Do women run from NICE guys? (229)
kidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada30 Threads 16,544 PostsI can be nice, sometimes.
ew SUNSHINEB0Y: ok, well, I've got nice "baits" then
It all depends on the individual and what their personal tastes are.
I dont they they deliberately set out to run but if they are use to a certain pattern of men......then they go after them.
I dont they they deliberately set out to run but if they are use to a certain pattern of men......then they go after them.
rohaan: There is a spider (I saw this on PB) that pretends to want to share its dinner with another spider, and when he gets to the web, he gets et. Nice, huh? ha ha.....
O! The old monster in the closet thingy... Ya Ive met a couple of "nice" guys like that
PandoraX: I think she got the pronoun wrong... pronouns in Dutch are still difficult for me after all these years to.
"There's something to it" (or, in other words, you may be right)
"There's something to it" (or, in other words, you may be right)
Ooops
...but Good Morning firstly
and well, I meant that
thank you for your help
so note
"there's something TO it!" Not! at it 
English language = funny language
but don't worry, I guess German is worse
Thats why women run from me.
I'm not nice though . . . .
I'm not nice though . . . .
venusenvy: O! The old monster in the closet thingy... Ya Ive met a couple of "nice" guys like that
I have a little monster you haven't met, little girl,
Blain69: So it is said on the "inner circle" that women really are tired of nice guys..
When a Woman says she wants a "nice Guy" .... What she is really saying is she wants someone she can dominate lol.
I'm going to run away now....
To me a nice guy is some one that, when I,m away he doesn,t joke with his friends about ,the way to please a woman is to say, yes dear to everything and just brags alittle instead!
Blain69: So it is said on the "inner circle" that women really are tired of nice guys..
There is no such a word as "nice guy". If the find one that they can run the show, that is the "nice guy" otherwise he is "bad".
Icymanx: No they marry nice guys after they had there harts broken by the bad boy's!
Then they devorce him because he was too much of a nice guy.
Women think they turn a bad boy into a nice guy lol.
Sad thing about a Nice Guy, is that he really is a nice guy.
Icymanx: No they marry nice guys after they had there harts broken by the bad boy's!
yes...after 'screwing' all the so called bad boys(they call them cool guys though) in the city, they finally decide to settle down with a 'nice and polite' guy.....the same polite guy whom she never gave a damn about in the past!
StillOfTheNight: Thats why women run from me.
I'm not nice though . . . .
I'm not nice though . . . .
self-deprecating humor very nice in a man. 
I don't run anywhere... I prefer slipping out the back quietly and un-noticed...
Christmas1: "inner circle"...what is this inner circle Blaine? And you as a "nice guy", uh no.... We want a guy who will be protective and show that he "can be" bad to everyone else but us. BUT be a little bad in the bedroom.....
Exactly, good with a little bad. I think that is what I want.
I like to go slow and really find out what the guy is like.
A player can swept you off your feet and is gone, then you find out they were a big nothing. Then I would feel bad that I had ever gone out with them at all.
I think I have found that person, plenty of good qualities.
I think it is harder to find a good/bad guy but they are out there.
There are so many players, men that have been hurt, or just don't want a relationship. I've done my time.
I got to the point of saying stop this roller coaster ride.
I am going to stop dating for awhile. None of these guys were worth it. I decided to focus on my life , fill the time with things that make myself happy, and forget about the bad guys. They are going to forget about you.
He is basically a actor. After he has dated you, he moves on to the next women, he doesn't want a relationship. I am happy that those guys are gone, who needs them??
The better guys will look more attractive to you if you can get out of the player mode but you have to be open to happiness.
I think good men can have the same problem, they like bad girls and they end up playing the same game that women end up doing. At first, it's love and acting like they can't get enough of you. Then they start posting to you less or forget to call when they say they will. Then a week is gone. They should have called for the weekend. At that point, they are starting to move on.
You have been put on the shelf and then all of a sudden call you. You are excited but what about the time that has passed. That isn't mentioned - if you ask, they say they were too busy, didn't have time to write. But they write when they want something from you. They also write if they don't have luck with the next one. If you haven't been called for a week, you have been dumped and it is with no more communication by him. That is the easiest way for a player to end it. They don't have the decency to say I've had enjoyed your time but this is ending.
I personally would like to see a player woman meet a player man, then they can see what happens if one of them falls for the other. Maybe it is at that time, a player can feel what it is like. But I doubt it, they will recover and enjoy what they are doing. Their esteem isn't broken enough to stop playing.
It really does help protect yourself of being hurt by having a better selection of partners.
The Dobe
I'm bad with a little good 
any 1 for fun,? chase me
with a little good any 1 for fun,? chase me
Many women say they want a nice bloke who cares for them and knows how to treat a woman well. Some genuinely do but many out there have no interest in a nice guy.
What they really want is a charmer, a guy who is a bit of a cheeky chappy and many like the appeal of a guy with a bad boy image.
Strange then how they wonder why these guys flirt with other women, cheat and lie.
Do women think these guys suddenly change over night just because the guy is with them. I don't think so!
The person you meet for the first time is the person you will end up in a relationship with. Any character traits that attract you to that person in the first place may well be the character flaws you will come to hate because the person hasn't changed in the way you want them to.
