How soon do you want to become a non-single? (111)
FaithePortland, Victoria Australia5 Threads 4,169 PostsMy answer is yesterday...but thats not thier...
bluejay2011: Some time this week would be good. Mr Right for me can walk into my life and sweep me off my feet. I'm ready
honestly, when the time is right it will happen, when both are ready and not before as it is a two sided equation.
love allows no one to stay to a set plan, so why try to second guess it?
love allows no one to stay to a set plan, so why try to second guess it?
jem1964: honestly, when the time is right it will happen, when both are ready and not before as it is a two sided equation.
love allows no one to stay to a set plan, so why try to second guess it?
No thats makes sense. love allows no one to stay to a set plan, so why try to second guess it?
sxc666: It is important for me at this stage, to stay on my own for a while. I wouldn't mind him staying, but at this stage I wouldn't want his clothes unloaded in my cupboard or my car parked in his garage.I'd like to allow time to get to really know each other, pick a fight have a big barney see what he is like in anger, that sort of thing.
I'd like to keep the fire of looking forward to seeing him, and hopefully that fire would continue when you both made the decision to shack up together.
At this stage though, I want to keep my own security. Welcome back Normal.
I'd like to keep the fire of looking forward to seeing him, and hopefully that fire would continue when you both made the decision to shack up together.
At this stage though, I want to keep my own security. Welcome back Normal.
yeap!...i reckon we've lived long enough now to know it's the go
a nice steady pace, won't hurt...
jem1964: honestly, when the time is right it will happen, when both are ready and not before as it is a two sided equation.
love allows no one to stay to a set plan, so why try to second guess it?
love allows no one to stay to a set plan, so why try to second guess it?
No 2nd guessing, just shows how much people really do want to get a relationship happening and how much people like being in their singledoms.
normalguy68: No 2nd guessing, just shows how much people really do want to get a relationship happening and how much people like being in their singledoms.
in the mean time...let's entertain ourselve's with the forum's shall we
starcrossfish: in the mean time...let's entertain ourselve's with the forum's shall we
Nothing else happening so why not?
normalguy68: No 2nd guessing, just shows how much people really do want to get a relationship happening and how much people like being in their singledoms.
well I suppose it depends if you are happy to settle with just someone/anyone to fill the void, or actually take sometime to actually find the person who may be compatible long term.
I would prefer to take longer, and not accept something that isnt right.
I have had my chances with different men, and I am happy I walked away as it wasnt right and I would have just ended up hurt. Each time I walk away I gain some more strength and knowledge of myself, always a good thing
and life is to be experienced, not thrown away on a whim
jem1964: well I suppose it depends if you are happy to settle with just someone/anyone to fill the void, or actually take sometime to actually find the person who may be compatible long term.
I would prefer to take longer, and not accept something that isnt right.
I have had my chances with different men, and I am happy I walked away as it wasnt right and I would have just ended up hurt. Each time I walk away I gain some more strength and knowledge of myself, always a good thing
and life is to be experienced, not thrown away on a whim
Great words of wisdom.......thanks you are a Jem. I would prefer to take longer, and not accept something that isnt right.
I have had my chances with different men, and I am happy I walked away as it wasnt right and I would have just ended up hurt. Each time I walk away I gain some more strength and knowledge of myself, always a good thing
and life is to be experienced, not thrown away on a whim
jem1964: well I suppose it depends if you are happy to settle with just someone/anyone to fill the void, or actually take sometime to actually find the person who may be compatible long term.
I would prefer to take longer, and not accept something that isnt right.
I have had my chances with different men, and I am happy I walked away as it wasnt right and I would have just ended up hurt. Each time I walk away I gain some more strength and knowledge of myself, always a good thing
and life is to be experienced, not thrown away on a whim
I would prefer to take longer, and not accept something that isnt right.
I have had my chances with different men, and I am happy I walked away as it wasnt right and I would have just ended up hurt. Each time I walk away I gain some more strength and knowledge of myself, always a good thing
and life is to be experienced, not thrown away on a whim
Good on you!!
I TOTALLY relate!! Smart cookie 
normalguy68: Nothing else happening so why not?
busy, busy...gardening, working, being creative and hanging out with my girl...you?
maybee sooner than I thought ....
jem1964: well I suppose it depends if you are happy to settle with just someone/anyone to fill the void, or actually take sometime to actually find the person who may be compatible long term.
