For MEN ONLY : What´s your style to say"it´s over" to a girl ? (58)
JAN_is: In normal circumstances I would agree, but what about women, or men for that matter, who are in abusive relationships? The only thing they can do is flee when a safe opportunity arises.
very true jan and agree with you comment 100%. not going into details but many years ago my sister was seeing some-one who was abusive to her and i delt with him.
craig63: very true jan and agree with you comment 100%. not going into details but many years ago my sister was seeing some-one who was abusive to her and i delt with him.
carlosweb10: How to END a relationship?
* Directly, short and crude, no time wasting
* Indirectly, I prepare a polite, colorful speech
* step by step, she will notice it then anyway
* I just leave her, that´s her problem, not mine
* Directly, short and crude, no time wasting
* Indirectly, I prepare a polite, colorful speech
* step by step, she will notice it then anyway
* I just leave her, that´s her problem, not mine
Why does the directly option also have short and crude on it?!
Why can't you be direct and not insensitive? That's how I handle breaking up with a man. (And where's the hands on hips emoticon when you need it?!)Oh, and the just not saying anything method really pisses me off. I hate it when men do that.
craig63: very true jan and agree with you comment 100%. not going into details but many years ago my sister was seeing some-one who was abusive to her and i delt with him.
Good for you stepping in to help her 
jvaski: I usually start with ......"let's split this" when the dinner bill arrives .......
I usually get her to pay the whole bill and that does it without having to say anything more. (and they say there's no such a thing as a free lunch)
cincity: Good for you stepping in to help her
thanks cincity, all i can say is his home for 18 months was intensive care, did he ever touch my sister again no he did not.
merry xmas
craig63: thanks cincity, all i can say is his home for 18 months was intensive care, did he ever touch my sister again no he did not.
merry xmas
merry xmas
Good grief. I can imagine how angry you must have felt, but I don´t agree with what you did at all.
Were you charged with assault?
JAN_is: Good grief. I can imagine how angry you must have felt, but I don´t agree with what you did at all.
Were you charged with assault?
Were you charged with assault?
hi jan, in answer to your question no. with the greatest of respect to you and your views its the only language they understand and its the only way to get the message through.
you cant rely on the law and the courts to punish them correctly so i believe in an eye for an eye.
carlosweb10: How to END a relationship?, how to get rid of a not going well situation and start another one? How to stick a goodbye on it?
what manners and skill do you use to flow the situation....
what manners and skill do you use to flow the situation....
On the rare ocasion I am with someone I do not give them flowers only living plants(after all its a relationship your trying to cultivate). But if things are going bad or there is no spark I give a single red rose long stem and give the dreaded talk. I pefer to be honest in all aspects of a relaitionship. It seems to work I am friends still wit a cople of my exs and even introdeuce one to her husband.. So I think I am doing things rite. have a good one all. And may the new year be better then the old And yes Im only a part time oger
craig63: hi jan, in answer to your question no. with the greatest of respect to you and your views its the only language they understand and its the only way to get the message through.
you cant rely on the law and the courts to punish them correctly so i believe in an eye for an eye.
you cant rely on the law and the courts to punish them correctly so i believe in an eye for an eye.
sadly, this is often true, and if ur sister had tried to fight back she would prolly have got in trouble. hate to day it cuz I have a lot of respect for officers of the law, but they can tend to blame the victim sometimes
Hay ! Why waist time life is short . . . . just tell them " there is a bomb under your seat and it's set to go off in about ten seconds " . . . . . works for me ! !
Justmyself0069: On the rare ocasion I am with someone I do not give them flowers only living plants(after all its a relationship your trying to cultivate). But if things are going bad or there is no spark I give a single red rose long stem and give the dreaded talk. I pefer to be honest in all aspects of a relaitionship. It seems to work I am friends still wit a cople of my exs and even introdeuce one to her husband.. So I think I am doing things rite. have a good one all. And may the new year be better then the old And yes Im only a part time oger
How's it goin Mister Just, .
No offense, but giving a Red Rose, . .just kinda sounds a little, cold blooded and pre-meditated, . . .
If you just get done seeing that combined look of, (shock, disbelief, and horror,) come over the little face, . . of someone you love, . . and then a flood of tears, . .
Dude, that is kinda cold blooded, . . .
It's like you're not really capable, . . of realizing the pain, . . that they are going through, . .
by the way, . .How did your little women, accept their rose?, . .
and How many months of intensive care, were you in the hospitol for? .
Thanks sugga. 
aJester22: Sorry Dude, . .But ya should never go out with a married woman with two kids in the frist place, . . .
And in thirty years, . . .I have never, ever, never had a little woman, that would ever even dare, think about cheating on me, . . for a second, . . ..
So, i guess I won't be useing the old (red rose) trick, . . .
But, with all due respect, . . . good luck to ya dude
And in thirty years, . . .I have never, ever, never had a little woman, that would ever even dare, think about cheating on me, . . for a second, . . ..
So, i guess I won't be useing the old (red rose) trick, . . .
But, with all due respect, . . . good luck to ya dude
Ummm I think Justy meant that the lady went on after him to marry and have two children ( at least thats how I read it)
venusenvy: Ummm I think Justy meant that the lady went on after him to marry and have two children ( at least thats how I read it)
Alas Sweet darlin Velvety, Vixen Venus, . ..
I was kinda jokin with him . . ..
I think he's got a sense of humor, , . .
aJester22: Sorry Dude, . .But ya should never go out with a married woman with two kids in the frist place, . . .
And in thirty years, . . .I have never, ever, never had a little woman, that would ever even dare, think about cheating on me, . . for a second, . . ..
So, i guess I won't be useing the old (red rose) trick, . . .
But, with all due respect, . . . good luck to ya dude
She was not married at the time. And I introdeuced her to her husband. Also any one can be cheated on, it happens. good luck to you as wellAnd in thirty years, . . .I have never, ever, never had a little woman, that would ever even dare, think about cheating on me, . . for a second, . . ..
So, i guess I won't be useing the old (red rose) trick, . . .
But, with all due respect, . . . good luck to ya dude
Don't call, don't tell...
Justmyself0069: Dude thats too cold even for me.
Trust me, by the time it gets to that stage she does not want to see me or me see her....except if there are kids involved...
Now lets talk about those who remain good friends with their ex's and why.
Lonely1: Trust me, by the time it gets to that stage she does not want to see me or me see her....except if there are kids involved...
Now lets talk about those who remain good friends with their ex's and why.
Now lets talk about those who remain good friends with their ex's and why.
why? because we dont pull that crap on each other. my friends anyway
thelastgoodman0: My method would be to involve her in the decision. I would tell her that I think things aren't working out, communicate clearly what I see as a problem that, if not resolved, would result in the end of the relationship, and listen to her point of view on the issue and try to find a way to work things out. If we could not agree to a solution, we would at least be able to know that we talked things through and gave it our best. The end result would be both of us accepting the breakup well.
Of course, this has never happened in my life. I've always ended up with women who couldn't or wouldn't communicate about problems in a relationship.
This is my way as well.Of course, this has never happened in my life. I've always ended up with women who couldn't or wouldn't communicate about problems in a relationship.
felixis99: why? because we dont pull that crap on each other. my friends anyway
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not weeks, . . .
Closure can ONLY be accomplished face to face, .with mutual respect, .