Maya74 Blog Comments (32)

RE: Look At My Beautiful Lawn

@Catfoot

A very nice garden. Thank you for sharing the photos.

@Mimi

I cannot believe that those are artificial plants!

RE: Cs profiles

I find it interesting to read profiles of some people I meet on blogs and forums, but I usually forget what I read soon afterwards. I just take a look at profiles of people who message me. If they are obviously fake profiles - I block them immediately. If they seem real - I might reply, but I don't rely on what they wrote. I used to have several more sentences about myself, but it only brought me endless chats about science fiction films and series, why I speak Japanese, what I like to paint and I constantly explained the same things over and over again and - got tired in the end. So, I now have a profile that says nothing.

RE: My Profile Got A View

Congratulations!

I hope we all get invited to the wedding...

RE: The Chase

I don't play any games, but I'm generally a friendly person, so people find it easy to start talking to me. I like a relaxed friendly approach. If we don't like each other - we can very easily make a step back and remain friends.

RE: Can't believe I missed Kiss A Ginger Day

@Elegsabiff

Thanks for the compliments.

This is not my natural hair colour and - about the skin - I never sunbathe. I like ginger hair, though, and wanted to become more ginger, but was not ready for such a drastic change, so I made my hair only slightly reddish.

RE: Can't believe I missed Kiss A Ginger Day

Maybe you can change your internet provider?

I'm not sure if I belong to the 'ginger' category with this hair colour?

RE: Whoops. I forgot about these 8.

A very cute deer family.

RE: It Does Not Happen That Way

Thanks, Molly and Catfoot.

RE: True Love

I agree.

RE: It Does Not Happen That Way

I've never felt relaxed and comfortable on dating sites, except on those where I could meet Japanese. I'm not a member of any at the moment, but while I was - I knew that most men there would be nice, polite and honest and that - even if I didn't meet anyone 'special', I could at least enjoy chatting in Japanese about Japan and make some new friends.

International dating sites and sites in my native tongue are a different story. Completely unknown people you have nothing in common with contact you because they liked your photo, you never know what their intentions are, if they are real or not, the conversation is forced and artificial... I remember once spending 2 days on 'Tagged' and deleting my profile faster than I made it.

Forums are different from dating sites. People have the opportunity to meet each other in a more relaxed environment. I used to be a member of several forums in the past and met some nice people there - in real life, too. It's different when you start exchanging messages with someone whose posts you read on the forum - it's like you know them already, at least a little. Even if you didn't like their posts much - they are still familiar. Not complete strangers.

In reality - if you want to meet someone - you have to go out and - meet new people. The more people you know, the better the chance that you will find someone interesting. It's the same online. Just be around and - sooner or later - you will meet someone. There's nothing really special you have to do.

For example, on forums and blogs - write what you feel like and what interests you and you will meet people. Of course, you can pretend, you can act, you can write what you think people would like to hear, you can try to be manipulative or controversial or whatever you want - and that would give you MORE attention, but in the end - not REAL attention. The more genuine we are - the better.

The most important thing is not to have too big expectations. People are sometimes disappointed with the choice they have in their surroundings and expect too much from online dating/friendships. We can certainly meet many interesting people this way, but - after all - most people on such places are average like us and like those in our surroundings. At least, those REAL people. Many people online don't have good intentions or have some serious problems and that should be kept in mind.

I wrote and wrote, but I didn't say much with this, did I?

RE: A look back - Jim's Nature Photos from December 2017

Really nice nature photos.

RE: A look back - Jim's Nature Photos from December 2017

I took a look at others, as well. I like the photos of the owls and butterflies, too. :)

RE: A look back - Jim's Nature Photos from December 2017

The photo doesn't want to load! I meant - the photo IMG_4409 (5).

RE: Global Warming Is Probably A Farce

I completely agree with you, Catfoot.

I really like and enjoy reading your blogs.

RE: Be Yourself

What if we don't lie, but people see something in us that isn't there at all? And they start to like us for something we are not. And we try to persuade them that they are wrong, but they believe themselves more than us. And then, after some time, they realize that we were right and they were wrong (of course) and they stop liking us. And we feel bad. How to prevent something like this from happening?

RE: Be Yourself

I think that we first need to be honest with ourselves, get to know ourselves well and behave accordingly. Then it's easy to be honest with others. But, often we have so many illusions about ourselves and many other things, like 'what love/friendship supposed to look like', etc. that we appear to be dishonest, although we are not really.

This is a complicated topic, although it seems simple on the surface...

RE: Therefore I am

I used to value 'unwanted truths' much more in the past. I thought they helped me develop and become a better person. But, now I value 'kindness' more.

It's so easy to be 'smart', to judge, criticize and throw 'truths' at people. It's much more difficult to show understanding and compassion.

After all, we all struggle in our lives this way or the other and try to live our best with what was given to us, both personally and in our environment...

RE: just a quick blog...for thought

The sun we see in our 'present time' is real, but it's the sun from the past. It's the same with everything else - the information we get from our senses, our thoughts and feelings... We live in the past. Our mind cannot experience 'now' ('the present moment') - it's outside of its reach. Everything has already happened.

RE: How To Read Female Profiles

Let me try...

RE: We Are Not Everyone’s Cup of Tea… and That’s OK (*)

I also get suspicious and run away immediately when things are obvious, but some people are very skillful in manipulating others and they find your weak spots and create a net for you and you become a pray. It also happens. Not often, but it does. Some people are dangerous.

RE: How To Read Female Profiles

I think it's very good that this site has forums and blogs - it allows people to get to know each other in some much more relaxed atmosphere.

By the way, how do you quote someone's post in blogs?

RE: We Are Not Everyone’s Cup of Tea… and That’s OK (*)

@Cachuchi

Thanks.

I guess I'm still a little traumatized and rather scared of those who like me too much too fast.

RE: We Are Not Everyone’s Cup of Tea… and That’s OK (*)

I really needed to read this today...

I wasted so much time on (as a friend of mine called them) 'candle people'. Those who get on fire fast, but burn out very quickly. And they leave you think that it was your fault that their fire vanished - if only you tried harder or were slightly different - they would still be 'on fire'. And you waste so much time trying to make things better and exhaust yourself so much in the process... And accomplish nothing.

RE: How To Read Female Profiles

I think it's hard to write your own profile, so I generally don't pay much attention to what people wrote in their profiles. It's best to keep it short. If anyone wants to get to know you better, they will write to you and find out more.

RE: How's Your 2018 Started Off?

I said goodbye to someone who was important to me during the last year... I'm not sure if this is a good start of the year or not...

RE: Dear Anonymous......

I learned so much about myself just being with you...

I'm so far from the person I'd like to be.

RE: What Are Your NY Resolutions???

Exercising more and be more patient. :)

RE: hmmm....some women

I'm going to take some time off to sort out some things from my past, so I'm hiding my profile. :)

Until I come back - have a nice time and Happy New Year! :)

RE: hmmm....some women

I haven't watched 'Fifty Shades of Grey' yet (terrible reviews), but - just for the sake of our discussion - I might watch it during the weekend.

RE: Sell-By Date

seaworthy, I came to the same conclusion. :D :)))

Commitment = feeling secure = being able to relax = being able to give LOVE completely

:D

I guess some of us just function that way... :)))