Did she leave because she didn't love me or dose she just think I deserve better (17)
Brumleary: We have been together for over 3 years and I brought a house 2 years ago. She lives with me but things haven't been great lately. I came home one day and she was in bed crying her eyes out and she told me that she woke up naked in the bed beside one of my friends. My hands hurts but his face hurts more. She didn't try stop me so I don't think she wants to be with him. She kept telling me that I deserve better but whats best for me is to be with the one I love. I am not a jealous man, never have been so I explained that I can forgive her but she must never do it again. She thinks it's best we don't get back together. I don't have a clue what to do so I will be greatful for any advise
She sounds like a drama queen to me. You should tell her the doors thataway 
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Brumleary: We have been together for over 3 years and I brought a house 2 years ago. She lives with me but things haven't been great lately. I came home one day and she was in bed crying her eyes out and she told me that she woke up naked in the bed beside one of my friends. My hands hurts but his face hurts more. She didn't try stop me so I don't think she wants to be with him. She kept telling me that I deserve better but whats best for me is to be with the one I love. I am not a jealous man, never have been so I explained that I can forgive her but she must never do it again. She thinks it's best we don't get back together. I don't have a clue what to do so I will be greatful for any advise
Sorry ...but if she did it once she will in all likely hood do it again....From your post it sounds like she wanted you to know and to make you angry...
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Brumleary: I came home one day and she was in bed crying her eyes out and she told me that she woke up naked in the bed beside one of my friends.
That bit confuses me...you say she woke up in bed naked with one of your friends....but where were you? Was this in your house? To wake up naked, I assume she went to bed with him and was in favour of doing so.
I always wonder why men hit the other man and not the woman...yes I know a man shouldn't hit a woman and I am not advocating it either, I am merely pointing out a fact.
Both deserve to be punished for it takes two to tango...or screw. Both are guilty.
However...what would I do? If she says she thinks it's best not to get together....I'd ask her why she thinks that and then come to a conclusion afterwards.
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As a mom of a 20 yr old son, after reading your profile, I am a bit baffled at the fact that you are asking what to do in this cheating girlfriend situation. From you profile, you are looking for an intimate encounter. Since you are living with your girlfriend and are supposedly in love with her, it is descipable that you would even consider stepping out on her for an intimate relationship with someone else.
For you to be looking for and maybe finding an intimate encounter would be tantamount to doing the same thing that she just admitted to doing.
Personally, I don't think you should have wasted your energy and time punching some guy when you are guilty of looking for the same type of cheating game on your girlfriend. You may find yourself at the end of some guy's boot or fist also. When considering an intimate encounter, some women are not so honest to tell you they have a boyfriend or spouse lurking in the background and you may be in for a surprise yourself.
Be a man with a conscience and don' step out with another woman unless you 2 have both permanently broken your relationship off and are in agreement that you both are going to move on in your lives. Then you are not stepping out of line so to speak.
It's probably not an intimate encounter you really want but more of a solid caring loving long term relationship with someone that is so much more rewarding in life.
For you to be looking for and maybe finding an intimate encounter would be tantamount to doing the same thing that she just admitted to doing.
Personally, I don't think you should have wasted your energy and time punching some guy when you are guilty of looking for the same type of cheating game on your girlfriend. You may find yourself at the end of some guy's boot or fist also. When considering an intimate encounter, some women are not so honest to tell you they have a boyfriend or spouse lurking in the background and you may be in for a surprise yourself.
Be a man with a conscience and don' step out with another woman unless you 2 have both permanently broken your relationship off and are in agreement that you both are going to move on in your lives. Then you are not stepping out of line so to speak.
It's probably not an intimate encounter you really want but more of a solid caring loving long term relationship with someone that is so much more rewarding in life.
