It's more like associated with Evaluation of an individual in the context of Beauty..
I mean , to choose a Life Partner , Grooms will Look for , may not be a 'Beauty Queen' but for a 'Beautiful' Girl for sure...
And Girl's Beauty means Physical Appearance .. Like What colour of skin (I mean complexion , not race) She has , What types of hair (length/density/colour) She has , How much Spotless or Scar less Face and Body She has , etc....
Indeed... After all , Society is made Of the People , By the People , For the People... As I said , It's all about the Outlook of the People ... Only people have the power to change it by changing themselves ...
You are right... Making things transparent Do help to clear misunderstandings most likely..
But you know , the problem here is not just about 'Not Having Physical Intimacy before an Arranged Marriage' ...
The MAIN Problem is the Outlook of people , that , most people will Reject a Bride who has a Scar on her Body in the First place...
The way that elderly person was talking about the Scar , it was clear that , even if they knew about it before Marriage , most probably they would then have simply REJECT the Girl ...
To some extent , you are actually right... It IS kind of cultural and social issue.. But it's actually rooted deep down in human psychology more , about appreciating someone based upon the physical appearance ...
You are right ... This was an arranged marriage ... So obviously there was not much understanding between the bride and groom...
In arranged marriage , people just gather information about their potential match ... It Do help to know about a person.. But it's not enough for a longlasting relationship or marriage to only knowing someone... It required more to understand each other well...
Somehow it was ethically not right for the Girl's parents to not mention about the Scar when the marriage was being fixed.. Most probably they did not do it because , they were afraid that if the Boy and his family get to know about the Scar , then they will most likely not agree for the marriage... So the Girl's parent might have thought , let the marriage happened first , and once it done then even if the Groom find out about the Scar , eventually he will accept it and won't make a big issue about it...
But even in that case , in both scenarios , it's clear that the Scar was playing a significant role behind making the Marriage/Relationship successful or unsuccessful ...
No matter how much people speak BIG , but in practical life they act little... Specially when it comes to marriage or relationship , deep down in peoples subconscious , physical appearance , at least for Girls , plays a significant role still this days...
I have heard in news that there are all ready demands been raised to cancel or at least postpone the event... Here in my country IPL was ongoing ... But then players got infected and it finally got postponed ...
It's been saying that "Silent people don't create enemies" .. Unfortunatly it sometimes happen exactly opposite !! Silence gives people more space to make their own imaginary issues to create imaginary rivalry
Currently only Utility Bill is the first priority in my life.. I don't think the other Bill will accept the challenge to face my Utility Bill as his rival
Don't worry guys... I have been overwhelmed by the situation too , earlier ...
But then I remember..
We , Indians , have faced many more hurdles before... We have been through Plague , Small Pox , Cholera , Malaria , Colonial Invasions , Wars , Communal Riots , Earthquakes , Floods , Tornedos and above all , The Famine (Twice) ....
But we never Surrendered ...
This time will be passed too.. May be in exchange with the huge price of many innocent lives unfortunately ..
But "Deep in my heart.. I do believe .. We shall overcome someday.."
We WILL Overcome...
Thank you all for your kind concern and suggestions...
At present there are too many factors playing crucial roles regarding the whole situation..
* First Vaccine and other Medical facilities .. There is chaos during vaccination process.. Though some parts in country , Govt. has Offered free vaccine , but the reality is there is no control over the price.. Also shortage of supply became a big issue.. The same applied for Oxygen and other drugs like Remedisivir and availability of hospital Beds.. (Remember , Not only Kovid creates serious illness , other diseases required hospitalisation too..)
* Second Uncontrolled Gathering of huge number of People during last 1 month.. Due to election process in several parts of the country , nobody cared to follow any restrictions at all.. As well as recent gathering over Kumbh ..
* Third Virus mutation.. It's been reported that even after completion of 2 doses of vaccine , people still got infected.. I am afraid , with time this numbers will increase .. But it's a relief that at least no death reported yet after vaccination ..
* Forth Lockdown is NOT a suitable or effective action anymore for most people of India considering the socioeconomycal impact of the last Lockdown.. Even if Lockdown get imposed , people will die both way.. And most people choose to take their chance with Corona rather than watching their family die from hunger slowly.. The unfortunate but cruel ground reality..
* Last but not the Least.. Politics over Death... Everyone is just playing blame game to secure their own future instead of working together to secure lives..
I am afraid the world is going to witness the worst impact of pandemic in upcoming days...
And we , most of the citizens , have nothing to do except wait helplessly
My taste in music (actually in everything ) a bit wired !! Now it's here and the next who know where it would be !!! My taste in music is just like me , never follows any rule
The most simple answer of this question comes to my mind is To prove the value of Good ...
If there was no Bad then how would we ever knew what Good really means !!! It's like the saying "Failure is the pillar of success ".. To know and enjoy the satisfaction of being successful we sometimes need to taste the failure ... It's just like the same... We can only make ourself better when we know which is worse ..
Anyway... I am a very very ordinary gal... Definitely not an intellectual... I know that I don't know everything about everything... So I don't want to claim that I believe in God because I know for sure that God exists Just As I don't want to claim that I don't believe in God because I know for sure that any such thing as God does not exist..
What I want is to keep my mind open for all the new knowledge , lesson , experience and information...
This is just my personal opinion from my personal realisation...
Everything else is ok but I have question about the time limit of drinking water during eating....
Our country is very hot and humid during summer days.. And we often eat steaming hot foods.. So it is not only impossible but also not very practical or healthy to maintain such a big gap between eating and drinking water.. (Take water after 90 to 120 minutes after taken food. Don't drink water instantly after food, wait for 90 to 120 minutes. If you want drink water before food then 40 to 60 minutes before eating food.)
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) a bit wired !! Now it's here and the next who know where it would be !!!
The Scar
JacIt's more like associated with Evaluation of an individual in the context of Beauty..
I mean , to choose a Life Partner , Grooms will Look for , may not be a 'Beauty Queen' but for a 'Beautiful' Girl for sure...
And Girl's Beauty means Physical Appearance ..
Like What colour of skin (I mean complexion , not race) She has , What types of hair (length/density/colour) She has , How much Spotless or Scar less Face and Body She has , etc....