They put each other first, above everything else.
Never in any way disrespectful to each other.
No power thing going on, always helped each other.
Done lots of stuff together.
They were truly happy in each other’s company.
So I suppose these are the factors that contribute to lasting togetherness and happiness.
After all men are more so a creature of habit. Order, probabiliy, results and skill are more important to a man than a woman which is actually in the long run more conducive to building a life together.
The woman, on the other hand, is a creature of chance. Fickleness, fancy and the improbable 1% dominate her horizons what is tried and trusted is met with wariness by novelty-seeking natures which view themselves at all times as that unique 1% whilst the 99% are considered banal and beneath consideration. This is no way to build a life or a society, to consider only what it against the odds and against the majority is due to each woman considering herself some special exception to the rules. Never assume that past loyalty from such a person is an indication of future commitment.
The woman, on the other hand, is a creature of chance. Fickleness, fancy and the improbable 1% dominate her horizons what is tried and trusted is met with wariness by novelty-seeking natures which view themselves at all times as that unique 1% whilst the 99% are considered banal and beneath consideration. This is no way to build a life or a society, to consider only what it against the odds and against the majority is due to each woman considering herself some special exception to the rules. Never assume that past loyalty from such a person is an indication of future commitment.
Mercedes_00: A beautiful love story
Falling in love is a very magical thing which many are forgetting..
However, you have to be vulnerable to fall in love.
Some see vulnerability as a weakness rather than as a strength which it is..
So, many are weak and prefer to stay single rather than put their heart on the line.
However, you have to be vulnerable to fall in love.
Some see vulnerability as a weakness rather than as a strength which it is..
So, many are weak and prefer to stay single rather than put their heart on the line.
MsContessa: Falling in love is a very magical thing which many are forgetting..
However, you have to be vulnerable to fall in love.
Some see vulnerability as a weakness rather than as a strength which it is..
So, many are weak and prefer to stay single rather than put their heart on the line.
For me I will give him the benefit of the doubt but when things don't make sense it simply isn't true in my book so I say what's on my mind how I feel and if it still doesn't make any sense in what they convey to me I say good bye.However, you have to be vulnerable to fall in love.
Some see vulnerability as a weakness rather than as a strength which it is..
So, many are weak and prefer to stay single rather than put their heart on the line.
Compassion is a weakness to you. It's actually a strength that many lack.
The competition kills it...
The masculine way women compete with men I mean...horribly popular nowadays...
The masculine way women compete with men I mean...horribly popular nowadays...
pKrema: The competition kills it...
The masculine way women compete with men I mean...horribly popular nowadays...
I agree, I don't want to compete with anyone.The masculine way women compete with men I mean...horribly popular nowadays...
Merc, that's why the world feels and appears cold to others for lack of compassion.
Let_Us: ALL relationships (of ANY kind) break up MOSTLY because of things that CAN BE REDUCED to one issue. "Loss of interest." The partners IN the relationship lose INTEREST IN the relationship, and no longer give it the necessary ATTENTION that ALL relationships REQUIRE, in order to be maintained!
If you'll THINK about it, ALL relationships are established by the investment of a lot of time and attention, to the parties involved, by the parties involved! Once there's no longer sufficient interest to motivate the attention that created the relationship, to maintaining the relationship, the significance of the relationship will diminish, to the point where the quality of the relationship matches the attention that the partners give the relationship. No attention? No relationship! Little attention.? Little, insignificant relationship! MUCH attention? An IMPORTANT, VIBRANT relationship!
The duration and quality of a relationships bears a DIRECT - 1 to 1 - relationship to the amount of time and energy put INTO it! And "time and energy" translate DIRECTLY into "attention"! Your question is REALLY a pretty simple one. ALL relationships - L-O-N-G, or short - break down because the people IN them lose the interest IN/motivation TO maintain them! And that IS MOST NOTABLE through/by observing the amount of time/energy/ATTENTION they invest in them. JMO
If you'll THINK about it, ALL relationships are established by the investment of a lot of time and attention, to the parties involved, by the parties involved! Once there's no longer sufficient interest to motivate the attention that created the relationship, to maintaining the relationship, the significance of the relationship will diminish, to the point where the quality of the relationship matches the attention that the partners give the relationship. No attention? No relationship! Little attention.? Little, insignificant relationship! MUCH attention? An IMPORTANT, VIBRANT relationship!