I would prefer to take longer, and not accept something that isnt right.
I have had my chances with different men, and I am happy I walked away as it wasnt right and I would have just ended up hurt. Each time I walk away I gain some more strength and knowledge of myself, always a good thing
and life is to be experienced, not thrown away on a whim
I would prefer to take longer, and not accept something that isnt right.
I have had my chances with different men, and I am happy I walked away as it wasnt right and I would have just ended up hurt. Each time I walk away I gain some more strength and knowledge of myself, always a good thing
and life is to be experienced, not thrown away on a whim
And time waits for no man and time is unkind to woman
jem1964: well I suppose it depends if you are happy to settle with just someone/anyone to fill the void, or actually take sometime to actually find the person who may be compatible long term.
I would prefer to take longer, and not accept something that isnt right.
I have had my chances with different men, and I am happy I walked away as it wasnt right and I would have just ended up hurt. Each time I walk away I gain some more strength and knowledge of myself, always a good thing
and life is to be experienced, not thrown away on a whim
I would prefer to take longer, and not accept something that isnt right.
I have had my chances with different men, and I am happy I walked away as it wasnt right and I would have just ended up hurt. Each time I walk away I gain some more strength and knowledge of myself, always a good thing
and life is to be experienced, not thrown away on a whim
Well said jem
I really think, generally speaking, that men don't feel complete without a woman at their side.
They seem to be more openminded about the qualities they would like in a partner and will settle, for want of a better word, for a woman without all the overthinking that us women can tend to do.
Men mostly seem to admit that they have simple needs and aren't hard to satisfy, and that's a good thing
Maybe women look further into the longterm prospects, well women who have been there done that anyway.
Not only can you end up getting hurt if you take on men who aren't compatible, it's wasting their time and they have feelings too lol
normalguy68: And time waits for no man and time is unkind to woman
Doesnt seem to be a real mate of yours either
kizzy27: Doesnt seem to be a real mate of yours either
I was trying to find a nice way of saying the same.akaRALF: I was trying to find a nice way of saying the same.
.........abnormal is back in his old form. serene56: Well said jem
I really think, generally speaking, that men don't feel complete without a woman at their side.
They seem to be more openminded about the qualities they would like in a partner and will settle, for want of a better word, for a woman without all the overthinking that us women can tend to do.
Men mostly seem to admit that they have simple needs and aren't hard to satisfy, and that's a good thing
Maybe women look further into the longterm prospects, well women who have been there done that anyway.
Not only can you end up getting hurt if you take on men who aren't compatible, it's wasting their time and they have feelings too lol
I really think, generally speaking, that men don't feel complete without a woman at their side.
They seem to be more openminded about the qualities they would like in a partner and will settle, for want of a better word, for a woman without all the overthinking that us women can tend to do.
Men mostly seem to admit that they have simple needs and aren't hard to satisfy, and that's a good thing
Maybe women look further into the longterm prospects, well women who have been there done that anyway.
Not only can you end up getting hurt if you take on men who aren't compatible, it's wasting their time and they have feelings too lol
i NEED a man that's compatible...you get it
i'm not saying anymore....just gonna sit back and see what 'normal' say's!!
poor guy....he's confused...normalguy68: It's quite simple, How long do you want it to take before you're happily hitched up with your significant other?
Personally the sooner the better, but I'm pretty fussy so it may take a little longer than I want it to.
NOWPersonally the sooner the better, but I'm pretty fussy so it may take a little longer than I want it to.
normalguy68: And time waits for no man and time is unkind to woman
unlike some time is not discriminatory, it is unkind to all.
serene56: Well said jem
I really think, generally speaking, that men don't feel complete without a woman at their side.
They seem to be more openminded about the qualities they would like in a partner and will settle, for want of a better word, for a woman without all the overthinking that us women can tend to do.
Men mostly seem to admit that they have simple needs and aren't hard to satisfy, and that's a good thing
Maybe women look further into the longterm prospects, well women who have been there done that anyway.
Not only can you end up getting hurt if you take on men who aren't compatible, it's wasting their time and they have feelings too lol
I really think, generally speaking, that men don't feel complete without a woman at their side.
They seem to be more openminded about the qualities they would like in a partner and will settle, for want of a better word, for a woman without all the overthinking that us women can tend to do.
