LonelyfromAfrica Blog Comments (302)

RE: IS THIS SITE REAL? DOES ANYBODY MEET SOMEBODY HERE

Angel

You got it Girl? We need that booze...Our love birds can join any moment...

RE: IS THIS SITE REAL? DOES ANYBODY MEET SOMEBODY HERE

Derty...Paul is a nice name...

RE: IS THIS SITE REAL? DOES ANYBODY MEET SOMEBODY HERE

Hi Girls

We still need the booze for this party...tried to fit it in my car...to big... Money has been send ...Angel can check...

PS trying to figure my tablet for picture upload...

RE: IS THIS SITE REAL? DOES ANYBODY MEET SOMEBODY HERE

Dear Mic and Kandy
This blog was like a fresh summers breeze. Thank you! I am so happy for the two of you. Kandy, you got a nice bloke...Mic invited me to participate on the blogs and not because he liked me per se, but because he saw something worthwhile I could add to blog writings. Thanks Mic, sometimes all one need is a bit of encouragement. May the two of you find all the happiness that a relationship can bring. Also hope to still see both of you popping in sometimes...

RE: true loves will never dies...

Dear Sashieboo

You still have your life ahead of you...focus on your career and own dependency for now... And don't worry...Love will happen... you are still young, use this time to scan through all the available ones and find the good one...The good one for you

RE: The color of Spring

Yeah, it takes one to appreciate one, my Friend ... I have similar circumstances. We are and will be blessed in so many ways... Good luck on your side of the planet.

RE: The color of Spring

Hi Phoenix

I acknowledge the fact that you are still able to see the beauty of life, despite your dad being in hospital. This is important for general well being and isn't always easy to do. It also says a lot about you as a caregiver. Thanks for sharing your pictures with us. Kind regards

RE: A Bitter Truth

Hi Geogit

The sad reality is ...We will be treated one day the same way we treated our old parents

RE: different culture about gift?

Hi Ek

Yeah true...when invited to someone's house, we also do that...usually we take flowers for the lady and wine or some booze for the gentleman of that house... In the Northern Cape, we don't always get fresh flowers ...we take a whole succulent plant along . And when we are done with the tea, or meal ... we'll ask if we can assist and then we leave again...We don't wait for the next meal ... And also, we'll never pop in...we'll call to ask if that will be okay if we visit...

RE: pondering

Dear Johnny

Yeah, interesting, but valid question... I think our purpose is to be and to become the best person we can be. So often our focus is on what we can do for others, but the question is also what we do for ourselves. Are we open to learn and to grow resulting in a better self in terms of our skills, experiences, characters strengths and our insights about life and living? I also believe we often expect to change the world, making a massive contribution forgetting the impact we make on our own doorstep. We expect sometimes instant gratification to feel valued...so I guess, we need to focus less on our purpose and more on life and living...break the routine ...

My own little true story...I just finished my B degree and started with my career, had to assist black students with career counselling as part of a company initiative, worked with a gentleman who had very little self confidence ...He made me so tired, was in my office every second day...It really felt as if my assistance and advice didn't make any impact... Our paths separated and 10 years past...We met again... I saw him but could not recall who he was...The gentleman approached me...saying..."mam I don't know if you still remember me, but my name is X, I only want to thank you today...today I am a successful Metallurgical engineer and all the things you taught me, were the things which carried me through these years in times I really wanted to give up..." It thus took 10 years to realise the positive contribution I had at the time... point I am making, our purpose is not an means to an end...It is an ongoing process...

RE: Dunk the Drunk

Hi Gentlejim, this really made me laugh ...yeah, no logic when alcohol speaks... Thanks for the posting. Great way ending a weekend in SA.

RE: "PAYING THE FERRY MAN"

Nam...Valid points you have there...

You think the people could swim those days... Only teasing, early morning hours in SA...time for my snooze

RE: "PAYING THE FERRY MAN"

Oh yeah, even then there was an economic principle behind the pricing...look at the rate of pricing according to the potential income of what had to be taken across the river... Amazing...

RE: "PAYING THE FERRY MAN"

Hi Nam

Yeah, my first impression I got when reading your blog is that many moons ago, but money played a big role then and even more so nowadays...today not even going to church is for free any more ... Today most churches are run as a business... yeah, the power of money and the competition to get more in all sectors and all countries ..where will it end one day... Irony of your story...without money you would have been left behind (unless you would have gone to church...)...

RE: Lovely story..

You are welcome

I am so happy to be me...

Dear Socrates, please accept my apologies for my belated response. I got so involved in some of the other blogs that I forgot viewing my own. Furthermore, I don't have any idea as to why you are blocked. Will try to correct it on my side.

If there is a poem that was "written for me" ...this is the one...very true... One has to be able to be your own best friend first...All the components that we would classify to be part of our value system, have to start within...this isn't, going to happen if there is no contentment with aloneness (getting internal strength, making peace and consequently making space). Awesome...

This is also very true of my personality...I will take time out when I have difficulties, decisions I will test, but I would have generated the options (or most of it), before sharing and discussing...also very strong on meditating to get energy and perspective regarding important issues in my life...there I only involve my Greatness...

RE: Whats your fave stone/crystal?

Dear Fj
Gemstones is a science on its own...there are many people who believe these stones have special properties such as healing, relaxing and forth. The Rose quartz is known to fix a broken heart (or something in that order)... The Rose quartz also makes a stunning light ...only a big piece with a hole inside for a light bulb...The pink in the quartz is then really very pretty when you have the light on.

