Do you believe in soul-mates? (106)
no...
To find a mate, one must market themselves much like a product to fill the needs of the buyer. You are never loved only owned until you are no longer filling needs or have more adverse than benefits to another. Then you are thrown away or replaced.
AsleepInNJ: no...
sawadee ka AsleepInNJ,sit down u pessimist u...
no...
RillyNiceGuy: To find a mate, one must market themselves much like a product to fill the needs of the buyer. You are never loved only owned until you are no longer filling needs or have more adverse than benefits to another. Then you are thrown away or replaced.
well things sound grim then...i hope that is not case in most situations...if so everyone or majority here is wasting or just killing their time!yes?
AsleepInNJ: no...
ok stay upright all day then
I keep my fingers crossed and my mind open and pray
kanokwan: if u took matieralism,financial gain & u both on even terms to begin with,with nothing to benefit apart from being together...u dont think there is possibility can actually grow together & be soul mates??
If one is lonely....the other fills the needed not to be. If one is pretty....does it not fill the eyes of another to pleasure....when gone do they not look elsewhere. If one is sweet...does this not fill the desire to be treated sweetly.....when stopped do they not find another. People are attracted to another for their own self interest and desires....fullfilled in them. When they grow together it is still for self interest....they still fill needs inside the other....if they do not.......replaced or dump.I love because I can give and I can make life better for another....because I care..........But I know that I (myself) will never be loved for me......only that I can provide in filling the selfishness of another. I do not believe I will ever have one of my nature in love, friendship or in no more than humanity. I am alone in all respects and will remain so. If I want friends or family or love.....I must rent it for a time until no longer able to fill anothers need.
RillyNiceGuy: To find a mate, one must market themselves much like a product to fill the needs of the buyer. You are never loved only owned until you are no longer filling needs or have more adverse than benefits to another. Then you are thrown away or replaced.
Hi Rilly,
I dont agree with you... you are loved by your good friends.. and never replaced... if it weren't so ... why do we go to funerals and sob... and think about that person often... there must have been a connection to be able to mourn for a lost person.. whether they died or just went off.
kanokwan: if u took matieralism,financial gain & u both on even terms to begin with,with nothing to benefit apart from being together...u dont think there is possibility can actually grow together & be soul mates??
A man and wife are to be one flesh in all respects......but there are none able for lack of knowing the true aspects of love.....it is a lost thing to time and the selfishness of mankind.RillyNiceGuy: If one is lonely....the other fills the needed not to be. If one is pretty....does it not fill the eyes of another to pleasure....when gone do they not look elsewhere. If one is sweet...does this not fill the desire to be treated sweetly.....when stopped do they not find another. People are attracted to another for their own self interest and desires....fullfilled in them. When they grow together it is still for self interest....they still fill needs inside the other....if they do not.......replaced or dump.I love because I can give and I can make life better for another....because I care..........But I know that I (myself) will never be loved for me......only that I can provide in filling the selfishness of another. I do not believe I will ever have one of my nature in love, friendship or in no more than humanity. I am alone in all respects and will remain so. If I want friends or family or love.....I must rent it for a time until no longer able to fill anothers need.
i agree with u in most part but your philosophy gets jilted toward the end,as much as u think u are correct in 'filling the selfishness of another',u never know (as all us)who & what type partner u will acquire...u may get somebody with exactly same line of thinking as yourself & will try fullfilling your selfishness to please u??our fates are all unknown so it only hypathetical what we all assume... 
Merriweather: Hi Rilly,
I dont agree with you... you are loved by your good friends.. and never replaced... if it weren't so ... why do we go to funerals and sob... and think about that person often... there must have been a connection to be able to mourn for a lost person.. whether they died or just went off.
You mean the good friends who will hate you because you need the money back you loaned them....for as little as five dollars. One friend killed another (long time friends) here over a sausage. A man killed his brother over a deer rifle.......when you are down and need help from those you helped greatly for years.......you are out of luck my friend........each friend in life will cheat you out of about an average of $1000.I dont agree with you... you are loved by your good friends.. and never replaced... if it weren't so ... why do we go to funerals and sob... and think about that person often... there must have been a connection to be able to mourn for a lost person.. whether they died or just went off.
