Do women divorce for financial gain? (103)

Mulberry4000: firstly it get some information on what is going on in ur country. I donot know what the laws are in spain but child support is usually about child support. Its about demonising men as dead beat dads when they cannot pay or if they do pay they are left in real poverty. In the uk, the image is fathers are deadbeats like in the usa but the reality is the system here favours the mother overwhelmingly, this is in the area of child support and the family courts. The father loose access to his children the day she moves out with them, he can be charge with kidnappeing if he takes his childrn from his wife, she cannot. 99% will pay for their kids its just one per cent that doe not dispite the rubbish headlines. here the child support agency is a law to themselves, they have more power than the taxman and they strip father of their income to the point they canont go to work or stay heathy. Many fathers have killed themselves because they are hounded by the csa. Its also the idea that father have no responsibility but when the kids were with him he was considered responsible, now because she takes them he is considered dead beat, its not true.

Here if u are on government benefits the ex wife only gets 10 pounds per week so if the fathers has to pay 500 pounds per month she gets 40 the state gets 460, the state says the csa is to help get kids out of poverty that is the biggest lie, 40 pounds is either for one child or for 10 childern its not going to do much, and the state benefits are so low this was why the government decided (conservative) to bring in the csa. The reality is this, the CSA is about making money by stealing off fathers, which in turn cannot see their kids and get called deadbads for not providiing for their kids becuase they have no money. The father loses out the kids loose out and the ex loose out because it all goes to the government.The idea that dads are deadbeat fit comoforably within the mindset of feminists
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Snuggs09: Hi JB. Interesting point you make. I did a thread awhile ago about child support. I made note of the fact that child support is to be used for the child. Many posters disagreed with me and said the child support money is for the ex-wife to use as she wishes. IMO, that is totally wrong. It is called "child support". Probably those that think child support can be used anyway they want are those who didn't get alimony.

I did not get alimony. I left my husband so he sued me for divorce. I did not contest it, therefore, I didn't go to court. All I wanted was to get out of the marriage with my life and my daughter's life in tact.

I got child support and you better believe that I used it for her. It was a whopping $125 A MONTH. I was the sole supporter of my daughter and myself.

Mulberry4000: divorce and women

Scubadiva: Yes, really. She's still sour about it. She's German and was married to a German guy. They built a business together. When they divorced, he simply quit work and sued her. She ended up running the business, he got himself a girlfriend and managed to get their Mercedes and she had to pay him alimony on top of it. I think she paid 5 years or so. Then the business failed, she went into employment and didn't earn the big bucks anymore and that ended it. No kids involved either.

I think the days of permanent alimony are numbered anyway. If women want to be equal, they will also have to deal with the downside of independence and paying alimony happens to be one of those. At the same time, men should then also take care of the kids and not always the women. Makes it all fair.

SummerUK: No we don't!!! I had to buy my ex husband out of the house and that was a huge deal for me to be left with a much bigger mortgage and 3 children

Mulberry4000: yes you do , the facts speak for themselves 68% of women file for divorce in 2007. and if you got kids the husband looses the house and 40% of his come, now you add the income tax, national insurance, council tax and tv license, that is a whooping 83% of his income gone. Its very rare a woman will suffer this fate. Read the ginger bread report just released on family courts etc. If a woman has no income she can get legal aid while the husband who is working has to pay, plus the csa hammers him, no court in england will never kick out a woman with kids. But even with out kids the divorce courts are still more in favour for woman that men etc.

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