Elmorya, that's a good point you make, being alone also makes you not take things for granted. However, I've been alone for so long that I don't even miss most of the things Calliope describes any longer and I don't even mind. Scary thought sometimes (only sometimes )
Makis I wouldn't want to turn back time as well. Everything happening in my life, made me into the person I am today and I like to think I learned from the stupid choices I made in the past. I believe in the natural balance of things and I'm in a good place now The only real regret I have is not knowing what it feels like to be a mother, but some things simply are not in your control - c'est la vie.
Wow Jim, you're one busy guy! I do the green power and ebay thing , but end up buying more online than selling (stupid shoes ) You are very right though; if you put in some time to research, there are lots of ways to make some money... if one's not too lazy to work the ideas, like me
Hi Elmorya, I'm very sorry for your loss! It is very shocking if someone close passes suddenly and I can understand you wanting to express your feelings about it. Take the time to mourn and keep him alive in your memory; best wishes to you
Rowdy. I've been on the other end a few times and always appreciated the honest and direct way... the 'short' pain It's never ok to play with someones feelings or string them along.
Hi Rowdy, it happened to me once (not counting the little boy that sat next to in kindergarden ) and it was quite difficult. He was married and I was friends with both him and his wife for years... until he told me he'd fallen in love with me. I told him I didn't feel the same way; there's no way of sugarcoating it and best to be clear. I also asked him to tell his wife which he did. Ofcourse the friendship changed after that and I decided to take my distance. Met him a few years later... he's still together with his wife and they even had another baby so I'm glad they made it through even though I feel sorry for the friendship.
Hi Tange At the moment I seem to only have this kind of relationship with my sister; we are each others shoulder to cry on and share everything. It would be nice to share my weakness with a man again... the key is indeed, as Aswina wisely mentions, if we let them On the other hand, I don't mind feeling strong, I depend on my strength when times are rough and when I'm doing fine, I depend on my strength to help out others.
Avec plaisir Mariama. The only thing about these new settings I find a pity is that you can't read your blocked mail any longer; it used to make nice reading material for rainy days
Hi Mariama Filterbox is now Blocked settings and you can see if a mail is read from the colour of the little clock icon behind it. If it's red, the mail is still unread, otherwise it turns grey.
Hi Margo, making decisions can be hard indeed, especially when they are life changing. If reason doesn't work - you already compared the advantages and disadvantages - try to take a step back for a while and let go, it takes away the pressure and might reveal a different outlook to you. Or try to choose with your heart instead of your head; in your heart you might even have made the choice already.
Good luck and hope you'll choose what feels best for you.
RE: These are The Things that I Miss
Nicely put CalliopeElmorya, that's a good point you make, being alone also makes you not take things for granted.
However, I've been alone for so long that I don't even miss most of the things Calliope describes any longer and I don't even mind.
Scary thought sometimes (only sometimes )