Why is it so hard to find someone if so many persons are seeking the same thing (58)
Ambrose2007BFE, South Dakota USA67 Threads 10 Polls 8,881 PostsIt might be because many people share the same unrealistic/inaccurate beliefs about relationships? 
Sampe1967: Met some one here and she said she'd be surprize if anyone didnt reply to a message like the one i wrote to her. she discribe me as a man of words who just know what to say and that my mind was her delight, we chat through the day every day untill she said we should meet. I told her i would do the traveling because i'm self employed. I got to her place at about 7:30pm because of a hectic journey. we hugged in the street and i thought she was perfectly made, we are of the same hieght, enjoyed the same meals and music and were of the same relious group. i went with her but slept in separate beds. next morning i head back home and the first message i got from her bore these words, "I'm sorry, I am not looking for a relationship"
LOCATION?
suggasugga: LOCATION?
That shouldn't be a problem. there were those who said they would swim the ocean or climb the highest mountain.Why try to analyze why a person does something. You really don't know what was going on in her thoughts and it's hard to judge what that is standing from afar. Things are not always what they appear. I always like to think that most people are fundamentally good, so try not to judge her or the situation. Just realize it for what it is. Nothing.
looks to me like we are all in the same boat here,all single,all looking except a few.Maybe we just need to relax a bit get to know the person,not judge so easly,some times it just doesn't work out.Sampe1967: Met some one here and she said she'd be surprize if anyone didnt reply to a message like the one i wrote to her. she discribe me as a man of words who just know what to say and that my mind was her delight, we chat through the day every day untill she said we should meet. I told her i would do the traveling because i'm self employed. I got to her place at about 7:30pm because of a hectic journey. we hugged in the street and i thought she was perfectly made, we are of the same hieght, enjoyed the same meals and music and were of the same relious group. i went with her but slept in separate beds. next morning i head back home and the first message i got from her bore these words, "I'm sorry, I am not looking for a relationship"
Sampe1967: That shouldn't be a problem. there were those who said they would swim the ocean or climb the highest mountain.
Romantic metaphor
"All human behaviour is governed by self-interest" -Sigmund Freud, Austrian psycho-analyst
AAAWWW!!!! So sorry it worked out that way! Almost seems odd, what was she looking for? Maybe it scared her! I've met a really great guy, but I want to take it slow....just being friends first, and slowly letting the other develop....feeling comfortable around him, being able to talk...very important to me...just hoping to make that connection of a long time relationship...
Sampe1967: Met some one here and she said she'd be surprize if anyone didnt reply to a message like the one i wrote to her. she discribe me as a man of words who just know what to say and that my mind was her delight, we chat through the day every day untill she said we should meet. I told her i would do the traveling because i'm self employed. I got to her place at about 7:30pm because of a hectic journey. we hugged in the street and i thought she was perfectly made, we are of the same hieght, enjoyed the same meals and music and were of the same relious group. i went with her but slept in separate beds. next morning i head back home and the first message i got from her bore these words, "I'm sorry, I am not looking for a relationship"
You didn't pack the salami in your shorts for the date ?
jvaski: You didn't pack the salami in your shorts for the date ?
we are ofthe same faith, so she knew it wouldn't bePeople are looking for perfection and we ain't! 
RillyNiceGuy: People are looking for perfection and we ain't!
Me too, LOL,
RillyNiceGuy: People are looking for perfection and we ain't!
That and they are looking for a dream that does not exist. Nobody is the dream mate that you see in the movies and on TV. If you buy into the image though you expect to find that dream lover.
Like Rilly says we're not perfect.
If you're lucky though you'll find someone who's imperfections contrast and compliment yours well.
bohemianjack: Romantic metaphor
"All human behaviour is governed by self-interest" -Sigmund Freud, Austrian psycho-analyst
"All human behaviour is governed by self-interest" -Sigmund Freud, Austrian psycho-analyst
What the monk is searching for in the dating website, LOL
In response to Sample 1967: my answer for u is that it is very simple, just because she doesnt want you, then why u need to understand the reasons why she did like that, just pls forget all, and move on,
Sampe1967: Met some one here and she said she'd be surprize if anyone didnt reply to a message like the one i wrote to her. she discribe me as a man of words who just know what to say and that my mind was her delight, we chat through the day every day untill she said we should meet. I told her i would do the traveling because i'm self employed. I got to her place at about 7:30pm because of a hectic journey. we hugged in the street and i thought she was perfectly made, we are of the same hieght, enjoyed the same meals and music and were of the same relious group. i went with her but slept in separate beds. next morning i head back home and the first message i got from her bore these words, "I'm sorry, I am not looking for a relationship"
not really looking i realize this time of moment is not for me so am just enjoying my kids an life.. an btw well said on the forum..kcuc0574: What the monk is searching for in the dating website, LOL
People watching is the best here darlin'
"I'm a man; but I can change, if I have to, I guess." ~The Man's Prayer: Invocation at the Possum Lodge... And their Motto: Quando omni flunkus moritati, Rough translation "If all else fails, play dead."
bohemianjack: People watching is the best here darlin'
"I'm a man; but I can change, if I have to, I guess." ~The Man's Prayer: Invocation at the Possum Lodge... And their Motto: Quando omni flunkus moritati, Rough translation "If all else fails, play dead."
