nevica Blog Comments (332)

RE: marry me babe

you know, there are a lot of women who don't like to be called babe or baby or some other "small" stuff. Especially those who are over 40 and look for a serious relationship whould want to be taken seriously and with respect, I think. I personally so hate to be called babe or baby, people 20 years younger call me that and I am almost 50

Beautiful sky

Hello Springlark, I tried to send you a flower as an answer to your friend request but I am blocked(my age or area?) BTW you look good for your age
Yes, I take all my photos myself, I have plenty of them. I use some of them for my paintings, some I can put here.

Beautiful sky

Irishidaho, thank you,
no we don't have reindeer here, I live 40 min by bus from a city with 71,033 inhabitants, so it is maybe not as wild place as it appeared to be.

Beautiful sky

wow, sleepin-bird you are not so far from me but there is so much warmer!

Beautiful sky

WEEPINGMIST (what a romantic name!) I have central heating so I don't even know where the heat comes from into my flat

Beautiful sky

yes, it's a nice peaceful place, the weather is getting better, it's about +6C this week, snow is melting away and days are getting longer
How is your weather?

what is love, my version

Irishidaho
"I don't understand your final comments about never making a commitment. You've written off love? That cannot be true!"
I am not written off love, I am written off the commitment and living together parts.

what is love, my version

alonerdo, I feel a bit sad too when you mention it. Most people have a HOPE to meet their love and have a fairy tale forever. I don't have this hope.

RE: love online

to fall in love is possible but meeting in real life may be not that you expected

what is love, my version

in his case he was going trough sad and painful things, so for him at that time it was a labour, a hard work
new love is fun and adventure, a long lasting love is work and patience

Give my paintings a name

thank you for your suggestions, they all make sense but “Jim’s competitions” is a mystery to me. especially thank you Elmorya, you put a lot of energy on this task, I will go through it and think.

The problem is how to name them and don’t make people sad if I don’t choose some of the names they suggested.
How would you do?
Thank you all for giving me your time.

Give my paintings a name

thank you Particolor, you don't have to name all, you can name just one of you have an idea

RE: dating site or another facebook?

I agree with Ariel, you profile pictures are very good

RE: I LOVE YOU

When I say I love you or he says he loves me that just means that and nothing else. He loves me NOW and no promises. I don't give, don't receive and don't believe in any promises.

RE: One question to all lovers

some people never leave their parents and take their bride at home. Isn't it usual in India?
In Sweden you normally get a job and your own place to live, then maybe some day find a bride too, but normally people move from their parents long before they find love.
you can visit your parents often if you miss them

RE: Dating with kids, yes or no?

my opinion is enjoy your time with kids, they soon will grow up, then you can start dating again, it's never too late with dating with internet. I wouldn't put children under the trauma of meeting new men

RE: OLDER WOMEN SO FINE.

some older men are so fine too

RE: Being homeless for 20 years, come right, but then

you are maybe too old for 18 years old girls but not for your own age. I may think that a woman may be too old for thos men who want own kids because her age of fertility is limited but how a man of 40 like you may be too old?
Only if you look for too young girls. You can't be too old of you look for someone older or your own age.

RE: Can ya?

I am not 50 yet but will be soon, I doubt I will forget anything then, I hope to learn more. So many hot guys in America, a shame too far from me.

RE: I am here looking for love

another thing i have noticed in your profile, you are looking for a woman 18-30, is this realistic when you are 60 yourself? hmm

RE: Faith

What if god doesn't want you to have a partner or a perfect partner? if that you say is right, EVERYONE everywhere would have a perfect partner. Many people live and die without ever meeting their perfect partner even if they are religios.

I believe that nothing will happen if you do nothing yourself. there are two parts in existence, one that you can controll, your own actions and decisions another that is outside of your controll, we can call it God.
And i don't believe that God is good to all people,this is a wishful thinkning. why don't all people are happy in that case? i think god if he exists looks to the big picture, evolution, works, we have a prof that evolution and survival of the fittest works. the happiness of every individual is this person's responsability only, God has more important things to do.

RE: What happened to the people interested in serious

it's so typical, we run into wrong people all the time
I am not serious myself, but get a lot of serious contacts

RE: I am here looking for love

It's never too late for happiness, fortunatelly it's never too late for a child for a man as well, I read about a man who got his first child when he was over 90. I think the chance is bigger when you look on a local site.
I know an Italian free site, i can send you a link but my age or my area a blocked from you right now, links to another dating site are not allowed here.

RE: Women, Just as bad as Men and the Adventures of Ru

I have no patience to read this all but I agree,
Women(me) are Just as bad as Men

RE: You make me feel confuse....

Ru, I agree, Jana, I wish you luck, I myself through this part of being serious, have been in 2 long traditional relationships in my life. I am so happy to be free and have no obligations and also sleep with who I want when I want. I never have intentional ONS, I do like long term and I have it, but those are OPEN relationships. We are close friends but don't promise each other this one thing, to be faithful in bed.

RE: You make me feel confuse....

I agree, the man just felt suffocated with your attention, I would, even if I am a woman. many people need a lot of space. You have to learn to be patient. if he doesn't answer and not interested any more, you can't help with many calls. he would come back himself when he is ready.

RE: I’m afraid of getting old

if you have a boring life, NO, you can as well die now.
But you can still have a lot of fun even when you are old People can stay in shape and doens't have to smell bad. If you date your own age you will not feel old.

RE: Communication: kitchen sinking it

yes this is truth, a lot of people are arguing for nothing. I went a course in psychology about communication. they say among the other things that as soon is gets heated find some kind of sign, a trigger that you are going too long and it's time to calm down. like show a piece of green paper, it would be a sign to stop. both parts need to calm down and then discuss the problem in normal voice. some arguing is good and healthy and gives both parts a chance to be better.
arguing is definitely better then keep silent and put up with everything and then just explode in one or another way or inwards, like getting ill.
the main thing is communication, the accused part would now what's wrong and it should be possible to improve. many things are not worth arguing at all and just hurt and destroy the relationship.
we stopped argue long time before with my ex and had a good relationship when we separated, we had different goals in life though. but with son as a teenager it was impossible to argue in a civilized way, he didn't care about logic or communication and could get easily overheated. now he lives by himself and if he didn't like something I say, he just disappears.(his ego is hurt when i give him some advise, he wants to be big and know best, so he almost never do anything directly, but eventually )so he all have our ways to deal with arguments

RE: A part of me

My mother is also dead, and I think she was the only person who truly loved me, and I also think that everyone who still has his/her mother is so lucky. It’s easier at days but at nights I often dream of her, like she is real and I am trying to touch her and ask her not to leave me but she becomes less clear and dissolves anyway and I scream and cry in my dream. Sometimes I just feel her, like I am little and at home and she is sitting at the end of my bed but when I open my eyes she disappears. Sometimes I talk to her when I walk alone in the forest, tell her everything what I think about different things and about my life and imagine that she can hear me and what she would answer. Her own mother, my grandmother died when she was only 6 months she never had a chance to know her. But we are fortunate anyway to know and remember our mothers.

RE: Prayer for a spouse

I wish it works for you,
for a few years ago I asked: "God, I want to love you and believe in you, please give me a sign that you care about me and can hear me, do this one little thing for me." It was a good thing, for more than me, many would profit of it but nothing happened. I don’t say that God doesn’t exist because of that, but I wouldn’t rely on Him/Her. He does what he wants, which is not always what we want. maybe better try some other ways too, not just waiting for him to answer.