RE: HEY, NEWBIES...THIS ONE'S FOR YOU!

Doopy doo's are something between getting droopy or making oopsies because of many do's...

RE: HEY, NEWBIES...THIS ONE'S FOR YOU!

In SA, all bar we know is one that is filled with nice doopy doo' s for a killer party...

RE: HEY, NEWBIES...THIS ONE'S FOR YOU!

It's not about how high we set the bar...It is the ability to step forward

RE: HEY, NEWBIES...THIS ONE'S FOR YOU!

Old bloggers: cheering:

So happy to know Wallops ended on the wrong blog...that could happen to me too...I am one out of a million (born to be confused sometimes), had toilet paper in my freezer once... and the intent was not to have 'cool paper'...



Thanks Wallops for the cupcakes , where is DC ?

RE: HEY, NEWBIES...THIS ONE'S FOR YOU!

Dear M...

I am a 'newbie'. You are very considerate doing this blog. Thank you...yeah, I often read the blogs, but then do need a 'Chill pill' to break my shyness and worries to not smack my 'username' with a 10 pond hammer...

This blog is a great idea to build a bit of confidence providing inputs and comments...

So, hello all bloggers...I am new and shy

I am so happy to be me...

Dear Socrates

Your kind words are appreciated. Thank you. However, I believe every human being is remarkable and amazing in his/her own right. We sometimes underestimate the significance of our contribution right at our own doorstep (not only to our parents, but to anyone in our immediate surroundings).

I am so happy to be me...

Dear Ed, Wish, Happy, Moc and all the other readers who understand the value of love and the place this has to come from to take care of others,... to remain grateful for the ability to do what we do and keeping the optimism of the rational for living and life...you will be blessed as much as you belief I will be...

My circumstances also brought another dimension to my life...I am more grateful for small things others will complain about. So people many people will complain standing in a line...when you have a bed bounded person in your home, you understand the value of being able to stand , this is only one example...

My blog stated, I am happy to be me...with the sad there is also other richness I receive on a daily basis... I am grateful for the insight our Greatness gave me to see and to experience my current circumstances the way I do.

I am so happy to be me...

Dear Happy

You made me smile...I'll keep you posted as to if someone could manage to kidnap me...

Kind regards

I am so happy to be me...

Dear Moc, mail is appreciated. Yeah, the reason for my posting was purely to indicate that the most valuable things in life are priceless, furthermore taking care of someone we love makes us remarkable in our own right. Only if this is done with love, one will comprehend the value of such an undertaking....

Yeah, with assessments - that is a pity as results should be part of an integrated process (looking at other variables also, such as training, skills, experience as well as track records). Quite often assessments are used as a poor and 'easy' excuse or reason why people were not successful.

Please accept my apologies for my belated reply...but it was a busy day today...

Kind regards

I am so happy to be me...

Dear Derty...Thanks for creating the 'invite', however I am happy in SA (maybe you need to visit my country sometime...It will give you a better and broader perspective of SA), and my love for my folks will not make me leave after a billionaire (for now at least...). So to all the billionaires on site who are planning to get me out of my very sad circumstances...Please wait at least another 10 years

Let's talk money...

Dear Moc. Your reply is appreciated. Yeah, I think the older we get the more difficult it becomes. It was maybe easier when we were young...Money was too little to go on fancy dates...and if you got married then, both parties entered that relationship with very little... The older we get, we manage to built up something (doesn't matter the quantity), but we have yo be very careful to put this at risk getting involved in dating and or serious relationships...

So what is the protocol on CS? Any plans to meet w

Maybe we could meet in the sunny South for a boat trip or any other suggestions are also welcome. The current SA currency is also to the benefit for our European and US friends...Will be great to meet...

Merry Christmas...10 minute countdown in SA...

Why does bad things happen to good People?

Dear 'Seren' and all the other kind people who provided blog input...

Your input is appreciated. Thank you so much.

Yeah, when night falls in SA and when I am done with everything I had to do for my day, I am grateful that I am able to do what I was suppose to do. Further more, when I see the appreciation in the eyes of my two parents for the things I do for them, it provides me with a defined purpose of why it is worth while living. This I think is critical for being a human being. We need to feel valued as this a critical facet of personal gratification of to why we life. This gratification comes in different forms for different people, job, parenthood, role we play in our community/church and even relationships. Point is...With the sad in my current circumstances, it also provides me with a great feeling of appreciation and achievement.

On the aspect of why certain things happen the way it Does, the older I get, I'm getting the idea that all these things are pre planned. It is part of a predefined destination. The measurement for the human species will be how did we deal with whatever crossed our path...point is what will happen, will happen...Our role is restricted in modifying happenings and consequences of these happenings, but point is, what will be will be...If it is planned for us to get cancer we will get that, the modifier could be the age
we get that, by example following a healthy lifestyle versus not. The same applies to becoming a very rich person, if it is not in the destination plan, we can work, play lotto, go mad...but will always have to work to be able to afford a decent living. Here the genetic theories and the impact behavioural science can have on a human being is of great interest for me. Supporting to this, is the debate why certain people are born in certain areas with much opportunities vs others who are in a rural, deprived areas somewhere in deep Africa...so I can go on and on...

My point is, in trying times I constantly need to remind myself that my current circumstances are part of my destiny, the challenge is to accept this and to make the most of every day...