Women (and men too) need to be realistic when they date, what you see when you meet someone for the first, second or even third time is what you will still see five, ten 15 months and years down the line. People only change in very subtle ways.
If a guy isn't nice, romantic and caring from the start then he never will be.
What they really want is a charmer, a guy who is a bit of a cheeky chappy and many like the appeal of a guy with a bad boy image.
Strange then how they wonder why these guys flirt with other women, cheat and lie.
Do women think these guys suddenly change over night just because the guy is with them. I don't think so!
The person you meet for the first time is the person you will end up in a relationship with. Any character traits that attract you to that person in the first place may well be the character flaws you will come to hate because the person hasn't changed in the way you want them to.
Women (and men too) need to be realistic when they date, what you see when you meet someone for the first, second or even third time is what you will still see five, ten 15 months and years down the line. People only change in very subtle ways.
If a guy isn't nice, romantic and caring from the start then he never will be.
Blain69: So it is said on the "inner circle" that women really are tired of nice guys..
no no no
once again and 1000 times NO
at least, nice women don't - often you find what u seek, and water will seek it's own level
so if ur a nice guy and some chick dumps u for a proverbial "bad boy" cut ur losses and be glad u found out early on that she was NOT such a nice girl
Don't make the mistake of seeing kindness or niceness as a weakness. It's not. It's a strength. It's nice to be important! but It's more important to be nice!
stephengriff: Don't make the mistake of seeing kindness or niceness as a weakness. It's not. It's a strength. It's nice to be important! but It's more important to be nice!
great post! sometimes it seems like some men are afraid to be nice - just do it, I sayfelixis99: great post! sometimes it seems like some men are afraid to be nice - just do it, I say
Thank you Felixis99. But it still amazes me the amount of paople that still make that mistake.stephengriff: Thank you Felixis99. But it still amazes me the amount of paople that still make that mistake.
people make a lot of mistakes! the nature of the beast, I guess
that's what is nice about these discussions "CS therapy"
we keep each other on our toes
a common complaint i hear a lot of guys talk about,
not just nice guys,
but "bad boys" that are still decent human beings,
is that so many women seem to go for the guys that treat them like crap.
these women say the guys that treat them well are boring.
i suppose being cheated on and mistreated isn't boring.
the thing most of us can't figure out is why they act surprised a year later when the guy is still treating them like crap, or treating them worse,
when the guy was very honest about who he was,
and how he would treat them from the beginning.
when they break up with that guy, they pick another one of the same, and eventually even their own friends stop feeling sorry for them.
is it really such a huge jump in logic that if you pick
guys that treat you like crap, they will treat you like crap?
not just nice guys,
but "bad boys" that are still decent human beings,
is that so many women seem to go for the guys that treat them like crap.
these women say the guys that treat them well are boring.
i suppose being cheated on and mistreated isn't boring.
the thing most of us can't figure out is why they act surprised a year later when the guy is still treating them like crap, or treating them worse,
when the guy was very honest about who he was,
and how he would treat them from the beginning.
when they break up with that guy, they pick another one of the same, and eventually even their own friends stop feeling sorry for them.
is it really such a huge jump in logic that if you pick
guys that treat you like crap, they will treat you like crap?
pikengren: a common complaint i hear a lot of guys talk about,
not just nice guys,
but "bad boys" that are still decent human beings,
is that so many women seem to go for the guys that treat them like crap.
these women say the guys that treat them well are boring.
i suppose being cheated on and mistreated isn't boring.
the thing most of us can't figure out is why they act surprised a year later when the guy is still treating them like crap, or treating them worse,
when the guy was very honest about who he was,
and how he would treat them from the beginning.
when they break up with that guy, they pick another one of the same, and eventually even their own friends stop feeling sorry for them.
is it really such a huge jump in logic that if you pick
guys that treat you like crap, they will treat you like crap?
not just nice guys,
but "bad boys" that are still decent human beings,
is that so many women seem to go for the guys that treat them like crap.
these women say the guys that treat them well are boring.
i suppose being cheated on and mistreated isn't boring.
the thing most of us can't figure out is why they act surprised a year later when the guy is still treating them like crap, or treating them worse,
when the guy was very honest about who he was,
and how he would treat them from the beginning.
when they break up with that guy, they pick another one of the same, and eventually even their own friends stop feeling sorry for them.
is it really such a huge jump in logic that if you pick
guys that treat you like crap, they will treat you like crap?
men do the same thing for a piece of tail
gemeh22: nope
I want a true nice guy not one that CLAIMS he is a nice guy! BIG difference
I want a true nice guy not one that CLAIMS he is a nice guy! BIG difference
Hi Gem
Yes have to say i agree with you....nice to see you..
stephengriff: Don't make the mistake of seeing kindness or niceness as a weakness. It's not. It's a strength. It's nice to be important! but It's more important to be nice!
Got to agree, trouble is most women on here say one thing and do another. Me thinks too many women here have been burnt in the past and tar all guys with the same brush. It's not enough to be nice you have to overcome their trust issues which always seems the biggest hurdle. Being nice seems to set off alarm bells and the thoughts of scammer, stalker or mummies boy comes into their mind.
Secondly, regardless of saying they want a nice guy most seem to go for the guy with the looks first and the personality second. If you're looking for a nice guy then it surely it should be personality first and looks second.
After all looks fade but the person endures and that what you have to live with afterwards.
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