"I'm a man; but I can change, if I have to, I guess." ~The Man's Prayer: Invocation at the Possum Lodge... And their Motto: Quando omni flunkus moritati, Rough translation "If all else fails, play dead."
Hi monk darlin, thank u, i am very impressive with your knowledge on Buddhism, and some songs u posted in website are the good ones,
thank u, LOL,
Ok truthfully..it sounds like she liked you, and somtime during the date you did somthing that turned her off and she decided that it was big enough that it wasn't going to work. Truth is...you don't know her personal history or what her relationships have been like. They might be having a more serious influence on her than anyone else can realize.
My biggest turn off is when a guy makes a highly insulting joke and thinks it doesn't hurt anyone or that it's hilarious. Some jokes that are insulting can be funny but you have to know the limits of those things...plz just have an awareness of who's around you.
haha..you should watch "The invention of lieing"...it kinda hits home as to why people somtimes NEED or feel REQUIRED to lie.
My biggest turn off is when a guy makes a highly insulting joke and thinks it doesn't hurt anyone or that it's hilarious. Some jokes that are insulting can be funny but you have to know the limits of those things...plz just have an awareness of who's around you.
haha..you should watch "The invention of lieing"...it kinda hits home as to why people somtimes NEED or feel REQUIRED to lie.
RillyNiceGuy: People are looking for perfection and we ain't!
mmmmhhhhhmmmm
HJFinAZ: OH my..................
hmRillyNiceGuy: People are looking for perfection and we ain't!
could be.HAI I LYK U
Sampe1967: Thanks brad. i wasn't expecting these kinds of results on the web you know, always thought people were actually more honest. and even those who dicribe themselves as down to earth, ask certain questions and the'll have your troat.
Sampe.... welcome to online dating... this is the nature of the beast. You simply try as long as you have the stomach for it. And you are right, Honesty is far down the list of what is important to most, many are treated badly and then pass it on to the next person until at the end, no one believes anyone else or tells the truth about themselves...
Perhaps you might try some sites where people have the same interests instead of 'dating' specifically; church, cars (oops not many women there right?), video games, fishing? I don't know, you'll have to think on it.
All the best of luck
Don't pay any attention to what a person say they are looking for. Their actions will tell you their real motives.
Sorry that happened to you, mate. But just be glad you got rid of her in time. She is a real poser! If she weren't looking for a relationship, then WHY is she on a dating site; & WHY did she want to meet you? She obviously did NOT do her homework to get to know you better before she wanted to meet you.
Dating sites are as tricky as the people on them. You have to learn all the wee signs to look for. Learn to take everything people say with a grain of salt, until they do something to PROVE they are sincere.
Beware of peeps who try to push you into something in a hurry. They are usually very unrealistic in their expectations.
Use your head first to sort a person out in an objective manner. If there is really a connection, your heart will follow. I've learned my head is always right about a person, but it takes practice & patience to develop a more rational approach to matters of the heart.
Good luck, mate!
Dating sites are as tricky as the people on them. You have to learn all the wee signs to look for. Learn to take everything people say with a grain of salt, until they do something to PROVE they are sincere.
Beware of peeps who try to push you into something in a hurry. They are usually very unrealistic in their expectations.
Use your head first to sort a person out in an objective manner. If there is really a connection, your heart will follow. I've learned my head is always right about a person, but it takes practice & patience to develop a more rational approach to matters of the heart.
Good luck, mate!
Sampe1967: Met some one here and she said she'd be surprize if anyone didnt reply to a message like the one i wrote to her. she discribe me as a man of words who just know what to say and that my mind was her delight, we chat through the day every day untill she said we should meet. I told her i would do the traveling because i'm self employed. I got to her place at about 7:30pm because of a hectic journey. we hugged in the street and i thought she was perfectly made, we are of the same hieght, enjoyed the same meals and music and were of the same relious group. i went with her but slept in separate beds. next morning i head back home and the first message i got from her bore these words, "I'm sorry, I am not looking for a relationship"
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