Men mostly seem to admit that they have simple needs and aren't hard to satisfy, and that's a good thing
Maybe women look further into the longterm prospects, well women who have been there done that anyway.
Not only can you end up getting hurt if you take on men who aren't compatible, it's wasting their time and they have feelings too lol
Very well said.
Who is compatible with me?
If they're my age then they should have some assets, if not what have they been doing for the last 20 years? Living it up and squandering every cent that comes into their hands or they're lazy and don't work outside of the home because they won't pay for child care.
They won't be a smoker/drug user or heavy drinker/ gambler.
They will be close to their friends and family so they won't rely on me alone for their own happiness.
They will have at least a year 11 education or have been to courses outside school.
They won't have mental health issues
normalguy68: Very well said.
Who is compatible with me?
If they're my age then they should have some assets, if not what have they been doing for the last 20 years? Living it up and squandering every cent that comes into their hands or they're lazy and don't work outside of the home because they won't pay for child care.
They won't be a smoker/drug user or heavy drinker/ gambler.
They will be close to their friends and family so they won't rely on me alone for their own happiness.
They will have at least a year 11 education or have been to courses outside school.
They won't have mental health issues
Who is compatible with me?
If they're my age then they should have some assets, if not what have they been doing for the last 20 years? Living it up and squandering every cent that comes into their hands or they're lazy and don't work outside of the home because they won't pay for child care.
They won't be a smoker/drug user or heavy drinker/ gambler.
They will be close to their friends and family so they won't rely on me alone for their own happiness.
They will have at least a year 11 education or have been to courses outside school.
They won't have mental health issues
Just remember Normal not to expect someone to have or be something more than you are.
Make sure you are not counting on a partner to make you happy, you have to be happy within yourself first. Or you will build your happiness around someone else and if something happens you have to rebuild from scratch... again and it is more painful each time.
You at present arent actually 100% mentally healthy either, you feel that you are a victim, and you have said you are depressed. Get that looked into before trying to move forward into a relationship.
at the moment you need to look after yourself and learn to be you singly, not as part of a relationship
and yep, most of us have been in the same place, and some have made the same mistakes that you are making, others have actually listened to the advice given and worked their way through it all
the choice is yours to make
jem1964: Just remember Normal not to expect someone to have or be something more than you are.
Make sure you are not counting on a partner to make you happy, you have to be happy within yourself first. Or you will build your happiness around someone else and if something happens you have to rebuild from scratch... again and it is more painful each time.
You at present arent actually 100% mentally healthy either, you feel that you are a victim, and you have said you are depressed. Get that looked into before trying to move forward into a relationship.
at the moment you need to look after yourself and learn to be you singly, not as part of a relationship
and yep, most of us have been in the same place, and some have made the same mistakes that you are making, others have actually listened to the advice given and worked their way through it all
the choice is yours to make
Make sure you are not counting on a partner to make you happy, you have to be happy within yourself first. Or you will build your happiness around someone else and if something happens you have to rebuild from scratch... again and it is more painful each time.
You at present arent actually 100% mentally healthy either, you feel that you are a victim, and you have said you are depressed. Get that looked into before trying to move forward into a relationship.
at the moment you need to look after yourself and learn to be you singly, not as part of a relationship
and yep, most of us have been in the same place, and some have made the same mistakes that you are making, others have actually listened to the advice given and worked their way through it all
the choice is yours to make
The only thing deppressing me is that she has taken the kids from me.
I'm fine otherwise.
I understand where you're coming from, but the only thing that will make me happy is when I see my girls again.
You could only imagine what it's like to have someone cause someone pain like this by restricting your kids from you like someone mentioned before weapons/pawns.
It's not meant to be a chess game of court and police etc etc...
The kids have rights to see there dad and mum and she should be either fined or given some punishment for doing this.
jem1964: Just remember Normal not to expect someone to have or be something more than you are.
Make sure you are not counting on a partner to make you happy, you have to be happy within yourself first. Or you will build your happiness around someone else and if something happens you have to rebuild from scratch... again and it is more painful each time.
You at present arent actually 100% mentally healthy either, you feel that you are a victim, and you have said you are depressed. Get that looked into before trying to move forward into a relationship.
at the moment you need to look after yourself and learn to be you singly, not as part of a relationship
and yep, most of us have been in the same place, and some have made the same mistakes that you are making, others have actually listened to the advice given and worked their way through it all
the choice is yours to make
Brilliant Jem Make sure you are not counting on a partner to make you happy, you have to be happy within yourself first. Or you will build your happiness around someone else and if something happens you have to rebuild from scratch... again and it is more painful each time.