The duration and quality of a relationships bears a DIRECT - 1 to 1 - relationship to the amount of time and energy put INTO it! And "time and energy" translate DIRECTLY into "attention"! Your question is REALLY a pretty simple one. ALL relationships - L-O-N-G, or short - break down because the people IN them lose the interest IN/motivation TO maintain them! And that IS MOST NOTABLE through/by observing the amount of time/energy/ATTENTION they invest in them. JMO
ChesneyChrist: An important thing to understand about women is that compassion is a sign of weakness to them because in her world compassion is simply and commonly a way of avoiding confrontation. It's not a honest feeling for the other. And so women may say they want you to talk about your feelings more but only after you've beaten and gouged your rivals. Masculinity is a prison they say but it is women who are the jailers and it is through their influence that we do battle with one another instead of talking knowing that a sensitive side will leave you m**turbating into a flannel. Wherever compassion does arise it must be in the form of benevolence, mercy and pity because these things all mean you're better/stronger and not in fear of the person you're being kind to, women object to cruelty for the same reason that the cruel man has already proven himself bigger than his victim.
But there are mitigating factors in this the main one being handsome. The woman who cares more about the man's looks will forgive him for being less sociopathic and predatory. Beauty overcomes barbarism. Her face being pretty is part of the reason men don't hit her in it and his strong jaw is part of the reason he can afford to behave less ruthlessly around women, less like an animal.Rach I love being single yes in time I wouldn't mind going out with a guy or guys but I would make it clear just as mates to yakkety yak I don't want an emotional attachment because I've retired from giving compassion and a part of myself and not getting the same back it's like I find myself a one way street not a two way street.
I seem to go out of my way to please them I'm not doing that any more I come first that's how it always will be from now on.
I seem to go out of my way to please them I'm not doing that any more I come first that's how it always will be from now on.
saidmahmoud: The definition of masculinity need to be redefining
Because a lot of people think the masculinity is just physical things like muscled men with scary voice or deep voice
You just can't be man enough when you lied to people as if you are child, whatever it cost you being honest with yourself and people.here the masculinity Push you to challenge yourself and the world and take on your shoulders all the responsibilities as a man
It's better to see the man from inside out better than out to inside
when women want to test the man they start the silly test mostly material things
But men actually aware of this
Women should test men honesty and braveness first and wondering how he connected to his family
SHORT ( THE FAMILY GUY)
is what women need
Not someone she just meet
Thanks for that.Because a lot of people think the masculinity is just physical things like muscled men with scary voice or deep voice
You just can't be man enough when you lied to people as if you are child, whatever it cost you being honest with yourself and people.here the masculinity Push you to challenge yourself and the world and take on your shoulders all the responsibilities as a man
It's better to see the man from inside out better than out to inside
when women want to test the man they start the silly test mostly material things
But men actually aware of this
Women should test men honesty and braveness first and wondering how he connected to his family
SHORT ( THE FAMILY GUY)
is what women need
Not someone she just meet
I took it as woman like me who attend the gym and have muscle
Some guys and some woman wear many masks I couldn't be so cruel but there out there.
MsContessa: Falling in love is a very magical thing which many are forgetting..
However, you have to be vulnerable to fall in love.
Some see vulnerability as a weakness rather than as a strength which it is..
So, many are weak and prefer to stay single rather than put their heart on the line.
I would disagree with that Ms,However, you have to be vulnerable to fall in love.
Some see vulnerability as a weakness rather than as a strength which it is..
So, many are weak and prefer to stay single rather than put their heart on the line.
falling in love doesn't require vulnerability...but to show your love you have to be prepared to be vulnerable...
Being vulnerable doesn't make you strong...it makes you exposed and weak...
pKrema: I would disagree with that Ms,
falling in love doesn't require vulnerability...but to show your love you have to be prepared to be vulnerable...
Being vulnerable doesn't make you strong...it makes you exposed and weak...
