Hi there. Yep.... It's the memories we have and that get embellished as we get older that give us such longings.
I have felt this exact same way, and I have caught up with some of my past close friends. We are still close, but they have changed and I have changed.
Times moves us on, and we find ourselves in new territory with old memories of how things used to be, where we were comfortable in a time past.
As others have said, while hanging onto these, we must make new friends in our new lives.
I have found that in my life, I have had to experience many "new births". And always, the birting process is not easy or painless. Yet with each of these times, my past memories have held me and helped me through.
I have found that as I look back on these "rebirths" I have new fond old memories of people I met who have joined my other good friends. So now I look for the new good friends who I will meet, have a coffee with, laugh and bemoan little things with.
I have found that to live is to experience new people, new friends while my old friends are always there when we can catch up.
Q. At what time of the year (or season) would shepherds be out in the fields with their flocks (during the night)? A. Not in December. Shepherds were only out in the fields at night with their flocks during the lambing season. You should check out what season (time of year) lambing occurs in that part of the world.... There is no reason to speculate. The fact that shepherds were in the field with their flocks at night clearly indicates when Jesus was born (during the lambing season).
Q. Modern Christianity always portrays the angels singing at this particular time. What were they actually doing? A. They were speaking, not singing. Saying their praises of God.
Q. When did the "wise men" appear on the scene? A. When Jesus was born, it was the shepherds that went to see him at the time of his birth. The wise men appeared approximately 2 years afterwards. Hence why Herod ordered or male children 2 years and under be killed.
It is important at this time of year that the adaptation of the birth of Jesus to coincide with the pagan celebrations of the winter solstice (including the tree, and other such things) be seen to be misleading people and not showing the truths for what they are.
Hi there. It can be a difficult road to walk. I have been where you are, and I can say that yes there are many people who will be suitable, but that you may need to look outside the square to find them.
I dated many girls, and was hurt many times. But love is there, waiting for us.
Have faith, hope and don't give up.
I found love on this site ( and married her ). I have also made lasting friendships with people on this site (that still continue off of this site).
I know it can be lonely. I've been lonely too. But those times will pass by and be replaced by other, more positive moments.
Like the waves on the beach, those feelings will swell up and push against our heart, and then fall back freeing us of the feeling of lonliness and longing.
You are not alone out there. I felt as you have expressed in this blog. Thousands, if not millions of others have as well. Many also feel the same as you even right now.
But love is out there. Don't rush it, be patient, wise, and willing to keep looking.
It can happen for you, and in my experience, it happens when you least expect it.
Ah, just keep on trying. I found quite a few really lovely ladies here who I am proud to call my friends now. I also found my wife here. So it does work...... if..... you are prepared to put in the hard yards.
Don't expect the ladies to come clamouring to your door begging for you to talk with them.... you still have to woo them the old fashioned way with gentle and wise persistence.
Keep you head in the clouds and your feet on the ground.
You can do it.
Whinging doesn't help to promote yourself here. The real ladies will see it and maybe compare what you write with your profile to see if they marry up....
I think it can be hard to get into many countries. Being Australian doesn't make it easy to live anywhere. I can travel to many countries, but i can't migrate to many countries.
It is the same for people all over the world.
Oh, the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence but it is not necessarily so.
Completely understand the jetlag, has taken me about 3 days in China to get over it, Having to use a chinese keyboard to type in english is also interesting.
It is good to share how you feel, especially at this time of year. Yes tragedy does happen and when it does, it is good to grieve and also to reflect.
Death puts life into perspective. We are all busy making a living, and not living our lives. None of us know the day and the time when we will also join others when we fall asleep.
Working is important, but not more important than living with our loved ones, in my opinion.
The rich man will lie down with the poor man. All mankind is equal in that.
Depression is a natural part of grieving. Let yourself grieve your loss. But also let your heart remember the good times you shared together. Remember that this life is not all that there is.
I believe that we all live on in some form, and that at some time in the future, we can and maybe will see our loved ones again. Maybe even talk with them.
I am not trying to start a theological debate, but to share my hope in my belief that death is not the end of our loved ones. It is the beginning of another life.
Negative energy? No. Sadness is a part of life, so too is recovery, and then happiness when we think of our loved ones.
One of my favourite sayings is "Serenity is not the absence of the storm, but peace amidst the storm".
You can have peace and you will have peace again. Just give yourself time, and be patient with yourself.
Yes, grief leaves behind us a trail of negative emotions. When we walk the whole path of grief, our lives can again be free as you are.
But after every betrayal, every heartbreak, our next relationship will wear the scars of the previous heartbreak and betrayal.
We never again love like we did the first time. We guard a part of our soul, we remember in the deepest part of our soul and we do not give our all to our next love.
If we have experienced many heartbreaks, we begin to become hardened.
I hope that you never again experience a heartache. I really do.
Because I don't want for you what I have seen in others.
Good on you for overcoming your heartbreak. You have accomplished something for yourself, something special, something to be proud of.
Science has proven that we only see about 1% of the entire visual spectrum, we also only hear about 1% of the entire audio spectrum.
What chemicals can do is alter the mind's ability through the brain to tap into a little more of these spectrums.
