I hear you. It's the same with jobs. Right now I'm looking for both a job and relationship prospects in my native Malta. Don't want to move back to London because of job instability and the loneliness of city life. However I wonder, my ex who stayed in London replaced me within two months. In native Malta the prospects of meeting someone who's my type are slim, for various reasons but I'm sticking with Malta because the sun and sea are far greater attractions and I'm not willing to move to look for a needle in a haystack.
agree with you. When my last relationship was in trouble I was tempted to join cs. I joined during my first break up but my then partner was rightly offended that I was looking at a dating site. It kind of narrows the field for those who are genuinely looking to find a partner. I've also met cheats who did not declare that they were in a relationship and they contacted me.
Because I lived in England and it was incredibly lonely for me. At least here I know a few people and I'm counting on meeting foreign men on holiday here and doing a Calypso on them. But yes Maltese men tend to be spoilt by their mums and mature pretty late in life if not at all. What can you do???? Besdies as a lawyer I can't just work anywhere in the world so I'm kind of stuck here and it's not too bad.
not sure I could swap. My Maltese partner and I of 12 years split up in England and I don't think I could even come back there on holiday. Too many painful memories. But you're welcome to visit malta and I'd show you around. Fab weather today and I've been in 3 days in a row....;-(
My break up from an LTR is very recent, so I try not to ask what went wrong but I don't like my new lifestyle much. I just try to cope as best as I can.
Do you think single again at a certain age, people just give up hope of meeting someone worthwhile, and everything is a case of been there done that e.g. clubs and where do you meet single men your age?
thanks Rob. Life is not without its difficulties at the moment but I 'm much happier than I was in the UK. Definitely letting sleeping dogs lie. It would never work out. He never gave me the companionship I wanted. I'm as lonely now being single as I was with him but at least I'm dating and open to the possibility of meeting someone worthwhile. If I don't. I still have a better life.
no he doesn't want to come back. It's more likely that his lifestyle now is a taste of his own medicine. He never gets in touch. I do because of common property etc. and I've made it clear I will not succumb to emotional blackmail of how wrong I was which was my life with him. I think he now sees the grass is not greener but it was too complicated in the end and neither wants to re-open that chapter.
Never mind. I asked a question and got a variety of answers as was to be expected. The poll results kind of confirm I'm not picky just looking for an equal. Now the big question is whether he's out there?
I would date the person but not want to share the full burden of caregiving by living with the person and the care receiver. The kind of cohabitation that works for me is living with a signficant other without outside interference or having to compromise my lifestyle.
I would only accept living with person plus care receiver if the relationship had already developed and he finds himself having to take on that responsibility. In that case I would support him.
but to start a relationship on those conditions, in all honesty it's a non starter for me.
Lol sheer lack of co-ordination. Nawzis is the registration with the local site. MissingLondon is the wider one because I thought you had to register by locality.
In Sliema and St. Julian's they speak Manglish, English with a Maltese accent. Any foreigner would have trouble understanding. Did you visit a long time ago?
Yes that can happen when you're bilingual. Much depends on your culture. The trouble I'm having is mostly in native Malta on the cs site where the population is not the most educated even though English is an official language.
I have simply posed a question that is on my mind. I do not feel I owe an apology for having doubts about what would work or not work for me and wanting to see what other people think.
My ex of 12 years was dyslexic yet highly intelligent. I don't look down on people with any form of disability. I just don't see myself with someone who doesn't bother to improve their knowledge.
Education is not a question of academic titles. I have met people without higher education who challenged me to no end and presented me with learning opportunities. It's a question of having a certain calibre of conversation e.g. shared interest in some subjects. I have just met a highly intelligent non-native speaker but the level of English is so poor that it is hard to hold a proper conversation. In my opinion this makes a potential relationship very difficult.
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Is it easier to meet suitable men/women in big cities or elsewhere?
I hear you. It's the same with jobs. Right now I'm looking for both a job and relationship prospects in my native Malta. Don't want to move back to London because of job instability and the loneliness of city life. However I wonder, my ex who stayed in London replaced me within two months. In native Malta the prospects of meeting someone who's my type are slim, for various reasons but I'm sticking with Malta because the sun and sea are far greater attractions and I'm not willing to move to look for a needle in a haystack.