You at present arent actually 100% mentally healthy either, you feel that you are a victim, and you have said you are depressed. Get that looked into before trying to move forward into a relationship.
at the moment you need to look after yourself and learn to be you singly, not as part of a relationship
and yep, most of us have been in the same place, and some have made the same mistakes that you are making, others have actually listened to the advice given and worked their way through it all
the choice is yours to make
normalguy68: The only thing deppressing me is that she has taken the kids from me.
I'm fine otherwise.
I understand where you're coming from, but the only thing that will make me happy is when I see my girls again.
You could only imagine what it's like to have someone cause someone pain like this by restricting your kids from you like someone mentioned before weapons/pawns.
It's not meant to be a chess game of court and police etc etc...
The kids have rights to see there dad and mum and she should be either fined or given some punishment for doing this.
I'm fine otherwise.
I understand where you're coming from, but the only thing that will make me happy is when I see my girls again.
You could only imagine what it's like to have someone cause someone pain like this by restricting your kids from you like someone mentioned before weapons/pawns.
It's not meant to be a chess game of court and police etc etc...
The kids have rights to see there dad and mum and she should be either fined or given some punishment for doing this.
From what I have read from your posts is that you are tarring all woman with the same brush and that is not fair.
It looks like you are getting your frustrations out on on the ladies from this site.
THIS IS NOT ON! in fact I find it rather dumb that you should do this,look back on what you have written.!!!!
Dont you understand that most of these ladies have been hurt very badly in fact some do not want to enter into another relationship ever.This is what the male of the species has done to them.
You need to take time out and look to yourself instead of blaming others.
I know for a fact ...that how you are at this space in time no one would even consider a relationship with you if they read your posts.
Yet you have the audacity to state what you want in a partner.
You my dear are an ugly human being at the moment yet these ladies with a capital L... are willing to put up with your anger and self pity.
Get it into your thick head that if you venture onto this site
you are supposed to be polite and friendly.
If you do not change your attitude quick sharp! be prepared for life on your own.All you want at this moment is to see your children again fair enough!so what the hell are you doing on connecting singles???
And....What have you got to offer a lady right now????
normalguy68: The only thing deppressing me is that she has taken the kids from me.
I'm fine otherwise.
I understand where you're coming from, but the only thing that will make me happy is when I see my girls again.
You could only imagine what it's like to have someone cause someone pain like this by restricting your kids from you like someone mentioned before weapons/pawns.
It's not meant to be a chess game of court and police etc etc...
The kids have rights to see there dad and mum and she should be either fined or given some punishment for doing this.
I'm fine otherwise.
I understand where you're coming from, but the only thing that will make me happy is when I see my girls again.
You could only imagine what it's like to have someone cause someone pain like this by restricting your kids from you like someone mentioned before weapons/pawns.
It's not meant to be a chess game of court and police etc etc...
The kids have rights to see there dad and mum and she should be either fined or given some punishment for doing this.
so if the unthinkable happens and you are not allowed access to your children you will never be happy again?
I think not, as unthinkable as it is, you will learn to cope.
everyone happiness relys on their own outlook, not the people or items in their lives. Work on being happy in yourself Normal, your access to your girls will be even sweeter because you arent relying on them to be happy
dont think revenge or punishment, the pain and suffering of a separation is enough, no matter who instigates the break.
you ex probably wants to punish you from stopping her living her life the way she wants as well, but if either of you go down that path it is a long road of pain, not just for the adults, but especially for the children.
And the children should be the most important thing in both you and your ex's adult minds
jem1964: so if the unthinkable happens and you are not allowed access to your children you will never be happy again?
I think not, as unthinkable as it is, you will learn to cope.
everyone happiness relys on their own outlook, not the people or items in their lives. Work on being happy in yourself Normal, your access to your girls will be even sweeter because you arent relying on them to be happy
dont think revenge or punishment, the pain and suffering of a separation is enough, no matter who instigates the break.
you ex probably wants to punish you from stopping her living her life the way she wants as well, but if either of you go down that path it is a long road of pain, not just for the adults, but especially for the children.