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Brumleary: We have been together for over 3 years and I brought a house 2 years ago. She lives with me but things haven't been great lately. I came home one day and she was in bed crying her eyes out and she told me that she woke up naked in the bed beside one of my friends. My hands hurts but his face hurts more. She didn't try stop me so I don't think she wants to be with him. She kept telling me that I deserve better but whats best for me is to be with the one I love. I am not a jealous man, never have been so I explained that I can forgive her but she must never do it again. She thinks it's best we don't get back together. I don't have a clue what to do so I will be greatful for any advise
If she's been with someone else then she's not yours anymore. Get rid of her. You will love someone else.
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LILLYLADY: As a mom of a 20 yr old son, after reading your profile, I am a bit baffled at the fact that you are asking what to do in this cheating girlfriend situation. From you profile, you are looking for an intimate encounter. Since you are living with your girlfriend and are supposedly in love with her, it is descipable that you would even consider stepping out on her for an intimate relationship with someone else.
For you to be looking for and maybe finding an intimate encounter would be tantamount to doing the same thing that she just admitted to doing.
Personally, I don't think you should have wasted your energy and time punching some guy when you are guilty of looking for the same type of cheating game on your girlfriend. You may find yourself at the end of some guy's boot or fist also. When considering an intimate encounter, some women are not so honest to tell you they have a boyfriend or spouse lurking in the background and you may be in for a surprise yourself.
Be a man with a conscience and don' step out with another woman unless you 2 have both permanently broken your relationship off and are in agreement that you both are going to move on in your lives. Then you are not stepping out of line so to speak.
It's probably not an intimate encounter you really want but more of a solid caring loving long term relationship with someone that is so much more rewarding in life.
For you to be looking for and maybe finding an intimate encounter would be tantamount to doing the same thing that she just admitted to doing.
Personally, I don't think you should have wasted your energy and time punching some guy when you are guilty of looking for the same type of cheating game on your girlfriend. You may find yourself at the end of some guy's boot or fist also. When considering an intimate encounter, some women are not so honest to tell you they have a boyfriend or spouse lurking in the background and you may be in for a surprise yourself.
Be a man with a conscience and don' step out with another woman unless you 2 have both permanently broken your relationship off and are in agreement that you both are going to move on in your lives. Then you are not stepping out of line so to speak.
It's probably not an intimate encounter you really want but more of a solid caring loving long term relationship with someone that is so much more rewarding in life.
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Brumleary: We have been together for over 3 years and I brought a house 2 years ago. She lives with me but things haven't been great lately. I came home one day and she was in bed crying her eyes out and she told me that she woke up naked in the bed beside one of my friends. My hands hurts but his face hurts more. She didn't try stop me so I don't think she wants to be with him. She kept telling me that I deserve better but whats best for me is to be with the one I love. I am not a jealous man, never have been so I explained that I can forgive her but she must never do it again. She thinks it's best we don't get back together. I don't have a clue what to do so I will be greatful for any advise
Hard facts...she dosnt love you or want to be with you.
dont waste anymore time on her.
get on with your life.
you could never trust her.
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Zellarrone1: She sounds like a drama queen to me. You should tell her the doors thataway
Well said...
game set match...or alt delete...agree..
She bonked your mate for god sake! let alone, has she slithered with anyone else.
no no no no no.!!!!! dont be deceived, again...
dosent your world deserve more...
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I cant understand...
your looking for an intimate encounter....(as on your profile)
Shes just had one with one some else..
erm..... why are you together in the first place?
your looking for an intimate encounter....(as on your profile)
Shes just had one with one some else..
erm..... why are you together in the first place?
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To reply on your post, from what I red . . . and that's just my opinion, you do deserve better . . . she knew exactly what she was doing, respect your self man, you do not need to put up with this kind of crap . . . that's what I think, Cos she does not respect you . . . question is, if she ever did, or if she ever did know, what the hell she even wanted . . . I can not judge, nor criticize your relationship . . . I . . . for that mater anyone here, does not know the whole story, and each story have to sides . . . and the truth is somewhere in between . . .
