Decades into womens' lib it's not too surprising that we've become more and more like a kept lady of leisure over the last 40/50 years.
But I am not this. I'm good looking, intelligent enough, quite successful(I can be very boring when I put my mind to it)so why can't I have a nice car, a big house, a hot wife, and three or four beautiful children?
The takeaway message for men on encountering a quote-happy woman is to conclude that she's either lonely, insecure, or vain. Or all of these things. The number of quotes is a near-perfect measure of her dissatisfaction with life.
It's unremarkable to point out that women like to dress up. Dress up everything from themselves to the words they use. They interpret the world at the level of images and noises with an associated feels rewards or hurtful hurtiness. The actual content of something can border upon meaningless; if she has a lot of these quotes, many(most?)will contradict each other. What's most important is that the quotes look good and reflect well upon her.
There's something a white person would never say. We're usually weak-willed and claiming the opposite, not strong-willed and seeking humility. The name of my profile is a joke upon how we are. A little bit of stubbornness and an aloof manner is like catnip to vain and dependent attention-seekers.
Western culture co-evolved with technology and the industrial revolution. We've had generations upon generations to adjust to the modern world which does not require large families.
The rest of the world has had industrialisation rushed upon them. They've imported 200 years of material, scientific and technical development but this doesn't that they leap forward 200 years culturally. In their minds it's still 1815, but they have in their hands the tools of 2015.
I've certainly noticed a large uptick in picky customers who simultaneously don't know anything about the work they want doing, or how to get there on a budget. Never has so much time been invested in saving a few pound, it wouldn't be worth the minimum wage.
One huge fusion reactor providing power for a billion is much better for the environment than a billion wind turbines.
This quaint pre-industrial view of the self-sufficient household is extremely unlikely when everything points towards greater integration and mass markets. I'm not saying there won't be any, but they'll be a feelgood novelty, charged at a premium, and not actually thast eco-friendly like a lot of "green" stuff already is.
You should at least be open to the idea that you're not able to do everything a father can because if you're wrong then you are deliberately ignoring your child's needs for the sake of your peace of mind.
I understand that you want to convince yourself that you've made the right decision, and you may not be able to provide everything a father can and still have made the right decision, but as a mum you are there to nurture your kids and not validate your ego.
That sounds like an horrendous amount of effort to go through to be unnecessarily cruel.
Why not join Tinder where the girls will be more than twice as attractive, less than half the trouble, and unlikely to invest all their hopes and dreams in you? This would be far more rewarding with only a fraction of the mess.
Their stultifying lack of common sense both terrifies and amuses me. It's difficult to express both emotions at once. It's as if they would follow any order you give them(even when they don't need to). I know the British had the Somme where we sent thousands to die by the hour, but you could repeat that battle every day in the far east and I doubt anybody would blink an eye.
Considering that Hillary will win then I want Trump to be the leading Republican. I like the essence in much of what Trump says and someone does need to say it, but I don't like what he does, and leader of the opposition is a position where only what a person says matters and what a person does doesn't matter - i.e. perfect position for Trump.
I would argue that the lion's share of problems in the West are caused by our inability to correctly value merit. In some cases we provide education and opportunity way beyond a person's genetic worth, and in other cases we neglect education and opportunity to the genetically worthy.
Imo 80% of western people are either "clever sillies" with a little knowledge proving to be a dangerous thing, or if they do have common sense they are apathetic and disenfranchised. This situation arises from over-educating too many genetic morons and under-educating too many genetic superiors.
The answer for me is that you need both equally. Potential without education is useless and education without potential is pointless. The same applies to ability: Ability without opportunity is useless(and dangerous), opportunity without ability is pointless(and dangerous).
By then I expect the concepts of honest hard work and social discipline will be irrelevant and replaced by automation and the machines.
I expect in 2065 people in developed countries will be paid to exist and 98% of jobs will be spurious 'top-up' incomes for the government 'wage' everyone receives. Most of these jobs will be to prevent insanity in an idle humanity redundant of purpose and faith. I believe western people are well-prepared for a increasingly infantilised world that does not require them to function as proper adults. We're ready for a future of mickey mouse work for mickey mouse people.
By complicated do you mean drama-prone? Many men are baffled by the fact the more he tries to appease and placate his woman the more restless and unhappy she becomes. Through herculean efforts he can calm the sea itself only for her to rock and capsize the boat.
But woman are not complicated. What complicates things is the lack of communication caused by the fact that most men are not fluent in womanese, or if they are, fluent only in the linguistic sense and not the psychological - they understand her words but they don't understand her whys. Anyway, to those comprehensively fluent in womanese a woman is not regarded as complicated, but as drama-prone and emotionally reactive. Women are like refined children somewhere between an adult and a child whose closest equivalent is the adolescent - hence the moodiness, drama, inconsistency and all the lifelong teenage behaviours of women.
It's more intense, passionate, and seductive if you allow us to think that you need us even if you don't. A lot of women have forgotten the feminine art of playing hard to get and instead try to play it cool like bad boys and end up being cold(and also not very believable).
Peaks and troughs, sands. People can and do learn lessons, but you're right the overarching trajectory is the snowball trajectory. The question for me is can we build the robots and machines fast enough to preserve our increasingly decadent and perishable state?
But amongst the working classes women keep society together. At the bottom of society men are the most degenerate and destructive, at the middle and upper rank it is women who are the most degenerate and spoiled. At least nowadays.
Female empowerment gives western girls an added excuse to be narcissistic and entitled. It is a license to feel that the world owes you something and(or)you owe nothing to it(despite of your middle-class/rich lifestyle/parents)and there are many of these degenerate licenses.
And normalcy simply means to be primarily masculine if male and primarily feminine if female, not exclusively. I've never met anybody 100% masculine or 100% feminine who could not rightly be considered mentally ill.
Emotional stability, reservedness, utility, vigilance, rule-consciousness, dominance and protectiveness are masculine.
Emotional reaction, warmth, apprehension, sensitivity, deference, and nurturing are feminine.
In the media-looming US I'd say 1 in 3 are feminine men or masculine women. In Britain, 1 in 5. And then the normalcy of humanity is gradually restored the further away from American culture you are.
Not to mention that a lifetime of working fewer hours often means women have more of a social life and more of a support network outside of the family unit. The one who isn't the breadwinner has more time to gossip with the neighbours, other parents, or indeed anyone.
Not complaining, just explaining. She's welcome to her life of gossip and busy doing nothing. Besides if I actually envied her life and wanted to be a home-husband that just means we're more likely to divorce, so I'd gain nothing anyway:
No, that's not saying marriage is good for men(but not women), it is saying that divorce is much easier on women than it is men. We know that. The title is biased and superficially true when in reality the opposite is the case and it's glossed over in this sentence 'Divorce had some short-term detrimental effects on men’s health but it would improve if they entered another partnership. - we know that if is in fact a big IF.
And these men who divorce and don't find someone new are the weighing-in factor for bad health in men. I wouldn't be the first to point out the high rates of loneliness in men over 55 and that is because divorced men are usually the ones who are squeezed and plundered dry, lose the kids and have to move to a new(and often poorer)area where they don't know anyone. And at best he gets weekend access to the kids, the weekend, the main time of the week for budding romance and making new friends.
I can't replace the fear or the thrill of the chase. The more I gorge on romance the more apathetic I become. She has to be twice what she was then to give me half the buzz now. So many options with so little interest, it's the curse of the modern age.
Obstinance_Works Blog Comments (200)
RE: would you, could you, change?
I'll moderate my habits given the right incentive. I don't bend very easily, but I am willing to be refined into something socially acceptable.