Do love ones sob for the dead or their own lose....their own need no long filled. A man dies....the first thing a woman thinks is......whats going to happen to ME!!!!! What as family and friend fight over the goods of the dead and stage themselves for free stuff.....even on the day they died. I have seen it many many times. We delude ourselves about others loving us. They remember us for what we did for them....made them laugh...etc.. We become stories to tell or someone to judge for their amusement.
kanokwan: i agree with u in most part but your philosophy gets jilted toward the end,as much as u think u are correct in 'filling the selfishness of another',u never know (as all us)who & what type partner u will acquire...u may get somebody with exactly same line of thinking as yourself & will try fullfilling your selfishness to please u??our fates are all unknown so it only hypathetical what we all assume...
The ability to love another is rare.........but they too are drawn by self interest. true love is when two become one flesh...one person....one spirit. Today it never happens in the most part.....each seek their own and love another for giving it for as long as it last. If it was different.....divorce would not happen.
RillyNiceGuy: The ability to love another is rare.........but they too are drawn by self interest. true love is when two become one flesh...one person....one spirit. Today it never happens in the most part.....each seek their own and love another for giving it for as long as it last. If it was different.....divorce would not happen.
Oh yes I do definitely
I have experience of this
Baby_Monkey: I do.
I know a few couples who are so well suited, their relationship seems pre-destined. I'd like to think there is a perfect guy for me...a perfect person for everyone, for that matter.
The Germans have a saying about soul-mates I heard once, which roughly translates into English as "If you are stuck at the bottom of the ocean cold and alone, your perfect match will swim down to find you." It's a nice thought.....but what about the people who die single and alone? What happened to their soul-mate? Did they make wrong choices? Did they mistake who their soul-mate was? This is what makes my brain hurt about the whole soul-mate theory.
Madison1109: Oh yes I do definitely I have experience of this
Good for you! Forgive me for my painting with such a wide brush.
True: A couple got married and divorced 4 days later....her reason.......he was sloppy. Thats LOVE!!!!!!
Baby_Monkey: I do.
Only thing, I'm almost 64 and I'm still waiting for him. He may be in another state or country for all I know. I hope he shows up soon. Time is a flying!
Do you believe in soul-mates?
Absolutely not , I believe that we're born into this world alone,
walk this planet as individuals, and go out on our own. But thats no to say that we can't develop some great friendships, enjoy the good things life has to offer, and share intimacies with those of our choosing along the way. A love that lasts a lifetime is a rare thing, especially in this current day and age,
Absolutely not , I believe that we're born into this world alone,
walk this planet as individuals, and go out on our own. But thats no to say that we can't develop some great friendships, enjoy the good things life has to offer, and share intimacies with those of our choosing along the way. A love that lasts a lifetime is a rare thing, especially in this current day and age,
Baby_Monkey: I do.
I do, too.
Big_John: I do believe... I think that there are partners out there that create our other half.
I think that if you are not complete yourself .....you'll never find that other half ..........
( didn't Confucious say that once ? )
I have two soul-mates.....and they are direct opposites of each other .........
No, I don't...
Absolutely not , I believe that we're born into this world alone,
walk this planet as individuals, and go out on our own. But thats not to say that we can't develop some great friendships, enjoy the good things life has to offer, and share intimacies with those of our choosing along the way. A love that lasts a lifetime is a rare thing, especially in this current day and age,
walk this planet as individuals, and go out on our own. But thats not to say that we can't develop some great friendships, enjoy the good things life has to offer, and share intimacies with those of our choosing along the way. A love that lasts a lifetime is a rare thing, especially in this current day and age,
Desertguy49: Absolutely not , I believe that we're born into this world alone,
walk this planet as individuals, and go out on our own. But thats not to say that we can't develop some great friendships, enjoy the good things life has to offer, and share intimacies with those of our choosing along the way. A love that lasts a lifetime is a rare thing, especially in this current day and age,
walk this planet as individuals, and go out on our own. But thats not to say that we can't develop some great friendships, enjoy the good things life has to offer, and share intimacies with those of our choosing along the way. A love that lasts a lifetime is a rare thing, especially in this current day and age,
I suppose posting this twice, might get your point across!
venere08: I suppose posting this twice, might get your point across!
Yeah, that and fixing my previous typo, didn't you know us Virgo's
are perfectionists?
Yeah I believe...part-time at least...if you want longer than that,grow leaves....
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