She did what she did, she will have to accept the consequences . . . Nobody can tell you what to do, it is your life, your choices . . . but think on this . . .if you let her slide with this one . . . how far will she be able to push you . . and how much are you willing to put up with . . . She even did not try to hide it . . . that also says to me, she want's out . . . and she did what she did, cos it might have been easier for her, that you'd just go ballistic . . .and kick her out . . .
Who knows what was going through her head . . .
Personally I'd kick her out of the house, and move on . . . taking the good things with me . . and the rest leave it to history . . . But that's just me . . . I do not know if this helps you, but I do hope it will work out the way you wish, cos you are the only one, that knows, what is best for you . . . and if you two do work it out . . . that will be great to . . . Who knows . . . maybe in the long run, if you two manage to work it out . . . it will just make you stronger, it can happen, anything is possible . . .
She did what she did, she will have to accept the consequences . . . Nobody can tell you what to do, it is your life, your choices . . . but think on this . . .if you let her slide with this one . . . how far will she be able to push you . . and how much are you willing to put up with . . . She even did not try to hide it . . . that also says to me, she want's out . . . and she did what she did, cos it might have been easier for her, that you'd just go ballistic . . .and kick her out . . .
Who knows what was going through her head . . .
Personally I'd kick her out of the house, and move on . . . taking the good things with me . . and the rest leave it to history . . . But that's just me . . . I do not know if this helps you, but I do hope it will work out the way you wish, cos you are the only one, that knows, what is best for you . . . and if you two do work it out . . . that will be great to . . . Who knows . . . maybe in the long run, if you two manage to work it out . . . it will just make you stronger, it can happen, anything is possible . . .
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54xmax: To reply on your post, from what I red . . . and that's just my opinion, you do deserve better . . . she knew exactly what she was doing, respect your self man, you do not need to put up with this kind of crap . . . that's what I think, Cos she does not respect you . . . question is, if she ever did, or if she ever did know, what the hell she even wanted . . . I can not judge, nor criticize your relationship . . . I . . . for that mater anyone here, does not know the whole story, and each story have to sides . . . and the truth is somewhere in between . . .
She did what she did, she will have to accept the consequences . . . Nobody can tell you what to do, it is your life, your choices . . . but think on this . . .if you let her slide with this one . . . how far will she be able to push you . . and how much are you willing to put up with . . . She even did not try to hide it . . . that also says to me, she want's out . . . and she did what she did, cos it might have been easier for her, that you'd just go ballistic . . .and kick her out . . .
Who knows what was going through her head . . .
Personally I'd kick her out of the house, and move on . . . taking the good things with me . . and the rest leave it to history . . . But that's just me . . . I do not know if this helps you, but I do hope it will work out the way you wish, cos you are the only one, that knows, what is best for you . . . and if you two do work it out . . . that will be great to . . . Who knows . . . maybe in the long run, if you two manage to work it out . . . it will just make you stronger, it can happen, anything is possible . . .
She did what she did, she will have to accept the consequences . . . Nobody can tell you what to do, it is your life, your choices . . . but think on this . . .if you let her slide with this one . . . how far will she be able to push you . . and how much are you willing to put up with . . . She even did not try to hide it . . . that also says to me, she want's out . . . and she did what she did, cos it might have been easier for her, that you'd just go ballistic . . .and kick her out . . .
Who knows what was going through her head . . .
Personally I'd kick her out of the house, and move on . . . taking the good things with me . . and the rest leave it to history . . . But that's just me . . . I do not know if this helps you, but I do hope it will work out the way you wish, cos you are the only one, that knows, what is best for you . . . and if you two do work it out . . . that will be great to . . . Who knows . . . maybe in the long run, if you two manage to work it out . . . it will just make you stronger, it can happen, anything is possible . . .
Hey D..
U got mail....
