What's the biggest turn off? (66)
rwantin: It's complicated, in no small part by a career now spanning over 23 years. It's a problem/feeling exacerbated by the holidays I suppose.
When I get to feeling like I am today I just remind myself as you did earlier that I'm lucky right now to have a job. The other stuff will fall into place.
LACali: Wasn't referring to you Ambrose. I'm talking about people whose sense of reality is bent.
NOW you're really offending me, LA! 
Ambrose2007: NOW you're really offending me, LA!
Honey, I'm from Los Angeles, you're a lightweight.
LACali: Honey, I'm from Los Angeles, you're a lightweight.
I think I needed to be humbled like that a bit, LA. I get such a swollen head about my weirdness being around Midwesterners, that I sometimes forget how relatively normal - even banal - I was back in California...
Ambrose2007: I think I needed to be humbled like that a bit, LA. I get such a swollen head about my weirdness being around Midwesterners, that I sometimes forget how relatively normal - even banal - I was back in California...
Yeah I always read your posts about yourself and I'm like
and now I'm worried about my boundaries for normal... 
XxKrysxX: What would be byfar the worst in your eyes?
If she does not smile...
A rude, arrogant attitude.
Ambrose2007: I think I needed to be humbled like that a bit, LA. I get such a swollen head about my weirdness being around Midwesterners, that I sometimes forget how relatively normal - even banal - I was back in California...
There is no such thing as normal in Cali my friend...
LACali: Yeah I always read your posts about yourself and I'm like and now I'm worried about my boundaries for normal...
Yeah, I know what you mean, LA. But I wouldn't worry about overly much - we're all pretty much illusions, anyway (at least I'm fairly sure I am).
StressFree: There is no such thing as normal in Cali my friend...
Good point, T, good point! (One reason why I miss CA so much.)
A right fighter.
somechick: A right fighter.
You're against people who fight for rights?
Big turn off: Negativity--always negative about everything and nothing postive to say!!!
Ambrose2007: You're against people who fight for rights?
Ambrose I can't believe you didn't understand what I was referring to
A right-fighter is someone who struggles to win arguments and they also depend on others for their sel-esteem.
Plus they're often more concerned about the "correctness" of a situation then the actual situation warrants in the overall scheme of things.
I have two older brothers who are this very same way. That's why I've cut off all contect with them.
somechick: Ambrose I can't believe you didn't understand what I was referring to
A right-fighter is someone who struggles to win arguments and they also depend on others for their sel-esteem.
Plus they're often more concerned about the "correctness" of a situation then the actual situation warrants in the overall scheme of things.
I have two older brothers who are this very same way. That's why I've cut off all contect with them.
A right-fighter is someone who struggles to win arguments and they also depend on others for their sel-esteem.
Plus they're often more concerned about the "correctness" of a situation then the actual situation warrants in the overall scheme of things.
I have two older brothers who are this very same way. That's why I've cut off all contect with them.
Somechick I looked at myself several years ago and realized that I was this way with my son. It was affecting our relationship. I changed. I found it was much better to lose arguements than to lose my son. Today I try to ensure to "keep my mouth shut" and allow things to past. My son and I today at best friends.
Big_John: Somechick I looked at myself several years ago and realized that I was this way with my son. It was affecting our relationship. I changed. I found it was much better to lose arguements than to lose my son. Today I try to ensure to "keep my mouth shut" and allow things to past. My son and I today at best friends.
I do the same with some in my family, It's better to love and have my family close than worry about having to be right over their thoughts. mylifewithu: I do the same with some in my family, It's better to love and have my family close than worry about having to be right over their thoughts.
Big_John: Somechick I looked at myself several years ago and realized that I was this way with my son. It was affecting our relationship. I changed. I found it was much better to lose arguements than to lose my son. Today I try to ensure to "keep my mouth shut" and allow things to past. My son and I today at best friends.
I tired what you did in regards to loosing arguing arguments but things just got worse so rather then putting myself through alot of grief and having to carry their baggage it was easier to cut them out of my life completely.
somechick: I tired what you did in regards to loosing arguing arguments but things just got worse so rather then putting myself through alot of grief and having to carry their baggage it was easier to cut them out of my life completely.
Sometimes that is the right answer and respond. Sorry.
Big_John: Sometimes that is the right answer and respond. Sorry.
Sometimes families can seem like wars there's no winners.
somechick: Sometimes families can seem like wars there's no winners.
I know I went sometimes for over 20 years not talking or associating with some of my family. It just felt better to be separated from them than to be in a constant battle.
somechick: Sometimes families can seem like wars there's no winners.
All to true
XxKrysxX: What would be byfar the worst in your eyes?
But it takes two to fight, I prefer forgiveness and love over abandonment.
mylifewithu: But it takes two to fight, I prefer forgiveness and love over abandonment.
Why cause one may die tomorrow and that feeling of them being gone forever is Final, no chances after that to show love.mylifewithu: But it takes two to fight, I prefer forgiveness and love over abandonment.
At my young age I refuse to fight anymore. Today I am a lover more than a fighter.
mylifewithu: But it takes two to fight, I prefer forgiveness and love over abandonment.
At my young age I refuse to fight anymore. Today I am a lover more than a fighter.
Big_John: At my young age I refuse to fight anymore. Today I am a lover more than a fighter.
I find it easiest to deal with those fighting kind by finding something good about them and changing the subject, they fall for it everytime. And then the conversation is good once again. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year John
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It's complicated, in no small part by a career now spanning over 23 years. It's a problem/feeling exacerbated by the holidays I suppose.