Very insightful. It is nice to hear others say what is truthful and for anyone with eyes and ears to hear.
The teachings of the Christ is nothing like the teachings, practices and doctrines of modern Christianity in its many forms. And the original followers of Christ under Christ's teachings and knowledge predicted this great false system.
As an aside, often in times past, the pope of the day declared himself Godlike and that he alone controlled the power of God on the Earth.
This one man therefore "controlled" the God that people worshipped and made commands in the place of God on the earth.
Popes in many times have taken upon themselves many titles, including the title of "In the Place of Christ On Earth"....
Many people who opposed this system were exterminated. the mantra was convert or be killed.
None of this came from the teachings of Christ.
So well done, Catfoot. It is a pitty that many will read this and ignore it. Or try to defend a man-made system of religion in the name of Christ.
Shelly, you have to accept the good with the bad. Unfortunately, he will be in this situation for a long time to come. when kids are involved they will always be there. Divorce causes great hardships for families with kids. Kids don't ever really get over their parents divorce. They might cope in time, but it will always be a difficulty for them. And as you said, it may end up in yet another war in the courts.
He and you must both choose. Is your relationship worth the hassle? For me, this is a "no-brainer". My Girlfriend and I are prepared for whatever hardships are to come and prepared to take on all difficulties.
You have to choose for yourself. If you take this on, there will be times of drama, times of friction, and times of conflict.
This is the nature of divorce.
You must choose for yourself if you are willing to pay this price for love with this man. It is a cost you need to weigh up and decide for yourself.
For me, my girlfriend and I discussed this, and she is willing to move countries to be with me here in mine. It will not be easy for her and we have talked about this. She has great willpower and great passion and a lot of fear and worry about things for when she moves. She is real.
All I can do is love her for who she is and how she is. She also must do the same for me.
You cannot change what is. He is a father, and will remain one. His daughter is not yet able to make choices for herself.
This man will need to choose between you and his daughter. This is something that he must come to peace with. It is not right that he should be involving his daughter in this war of his choosing now. If he wants to be with you in your country, then he must relinquish his time with his daughter. It is not rocket science.
I am in the same situation as this man. My daughter is 10 years old.
So, you must choose if you are willing to move countries to avoid the bitter custody battle. If not, then you must accept that war is in your future with this man, whether you want it or not.
Either that, or you call it off for the sake of peace and drama-free life.
You choose for yourself. You know the answers for you. They are speaking to you in your heart and you hear them. Do not seek other answers from others. Listen to yourself and you must decide for yourself what you are going to do and going to accept.
I feel for you. Can be tough. Sounds like he is in rebound mode. Wants temporary "feel good" stuff, but does not want any real commitment. Even going out like dating stuff is commitment that he cannot do at the moment.
I've been there myself. The average time that it takes a guy to get past a divorce (grief) is about 2 years. Some take longer, some less, some never at all really. If it is messy, like mine was, I had no room for anything and could barely keep myself together during this war in the courts.
I'm sad that you have been caught up in this. I hope you can find your way through this and maybe not hold it too much against him.
Knowledge is your best defense. I don't know where he is at right now, but don't let this spoil your view of other men in the future.
Mate, You are right about all the controversy. It doesn't matter. Ultimately whether we believe in God or in something else only affect us.
The reason there is so much fighting over this is for self-validation. It is the insecure that must fight and bicker about this stuff to justify their own doubts that are deep seated and that they don't want to admit to, so to quell the deep unrest in their own souls they argue and fight in an attempt to convince themselves even more of what they preach.
Whether we were created or evolved does not affect God. I believe God just is. Just like we could argue about whether a glass is half full or half empty. It is exactly the same thing. The half glass is still just a half glass. Yet people will judge and criticise and almost kill each other in an attempt to justify their view of something that just doesn't matter because they are not secure in themselves to just believe what they believe. They need the approval of others to justify and rebuke the self-doubt in their own hearts.
Fighting over all sorts of things in human relations is all about the same things - control, self-validation, selfishness, and a corrupted thinking pattern. Nothing else.
Mate, this stuff is good for those who believe in it.
In the context of whom Jesus was speaking to when he gave these ideals, it was to people who professed to believe in him and who followed him looking for an easier life.
He did not say this to the general populace of people who did not believe in him.
So while it is good to talk about these things, it needs to be done in context and in understanding of your potential audience.
I suppose you like to initiate discussion and perhaps debate about this stuff, and if so, then good on ya.
Me personally, I think a dating site is more or less about dating, not preaching, unless your preaching has to do with dating.....
Many people do not understand that relationships were never designed to end. The original creation of the human condition was for a relationship to last the whole of life.
Because of the fractured human condition, many relationships do not now last, and what you describe is part of this inevitable fallout from this state.