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Brumleary: We have been together for over 3 years and I brought a house 2 years ago. She lives with me but things haven't been great lately. I came home one day and she was in bed crying her eyes out and she told me that she woke up naked in the bed beside one of my friends. My hands hurts but his face hurts more. She didn't try stop me so I don't think she wants to be with him. She kept telling me that I deserve better but whats best for me is to be with the one I love. I am not a jealous man, never have been so I explained that I can forgive her but she must never do it again. She thinks it's best we don't get back together. I don't have a clue what to do so I will be greatful for any advise
Is the lady claiming that the guy drugged her? Did she get wasted? It sounds like she wants to be with your friend.
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annboleyn: what I like about you is youre always so direct.
It's quite endearing, I know.
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Brumleary: We have been together for over 3 years and I brought a house 2 years ago. She lives with me but things haven't been great lately. I came home one day and she was in bed crying her eyes out and she told me that she woke up naked in the bed beside one of my friends. My hands hurts but his face hurts more. She didn't try stop me so I don't think she wants to be with him. She kept telling me that I deserve better but whats best for me is to be with the one I love. I am not a jealous man, never have been so I explained that I can forgive her but she must never do it again. She thinks it's best we don't get back together. I don't have a clue what to do so I will be greatful for any advise
Sounds like neither one of you was serious about your relationship, otherwise you wouldn't have been here and she wouldn't have been there! When you truely love someone, you won't want to do anything that could possibly hurt the other one or be with anyone else! Find someone you truely care about and quit playing games, it will make your life a lot more enjoyable!
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Brumleary: We have been together for over 3 years and I brought a house 2 years ago. She lives with me but things haven't been great lately. I came home one day and she was in bed crying her eyes out and she told me that she woke up naked in the bed beside one of my friends. My hands hurts but his face hurts more. She didn't try stop me so I don't think she wants to be with him. She kept telling me that I deserve better but whats best for me is to be with the one I love. I am not a jealous man, never have been so I explained that I can forgive her but she must never do it again. She thinks it's best we don't get back together. I don't have a clue what to do so I will be greatful for any advise
I've told so many people; living together is a terrible idea. Newsweek did a 10 year study and 93% of those living together broke up within 5 years. One person always ends up not wanting to be so committed and usually cheats.
I dont look at words I look at actions. If you love someone do you screw around? no;
She doesn't love you; end of story; you've got to wake up.
You are really losing your mind if you think this person didn't willingly sleep with your friend. It cracks me up when someones partner cheats they are mad at the other person instead of their partner.
Listen to yourself. Do you think she was just an innocent bystander and somehow she got naked and is with your friend and she is a defenseless little lamb and it's not her fault? come on.
You literally dont have the self esteem to leave her; she knows that; you pay the bills, you take care of her, and if you didnt' do that she would not be with you. end of story.
She's cheating on you, disrespecting you, and turning you into a person that has no self esteem. what is terrible too is you have a pattern of this; not only does she not respect you, neither do some of your friends. You have to make better choices.
You said you dont have a clue and unfortunately you are right. Love is action, not words. This person is using you.
LOL; You deserve better? that's someones way of saying I dont want to be with you and it's not my fault I'm scum.
she's not into you, she's not going to be faithful, and she doesn't love or respect you. If you dont' get out now, you will regret it for the rest of your life. You can do just fine without her, but do you have the strength to do it; right now you dont'; hopefully you'll get it soon.
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Witchaywoman: That's evil and hilarious!
That's Amore ......
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Brumleary: We have been together for over 3 years and I brought a house 2 years ago. She lives with me but things haven't been great lately. I came home one day and she was in bed crying her eyes out and she told me that she woke up naked in the bed beside one of my friends. My hands hurts but his face hurts more. She didn't try stop me so I don't think she wants to be with him. She kept telling me that I deserve better but whats best for me is to be with the one I love. I am not a jealous man, never have been so I explained that I can forgive her but she must never do it again. She thinks it's best we don't get back together. I don't have a clue what to do so I will be greatful for any advise
No one *accidentally* falls in bed, or wakes up naked next to someone else! I don't believe it anyway.
Just my two cents.
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Did she leave because she didn't love me or dose she just think I deserve better(Vote Below)