Some who hear voices are actually hearing sounds or voices that are normally missed because of our limited usual sensory spectrum.
This is also the same for some who see "ghosts".
Angels exists in the same time/space that we do, but we are unaware of them most of the time.
Fallen angels are still angels so if we are able to see/hear from good angels or the Spirit of God, or whatever - it goes with the territory that we will also be able to do the same from other beings who intent is to be an enemy of us.
What the medications do that treat these supposed disorders, is to change the chemical makeup in our brains and thus reduce the spectrum of sound and vision to no longer see or hear outside of the very limited usual audiovisual spectrum of humans.
I remember a wise saying. "Life is what happens to us while we are busy making other plans".....
I think that there is truth in this saying. It is good to make plans, but it is also good to be able to change our plans because of unexpected events in our lives.
I hope that all goes well for you in your plans and that you may be able to do all that you set your mind to do.
Wow, that is a very big claim to make. And it also opens up a real can of worms.
Sometimes people need to experience their problems and not be saved from them, so that they can come to repentance.
Remember the story of the "prodigal son"? He had to sink down into the lowest pit of his soul before he could repent and return to his father.
This also is sometimes the case for people. Some people should not be helped so that they can come to repentance just like the "prodigal son". Oh and it was the "prodigal son" that had to make the first move back to his father. His father was waiting and looking, but the "prodigal son" had to act and actively take steps on his own to go back to the father.
God is not a charity. He clearly shows us what we must do. He is not always there for everybody. There are conditions that must be met first.
You should look at the "free" countries. I really don't see much difference in the divorce rates between those with arranged marriages and those who freely choose their marriage partner.
Both types of marriages seem to have equal levels of unhappy marriages. Now why is this?
I think it has more to do with attitudes than with the marriages themselves.....
It is easy for what Jesus said to be misinterpreted. Yes we need to lost pride like a little child, but we must be discerning, we must be cautious about who we talk to.
God said that there would be imposters who come in his name, taking his very name as their own. He said that we are NOT to listen to them.
Talk with God is good, but it is also to occur in the appropriate season and time.
Jesus said that many would say to him "Lord, Lord....." He said these people would preach in his name, that they would even perform miracles in his name. But his sentence against them is to cast them out and have nothing to do with them.
Now this is not the person you talk about in your quote. No this person expects accountability and will not have a conversation with just anybody.
I think it is about time that people who preach take a really honest look at the one who they preach, and understand that the freedom he gives, is not freedom as humanity understands it. Salvation and Eternal Life is not the salvation and the eternal life that humanity looks for.
And God does not speak to everybody the same. Think about the man who was was healed when the "Legion" of demons were driven out of him by Jesus. Jesus DID NOT allow him to become one of his disciples. Huh? This Jesus is not the Jesus preached above.
I encourage you to take a look at the real Jesus, and get to know him first.
God expects us to take the first step now. Jesus died making a way open to communication with God, but that way is narrow, difficult, and costly. It is not easy.
Easy is the way to death according to the real Jesus of the bible.
It is a pity that people refuse to accept the bible's true account of the time of year when Jesus was born. It was the time of the lambing season in the middle east, not the time of the the winter solstice.
The story of the birth of Christ, is unique, in that the first to hear of his birth were ignorant, humble herders still in the fields with their flocks (this would not have been the case in the middle of winter).
The story clearly states that there was no singing. But who knows that these days? Instead there was praise and an announcement.
It was during the time of one of the Census' by Caesar who wanted to raise money by taxing people.
Jesus was wrapped in the cloths that the priesthood used to wrap the sacrificial lambs whose destinies was to die on the alter as a sacrifice. they were wrapped up so that they would not get bruised or hurt or damaged in any way to remain perfect.
The three men who came from the east brought three significant gifts of prophecy. 1. Gold for a king, 2. Frankincense used in religious ceremony to symbolize prayer on behalf of the people and signifying Christs priesthood, 3. Myrrh used in the burial ceremony of the day prophesying his death.
People don't know these fact because they are not preached or taught. The reason is because the true gospel is nothing like the gospel preached in churches today, especially Sunday worshipping churches......
But I know that there are other men who have the same values as me. They are usually quiet and not brash, so often they are easily overlooked in the crowd.
I know that there is a good man for you out there Francie. You just wait and see.....
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RE: I still miss you guys...
Hi there. Yep.... It's the memories we have and that get embellished as we get older that give us such longings.I have felt this exact same way, and I have caught up with some of my past close friends. We are still close, but they have changed and I have changed.
Times moves us on, and we find ourselves in new territory with old memories of how things used to be, where we were comfortable in a time past.
As others have said, while hanging onto these, we must make new friends in our new lives.
I have found that in my life, I have had to experience many "new births". And always, the birting process is not easy or painless. Yet with each of these times, my past memories have held me and helped me through.
I have found that as I look back on these "rebirths" I have new fond old memories of people I met who have joined my other good friends. So now I look for the new good friends who I will meet, have a coffee with, laugh and bemoan little things with.
I have found that to live is to experience new people, new friends while my old friends are always there when we can catch up.
Cheers,