how do you deal with rejection? (83)
gagagagawaterford, Waterford Ireland93 Threads 200 Postsor her mum
Not well at all. But it is getting easier. 
i can't say i dealt with it well at the end of my marriage, but, i got over it and moved on. and now, i don't put myself in that position. honest an answer as it gets.
Hah, like I can carry on?!
It's like criticism. It sucks. It's a baseball bat to the nads of your ego.
I get pissy about it, complain about it, bemoan my fate.
Then after that I might get over it.
Maybe.
It's like criticism. It sucks. It's a baseball bat to the nads of your ego.
I get pissy about it, complain about it, bemoan my fate.
Then after that I might get over it.
Maybe.
saseez: it dosnt bother me...if they dont want me, well there loss and it musnt of been right anyway ...
I have been rejected, other times I have done the rejecting.
It kinda balances things out.
It's life
Whoever has been in sales, you learn never to take it personally, and in fact, welcome rejection because it means you are another step closer to the big "YES".
rejection can be for the best. especially if you have learned from it. it can certainly be a character strengthener.
Shrug it off of my
shoulders,spit and
cuss a little then
move on.
shoulders,spit and
cuss a little then
move on.
If you haven't been rejected you haven't been trying hard enough. Only if you don't try is it wrong. Nothing bad about being rejected. Hell it is part of a boy becoming a man!
there exist no such thing as rejection to the wise, that see only each having equal want, and as such, respect's the mutual want of each as soverign, as to say, why is what you want more important than what i want, when one does not "want" another???
should one try to "convince" another, that it "should" want it???
lol...
such the weak, and self delusioned try each day, and wonder why they can find nothing but "a once upon a time looooooong ago coined word of the less knowing" as "rejected"...
anything that believe's in such, will allow it's own brain to only spot 'any potential act", fitting into such possible definition of "rejection"???
well of course, naturally the "action's" that fit into "rejection" will grow each day, as each time a "possible rejection" occur, the brain will fire a "negative synapse", and, wa lah, you sre stamped, marked, with a "mark in the forehead"...
and each new possible "rejection", another "pattern" of established thought, all because one believed that "another should want it", which could not be thought, if one actually seen another's mind, body, and desire, and want, as EQUAL to it's own...
you do what you want, i do what i want, and if they make BOTH happy to be beside each other, then so be it...
there is no other freedom, or caring, or love, that exist, as anything else is but constant conspiring of how to MAKE another WANT self...
such is to be NOT ALIVE AT ALL IN DUE TIME...
one cent...
should one try to "convince" another, that it "should" want it???
lol...
such the weak, and self delusioned try each day, and wonder why they can find nothing but "a once upon a time looooooong ago coined word of the less knowing" as "rejected"...
anything that believe's in such, will allow it's own brain to only spot 'any potential act", fitting into such possible definition of "rejection"???
well of course, naturally the "action's" that fit into "rejection" will grow each day, as each time a "possible rejection" occur, the brain will fire a "negative synapse", and, wa lah, you sre stamped, marked, with a "mark in the forehead"...
and each new possible "rejection", another "pattern" of established thought, all because one believed that "another should want it", which could not be thought, if one actually seen another's mind, body, and desire, and want, as EQUAL to it's own...
you do what you want, i do what i want, and if they make BOTH happy to be beside each other, then so be it...
there is no other freedom, or caring, or love, that exist, as anything else is but constant conspiring of how to MAKE another WANT self...
such is to be NOT ALIVE AT ALL IN DUE TIME...
one cent...
davidben1: there exist no such thing as rejection to the wise, that see only each having equal want, and as such, respect's the mutual want of each as soverign, as to say, why is what you want more important than what i want, when one does not "want" another???
should one try to "convince" another, that it "should" want it???
lol...
such the weak, and self delusioned try each day, and wonder why they can find nothing but "a once upon a time looooooong ago coined word of the less knowing" as "rejected"...
anything that believe's in such, will allow it's own brain to only spot 'any potential act", fitting into such possible definition of "rejection"???
well of course, naturally the "action's" that fit into "rejection" will grow each day, as each time a "possible rejection" occur, the brain will fire a "negative synapse", and, wa lah, you sre stamped, marked, with a "mark in the forehead"...
and each new possible "rejection", another "pattern" of established thought, all because one believed that "another should want it", which could not be thought, if one actually seen another's mind, body, and desire, and want, as EQUAL to it's own...
you do what you want, i do what i want, and if they make BOTH happy to be beside each other, then so be it...
there is no other freedom, or caring, or love, that exist, as anything else is but constant conspiring of how to MAKE another WANT self...
such is to be NOT ALIVE AT ALL IN DUE TIME...
one cent...
should one try to "convince" another, that it "should" want it???
lol...
such the weak, and self delusioned try each day, and wonder why they can find nothing but "a once upon a time looooooong ago coined word of the less knowing" as "rejected"...
anything that believe's in such, will allow it's own brain to only spot 'any potential act", fitting into such possible definition of "rejection"???
well of course, naturally the "action's" that fit into "rejection" will grow each day, as each time a "possible rejection" occur, the brain will fire a "negative synapse", and, wa lah, you sre stamped, marked, with a "mark in the forehead"...
and each new possible "rejection", another "pattern" of established thought, all because one believed that "another should want it", which could not be thought, if one actually seen another's mind, body, and desire, and want, as EQUAL to it's own...
you do what you want, i do what i want, and if they make BOTH happy to be beside each other, then so be it...
there is no other freedom, or caring, or love, that exist, as anything else is but constant conspiring of how to MAKE another WANT self...
such is to be NOT ALIVE AT ALL IN DUE TIME...
one cent...