And the children should be the most important thing in both you and your ex's adult minds
Brilliant.I think not, as unthinkable as it is, you will learn to cope.
everyone happiness relys on their own outlook, not the people or items in their lives. Work on being happy in yourself Normal, your access to your girls will be even sweeter because you arent relying on them to be happy
dont think revenge or punishment, the pain and suffering of a separation is enough, no matter who instigates the break.
you ex probably wants to punish you from stopping her living her life the way she wants as well, but if either of you go down that path it is a long road of pain, not just for the adults, but especially for the children.
And the children should be the most important thing in both you and your ex's adult minds
Martia: From what I have read from your posts is that you are tarring all woman with the same brush and that is not fair.
It looks like you are getting your frustrations out on on the ladies from this site.
THIS IS NOT ON! in fact I find it rather dumb that you should do this,look back on what you have written.!!!!
Dont you understand that most of these ladies have been hurt very badly in fact some do not want to enter into another relationship ever.This is what the male of the species has done to them.
You need to take time out and look to yourself instead of blaming others.
I know for a fact ...that how you are at this space in time no one would even consider a relationship with you if they read your posts.
Yet you have the audacity to state what you want in a partner.
You my dear are an ugly human being at the moment yet these ladies with a capital L... are willing to put up with your anger and self pity.
Get it into your thick head that if you venture onto this site
you are supposed to be polite and friendly.
If you do not change your attitude quick sharp! be prepared for life on your own.All you want at this moment is to see your children again fair enough!so what the hell are you doing on connecting singles???
And....What have you got to offer a lady right now????
It looks like you are getting your frustrations out on on the ladies from this site.
THIS IS NOT ON! in fact I find it rather dumb that you should do this,look back on what you have written.!!!!
Dont you understand that most of these ladies have been hurt very badly in fact some do not want to enter into another relationship ever.This is what the male of the species has done to them.
You need to take time out and look to yourself instead of blaming others.
I know for a fact ...that how you are at this space in time no one would even consider a relationship with you if they read your posts.
Yet you have the audacity to state what you want in a partner.
You my dear are an ugly human being at the moment yet these ladies with a capital L... are willing to put up with your anger and self pity.
Get it into your thick head that if you venture onto this site
you are supposed to be polite and friendly.
If you do not change your attitude quick sharp! be prepared for life on your own.All you want at this moment is to see your children again fair enough!so what the hell are you doing on connecting singles???
And....What have you got to offer a lady right now????
A share of my property settlement aprox $100,000+ea. A business partnership in a thriving desalination boom town, Interstate and overseas holidays every year, 2 - 3 rock concerts, stage shows a year, love, honesty, a smoke/alcohol free home, no personal debts other than a mortgage, regular night outs to the local eateries, a goal orriented guy who has the nouse to start a business from nothing and turn it into a business that can generate $70,000 profit year.
jem1964: so if the unthinkable happens and you are not allowed access to your children you will never be happy again?
I think not, as unthinkable as it is, you will learn to cope.
everyone happiness relys on their own outlook, not the people or items in their lives. Work on being happy in yourself Normal, your access to your girls will be even sweeter because you arent relying on them to be happy
dont think revenge or punishment, the pain and suffering of a separation is enough, no matter who instigates the break.
you ex probably wants to punish you from stopping her living her life the way she wants as well, but if either of you go down that path it is a long road of pain, not just for the adults, but especially for the children.
And the children should be the most important thing in both you and your ex's adult minds
I think not, as unthinkable as it is, you will learn to cope.
everyone happiness relys on their own outlook, not the people or items in their lives. Work on being happy in yourself Normal, your access to your girls will be even sweeter because you arent relying on them to be happy
dont think revenge or punishment, the pain and suffering of a separation is enough, no matter who instigates the break.
you ex probably wants to punish you from stopping her living her life the way she wants as well, but if either of you go down that path it is a long road of pain, not just for the adults, but especially for the children.
And the children should be the most important thing in both you and your ex's adult minds
Yeah right, and you think a woman would be just as happy to forego all contact with their kids, I think not.
As for what the kids want, how could you know what my kids want, they want their mum and dad to be back together.
I can only imagine the pain they feel inside like home sickness and the pain I feel with the loss of their love and the love I give them. No one loves their kids more than their parents do. To exclude either parents love and guidance from their kids lives is just wrong and reminds me of the time Aboriginal kids were removed from their parents and placed into caucasion families.
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