I agree with exposed but I don't believe it makes for being weak to me exposing yourself is all about being raw /honest.and realfalling in love doesn't require vulnerability...but to show your love you have to be prepared to be vulnerable...
Being vulnerable doesn't make you strong...it makes you exposed and weak...
ChesneyChrist: But there are mitigating factors in this the main one being handsome. The woman who cares more about the man's looks will forgive him for being less sociopathic and predatory. Beauty overcomes barbarism. Her face being pretty is part of the reason men don't hit her in it and his strong jaw is part of the reason he can afford to behave less ruthlessly around women, less like an animal.
I nearly included humour in as a mitigating factor but I think it entertains the wrong senses. A joke is a trick, a play on somebody's feelings, you will normally find that funny people are less moral and concerned or if they are a good person their entire humour is built on disguising their decency. Not to a massive degree are the funny less moral but it influences you to do evil and to take advantage more than to do good.ChesneyChrist: I nearly included humour in as a mitigating factor but I think it entertains the wrong senses. A joke is a trick, a play on somebody's feelings, you will normally find that funny people are less moral and concerned or if they are a good person their entire humour is built on disguising their decency. Not to a massive degree are the funny less moral but it influences you to do evil and to take advantage more than to do good.
What I would definitely include is the BFG for similar reasons as a strong jaw. The big friendly giant is the example of that which becomes less threatening with great power when often the opposite is the case.
Pleeeeease marriages were doomed to fail. There are so many tidbits of NO noes in marriage that completely destroy the reason why you fell in love in the first place.
First and foremost the new age ceremony of marriage is so far off the reservation to the ORIGINAL purpose of marriage that its like a slap in the face. In fact someone tell me here who knows WHY men get on one knee to propose marriage to someone you are in love with? Anyone?
Second, you challenge the Father Himself by trying to break one of the great laws of Heaven itself. Father clearly stated, with emphasis I might add, that NO ONE swear oaths:
You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform to the Lord what you have sworn.’ But I say to you, Do not take an oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, or by the earth, for it is his footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. And do not take an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black Matthew 5:33 - 37
That means any promises at all and what do you go and do?
You make a sh#t load of promises in under 60 seconds, wtf is wrong with you people? You got a problem with these take it up with the Family Trio.
I am ending it here because I am getting worked up for no reason at all. Peace
First and foremost the new age ceremony of marriage is so far off the reservation to the ORIGINAL purpose of marriage that its like a slap in the face. In fact someone tell me here who knows WHY men get on one knee to propose marriage to someone you are in love with? Anyone?
Second, you challenge the Father Himself by trying to break one of the great laws of Heaven itself. Father clearly stated, with emphasis I might add, that NO ONE swear oaths:
You shall not swear falsely, but shall perform to the Lord what you have sworn.’ But I say to you, Do not take an oath at all, either by heaven, for it is the throne of God, or by the earth, for it is his footstool, or by Jerusalem, for it is the city of the great King. And do not take an oath by your head, for you cannot make one hair white or black Matthew 5:33 - 37
That means any promises at all and what do you go and do?
You make a sh#t load of promises in under 60 seconds, wtf is wrong with you people? You got a problem with these take it up with the Family Trio.
I am ending it here because I am getting worked up for no reason at all. Peace
ChesneyChrist: What I would definitely include is the BFG for similar reasons as a strong jaw. The big friendly giant is the example of that which becomes less threatening with great power when often the opposite is the case.
There are better longterm odds if you're tall, dark and handsome, and the both of you stay in-shape. Appreciating that is as close to "god-fearing" a western woman can get in terms of making an enduring commitment.But if it's all along the lines of how much of a cocky git her ex was then you would take the woman and the relationship much less seriously, that's not a keeper. A woman like that could only ever want you for not really wanting them, and what kind of a life would that be?
Mercedes_00: I agree with exposed but I don't believe it makes for being weak to me exposing yourself is all about being raw /honest.and real
Being raw, honest and real suppose to be part of you anyway...
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There's so much to distract from til death to us part, but those distractions don't really amount to anything. People favour independence and the prospects of a better life you know the grass being greener, but at the same time they don't really live this life they espouse.