Not everybody is a Zen master my friend lol...
Easy to day, harder to do. Being is believing and wanting and wanting and believing is being.
Welcome to the Western World---a raging fire full of desire.
I like it this way
And there is no way those are your own words davidben1...you're white and live in Indiana
Not your typical Zen master...
Gimme a break
Not your typical Zen master...Gimme a break
I have to change my precedent post.
I'm just not able to manage it....
My life is hell.
I'm just not able to manage it....
My life is hell.
bestat45: rejection can be for the best. especially if you have learned from it. it can certainly be a character strengthener.
I Agree. Also I try to learn from it. I do my best to handle it with dignity and respect not just for myself but for my ex.
Whomever says it is no big deal, tome, either was not truly inlove with their ex partner, or is kidding themselves. Why? b/c it HURTS now two ways about it.
But you learn to roll withi it and Pray for the Strength to survive the pain and try again, after giving yourself time.
CjTenorSax: I Agree. Also I try to learn from it. I do my best to handle it with dignity and respect not just for myself but for my ex.
Whomever says it is no big deal, tome, either was not truly inlove with their ex partner, or is kidding themselves. Why? b/c it HURTS now two ways about it.
But you learn to roll withi it and Pray for the Strength to survive the pain and try again, after giving yourself time.
Whomever says it is no big deal, tome, either was not truly inlove with their ex partner, or is kidding themselves. Why? b/c it HURTS now two ways about it.
But you learn to roll withi it and Pray for the Strength to survive the pain and try again, after giving yourself time.
Rejection is a part of life; that's why when I was a kid my parents allowed me to feel triumph and pain, rejection and acceptance, and all of the other things that we deal with in life. When I became an adult, it was easier to handle.
Anyone saying rejection doesn't bother them is pretty arrogant in my book. It should bother everyone a little; no one likes rejection.
But if you realize that it's just that you are not a good fit or the person doesn't think you are a good fit, then you move on and it's all good.
Just because you are not compatible with someone does not make them better or worse than you. Chocolate tastes like crap on hamburgers, but if you separate them, then they are great.
Again, it's a part of life. If you can't handle rejection you shouldn't be dating.
Anyone saying rejection doesn't bother them is pretty arrogant in my book. It should bother everyone a little; no one likes rejection.
But if you realize that it's just that you are not a good fit or the person doesn't think you are a good fit, then you move on and it's all good.
Just because you are not compatible with someone does not make them better or worse than you. Chocolate tastes like crap on hamburgers, but if you separate them, then they are great.
Again, it's a part of life. If you can't handle rejection you shouldn't be dating.
That's kind of what I'm going through now. The way I'm figuring it-hey...it's her loss. Some one else's gain.
I'm one hell of a great guy!
I'm one hell of a great guy!
and if she doesn't have a sister, date her MOTHER!!!
If I was rejected then I could see no the need to remaining friends with him.I'd wish him the best and just move on.There would be no need for me to blame,criticize,or become judgemental.
"MY experience" is, when I reject another it has nothing to do with them, it is something in "ME" I have yet to deal with..
it bothers me for a minute
no really I timed it 60 seconds
than
I'm over it-not meant to be
no really I timed it 60 seconds
than
I'm over it-not meant to be
mjames: Rejection is a part of life; that's why when I was a kid my parents allowed me to feel triumph and pain, rejection and acceptance, and all of the other things that we deal with in life. When I became an adult, it was easier to handle.
Anyone saying rejection doesn't bother them is pretty arrogant in my book. It should bother everyone a little; no one likes rejection.
But if you realize that it's just that you are not a good fit or the person doesn't think you are a good fit, then you move on and it's all good. Just because you are not compatible with someone does not make them better or worse than you. Chocolate tastes like crap on hamburgers, but if you separate them, then they are great.
Again, it's a part of life. If you can't handle rejection you shouldn't be dating.
Anyone saying rejection doesn't bother them is pretty arrogant in my book. It should bother everyone a little; no one likes rejection.
But if you realize that it's just that you are not a good fit or the person doesn't think you are a good fit, then you move on and it's all good. Just because you are not compatible with someone does not make them better or worse than you. Chocolate tastes like crap on hamburgers, but if you separate them, then they are great.
Again, it's a part of life. If you can't handle rejection you shouldn't be dating.
You are very right! I totally agree. And I like the comparison of chocolate on hamburgers!
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