We must understand the grive process and realise that it is akin to the stock market. We are on a high, cruising along nicely, then bang, the fall is like off of a cliff. Then we begin the struggle to come back up again with many ups and downs along the way.
Grief is usually a 5 stage process with anger, hurt, sadness, depression, and a heap of other things thrown into the mix. Most people take time to go through this process and it cannot be circumvented without lasting consequences. In other words, our bodies and minds will still work our way through this process whether we fight it or not.
For woman, on average, it takes about 5 years to fully recover from a relationship breakup. This is the scientific findings.
For men, on average, it takes about 2 years.
These are averages, so there will be those that recover earlier, and those that recover later than these averages.
The point is that we must acknowledge this grief and not try to circumvent it, as it is a natural cycle that we were designed to experience.
In our initial created environment, we were never meant to experience the destruction of relationships. But now it is all too often a fact of life.
Seek counselling is my advice. It works. It won't make the process any easier, but knowledge of the process and understanding of what we are experiencing, can develop hope, knowing that we will recover and that the light will shine once again in our lives, after a little time.
Well, it has been bucketing here for well over a month! Queensland could do with some sun finally. I am really starting to dislike intensely all the rain and grey skies.
Tell you what, how about we swap? Gimme sunshine anyday!
Knowledge - 1 Cor 13:8,9,10 "Love never fails [ never fades out or become obsolete or come to an end]. As for prophecy (the gift of interpreting the divine will and purpose), it will be fulfilled and pass away; as for tongues, they will be destroyed and cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away [ it will lose its value and be superceded by truth ]. For our knowledege is fragmentary (incomplete and imperfect) and our prophecy (our teaching) is fragmentary (imcomplete and imperfect). But when the complete and perfect (total) comes, the incomplete and imperfect will vanish away (become antiquated, void, and superceded).
Most of us think we know. But truth is not based in knowledge, it is based in belief and acceptance of the one who imparts truth.
We don't improve through suffering, we just endure it and are called to endure it when it comes. This is the revelation of the words often quoted about it. Yes some people must suffer, some people do suffer as a result of their own actions or the actions of others. But suffering does not bring with it improvement. Suffering just is. It can be used in different ways for sure, but it just is. Improvement comes from the working of God alone. Not because of anything we can do other than believe and respond to that belief.
None of us can reach the standard of Christ. That is why he came and died for us - while we were still sinners. Not because we were able to become perfect, even through faith and belief.
We can do nothing to attain salvation, it is the free gift of God.
So the bible needs to be read for what it says, not for what is incorrectly taught through various religions and church groups of what is supposed says.
Me, I'm visual. A picture says a thousand words. Reading actually hurts. My eyes don't work properly with text. So a movie is a better option. I don't have to concentrate and work so hard to follow the story.....
Interesting that you automatically link religion with God.
Athiesm is a religion where one worships oneself, or evolution, or some other thing and make this their God.
Religion can exist and does exist without God.
But God is not religious. How do I know this? Because when Jesus who claimed to be the Son of God, walked this earth, he was in continual conflict with the "religious" of his day. They hated the fact that he loved sinners, and forgave them.
But he held accountable the religious. Eventually they coerced the government power at that time to kill him when the governor of that province had pronounced this man "innocent". But to prevent a riot and rebellion instigated by the "religious" of the day, the government allowed this innocent man to be killed to satisfy the "religious".....
God is a scientist! How much of the known universe is without intelligent design? God encourages us to learn by experience, by experiment.
"love doesn't cost a thing.".... I'd disagree and say that love, true love, will often cost you almost everything. It does have a price and usually this price is more than many are willing to pay. Hence the divorce rate and the decay of our society.
Love is a living thing that can be killed, just like any other living thing. Yes people murder love daily.
Love is a decision, a commitment. Love is not a feeling. The feeling associated with love is not love itself.
Love can motivate you to become a better person, but so can wealth, prestige, fame, and many other things.
Love is patient, kind, not self-seeking. It endures all things. It rejoices with truth, but hates falsehood.
These things, in my opinion, are more the real love.....
You know what, be yourself. Don't worry what you appear. If you try and be some other way than what is natural for you to be, you'll cause yourself some damage, whether it be emotionally, physically or psychologically.
You gotta be who you are. Hey, what does it hurt to say "I like you"?
You know some of us blokes are real, and sometimes it's really nice to find a chick that will actually let us know where we stand and that we are not wasting our time or some back-up plan....
Take a risk, roll the dice, but don't give everything away. The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step.
So just take a little step and see where it goes. You've nothing to lose really. If he is real and he likes you, then you have a lot to gain.
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Indeed so Catfoot! Ha ha ha. Well, I can't spend all of my time on this site! Surprising as this might be to some. Have a great week!