Maybe just stay single and enjoy dating both of them. If you have told one or both that you love them, and that they are the one for you, then you are in for a fall, my friend.
There is a saying, "you can't ride two horses at the same time".
This is reality. Either make up your mind, or watch out.
I am engaged to marry my perfect partner for me. But my heart melts when I talk with my previous girlfriend still.
You could say that I love them both, but I had to make the hard choice because I love them both.
Love will make sacrifices and consider the long term well-being of another. So if you really love both of these women, then make the hard choice so that the other can get on with her life and maybe find another love who will give all of their love to her alone.
Yeah, hang in there. I know how you are feeling. Been there done that. But it can and will work our for both of you.
You both deserve to be with each other and I believe that you will both be together and have a good life together.
Hang in there. Anna and I email each other every day, as well as talk on the phone every day. Yes every day.
Keep records of everything for the immigration process. Print out your emails regularly as part of the proof that your relationship is real. Keep printouts of detailed phone records of when you both talk together on the phone, keep Skype logs if you both use Skype, etc. Also keep postage envelopes etc when you send anything to each other. This may also be used as evidence of your relationship. All these things were required by my embassy when processing Anna's visa application.
We will have been together 12 months when we both come back to Australia.
We began our migration process in May. So even though it has dragged, and copious trees were used in paper, it has been a relatively quick process. The process can usually take up to 12 months.
Ha ha. Luckily all things have fallen into place perfectly. Anna is retiring from her job at the end of December. (yes, the Chinese can retire a lot earlier than in the western world, and they get a pension to boot), so our coming to Australia in January is perfect timing.
Yes it is a lovely song with sad words. But look up to the stars and not down to your feet. When you look up there are many more wonderful things to see than when we look down.
Older... younger.... who really cares. There does come a point when the difference in age will become apparent.
I tried to explain this to one of my close friends. If a person is more than 10 years different in age, often as the years pass, the older partner will want to slow down when the younger partner is still full of life.
The greater the age difference the more pronounced the differences in abilities as both begin to age become.
Eventually, the younger will end up being the nursemaid to the older because the effects of age cannot be stopped.
When both people are in the primes of their lives it doesn't make much difference, but when we begin to enter the twilight years, the differences begin to become profound.
Time of holidays can be difficult when single. Not everybody is suited to being on their own. I am one of these types of people. It is not good for me to be alone.
But in these times, I try to find interesting things to do.
My fiance is also troubled by the cultural expectations in her city of Fuzhou. Every day friends and colleagues ask her how is her husband and her children.
It is very difficult for her to have to say that she has no children. For her in China, is big embarrassment to not have children.
So you are not alone. Remember that even though it may be uncomfortable, or lonely that you are not suffering alone.
Each stage of life has good and bad in it. We must focus on the good, and wait patiently. It can be difficult though.
I hope your "Country Day" holiday has been good for you.
There are so many tales of evil, heartlessness, selfishness, greed, murder, hatred.... the list goes on and on.
but love, true love is real and will one day vanquish all this evil.
It will not happen in a way that people will naturally recognise.
The problem is that we all must live through this real hell right now.
Some will transcend it by grace to live happy and free lives, some will remain in the hell that they create through continually feeding on evil, heartlessness, selfishness, greed, murder, hatred and everything else that goes with these things.
This man will one day have to give account to the judge of all people. May he receive the wages for his evil in full....
You are entitled to your opinion, but I believe that everyone can be who they are. Just because someone is not continually writing or talking with me does not mean that they are not genuine or that they are not my friend.
Friendship is a state of being, not a classification. I have friends I have known for 30 years. There was a time I did not speak with them or write them for about 10 years. Our lives went different paths. Then they re-aligned again, and it was as if we were never apart.
I understand that you are wanting a girlfriend, a partner. I think you need to differentiate your friendships from potential relationships that might lead to marriage some time.
I understand you feel hurt by their behaviour in not writing. But really I think you need to take a look in the mirror. I don't think you are very genuine if you get angry when someone doesn't write to you immediately or for a little while.
You are right. It is easy to waste away out time in complaints. You are very industrious. You do a good thing wanting to get your work done so that you can go home on time.
Suhua lives in Fugian province and she also is supposed to finish her work at 18:00. However this is not always possible because of interuptions, distractions, and her boss.
So I think it is good to try and finish your work every day. But remember that you can only control what you do. You cannot control other factors that might prevent you from being as efficient as you want to be.
Be content to work as best as you can. Then you have done all that you can do.
I believe that at some time in our lives, we will be rewarded for the good things that we do and the hard work we put in.
You have taken the first step to healing. You have admitted you have a problem with jealousy. Step#2, now what will you do about it? Write down how you would feel if a man,did the same to you. Be honest as it is easy to fool ourselves. When you have finished put it away. When you get anxious and want to check up on him, reread your answer about how you would feel.
Then think how you would like to be treated. Treat your bf the same. Or write him an email instead of checking up on him. Tell,him how much you love him in the email and how you wish you could be with him. Turn your insecurity into longing for your loved one. Give this a try.
Depends on ones personal character, faith and personal strength. I stayed until she pulled a coup de ta. It was very difficult being in,such a relationship. But we do crazy things for love that we hold despite others.
I believe that marriage is for better or worse. Dead love can be resurrected. But it takes 2.
You have done nothing wrong in hoping for a loving relationship and waiting patiently for it to materialise. Sadly this did not happen for you.
No person can 'tell' you what to do. You must decide for yourself.
Personally, I can suggest that no matter how painful it is, I believe that you are better off relinquishing this relationship and seeking one that is truely what you seek.
You have a beautiful heart, and I believe in that beautiful heart you already know the answer that you seek.
Make your decision that I believe you already know needs to be made, allow yourself to grieve the loss of your hope, and move on.
There are men who are looking for a genuine girl like you to love, and to care for and to be in a genuine relationship with.
An oxymoron (plural oxymora or oxymorons) (from Greek ???µ????, "sharp dull") is a figure of speech that combines contradictory terms. Oxymora appear in a variety of contexts, including inadvertent errors such as ground pilot and literary oxymorons crafted to reveal a paradox.
This is a definition of oxymoron. It means that something is contradictory. Whoever "they" are that say "happily married" is an oxymoron obviously has not had a happy marriage.
I have had a happy marriage until a few years ago, and it is no oxymoron. It is possible and it is a blessing from above.
The relationship I am now in is also happy and we will be getting married in the foreseeable future.
So take my word for it, "they" are not always right.
Well, you just have to be very selective about which forum posts and blogs you read.
Yes, there are entertaining and interesting and sometimes humourous blogs and forum posts. But they are not necessarily as constantly prolific as your friend might have said.
It depends on what one constitutes as 'entertainment'. Some love the drama, the arguing, the bickering, and the infantile rants of some on here. Some don't.
Maybe your friend is one that likes those sorts of things and find it entertaining listening to dribble....
I can give you encouragement that you can find your "Mr Right". But be patient.
I am proof that my ideal match was not what I originally was looking for.
But I found my ideal match by looking outside what I thought would be a good match for me. I was wrong in what I was originally looking for, so when I changed my view of who would be a good match, I found my beautiful Chinese woman.
She thought that a relationship with me was impossible, but yet here we are, engaged and going to marry.
So don't give up. I give you encouragement that it can happy for you. Just keep on waiting, and trying to find your "Mr Right".
You are beautiful, and I know that there would be heaps of guys interested in you.
It is a really nice thing to hope this would be true, but often it is not true in this life. Sure if one believes in an afterlife it would be nice to this.I that there would be equity & justice, but this also may not be the case. Sometimes life six and nothing will ever make up for it. After all, the Christian message is forgiveness. No real mention of justice in there at all.
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Hey there Kathy,Happy to hear that you are safe and that the recovery process is slowing working.
There is so much tragedy in the Philippines right now.
Hey, how is your BF? I hope that he is treating you very well.