ditch him. This is a controlling man. I was in a 12 year relationship with a man like that, controlling and watching over what I eat, making it a condition to things happening. In the end when I fell ill he said heal first and then we'll see what 's happening between us. This is not love, trust me. A controlling man will get controlling in other areas too. This is just the first sign. She should spare herself the misery unlike me. It took me 12 years of suffering to get out.
Spot on. I am not greatly upset over this guy because 4 months is a short time and you don't grow to love someone in 4 months. it's nothing compared to the break up of a long term relationship I've been through. However the lack of consideration upsets me because this guy was such a gentleman during the visits and I treated him well too. If he felt things had to stop I expected to be told clearly. I've had all sorts of thoughts from his father dying to him having had an accident. It's common courtesy that you don't leave someone wondering and worrying but I'm reaching the conclusion that manners are a thing of the past and it's better not to expect people to have them to avoid being disappointed. In so far as my knowledge of this guy goes, this all seems very out of character but maybe he's only shown me a facade, not the real him. I'm ready to let go and chalk it up to just another bad experience but I will never excuse the lack of consideration.
No the visists were great. We packed in the sightseeing, ate well, lapped up the sun, gradually got closer. I can't complain about the way he treated me when he was here.
i agree it doesn't make sense but I'm not going to pester him for explanations if he doesn't want to give any. In my mind it's over. I cannot accept this kind of treatment from anyone.
With every relationship trusting becomes more difficult. You can't afford to get close to anyone these days. A lot of people take relationships lightly.
All I know is that my e-mails on fb are bouncing back. He used to have a photo which has disappeared and when I click on his name I get nothing. His name on my previous posts has gone black no link. There are too many with his same name to look him up. We struggled to add each other the first time. I could excuse the no contact, if it weren't for facebook. I think he must have blocked me.
He made one call to my mobile and it failed. there is no excuse. he could have sent a text and how can I explain the facebook profile. We were on skype when he'd already deleted me. We used to use facebook to send texts when he was at work. I've got no rational explanation. At this point I'm worried what else he might have lied about.
Since December I've been chatting on Skype to a CS member. He visited me for two weeks and we decided we were an item. A week after his return to England his father was hospitalized and I excused the lessening phone calls. Two days ago I was talking to him on Skype later I noticed his profile disappeared from my friends list on facebook. Yesterday I tried calling his mobile in vain and sent text messages. No contact. It's the second day of no contact today. As far as I know he was working the evening shift yesterday. I've no idea what's happening but I suppose it's all over. My question is if he wanted to end things couldn't he send a text message or tell me on Skype. Up to a week ago he was planning to visit me again and eventually move here. What signs did I overlook that this was coming? Am I a fool for having trusted. This seems so out of character for him but I've got no other explanation except that he wants to cut ties.
Interviewed by English journalists, Ghaddafi said his people loved him and asked the journalist if he's seen any protests in the streets!!!! Delusional!!!
If I wanted to I would have friends to meet but I've become very discriminating and prefer my own company. I've cut off the people who have let me down like my former friend who when ex and I split up the first time invited me to her house and left me hours sitting on a sofa whilst she ordered her wedding dress and spoke to her mum when i was dying on the inside. Then i had a so called friend who would go to the ends of the earth to bring me down spinning tales about what people supposedly said about me, there's the girl who loves nothing better than to gossip about people; a few of them actually. In the end I choose to be on my own. Just like in a relationship with a man, I want to surround myself with good-hearted souls and I've become very unforgiving of friends. Add to the mix that I was in a relationship for 12 years and lived abroad. Some days I mind my solitude but I have gained a lot of mistrust in people.
Do you find that the older you get the less friends you have. I have met quite a few people who have no friends perhaps as a result of moving countries or having been too busy during an LTR. Did you find yourself single again without friends?
It's reverse colonialism. When I lost my job in London, despite working and paying national insurance contributions, I wasn't entitled to anything as my ex partner had savings and we lived together. Yet a foreign family was given a mansion for a council house for which the council was paying exorbitant sums as the house had to cater for seven children. I'm an EU citizen, why didn't they look at the sum total of my contributions from Malta too if that's what freedom of movement means. I contributed to the UK economy by filling in the gaps in the temporary market because my lack of UK experience prevented me from finding permanent work which in London is a myth anyway.
If you're into sightseeing and historical places, there are quite a few things you can do around here. Valletta the capital is a must. It was built by the Knights of the Order of St. John and is surrounded by bastions. In the city itself it's baroque architecture. Then there is the old capital Mdina built by the Arabs which is a totally different type of architecture. We have temples prehistoric ones older than Stonehenge. Sliema is good for shopping. Better than most European capitals. The beaches look lovely in the winter and are ideal for a stroll. There's the island of Gozo which is less developed than Malta. The weather is absolutely fab, I have yet to wear a jacket. You can enjoy al fresco lunches by the sea. If you get a good guide book, you'll find there's plenty to do and see. You can cover the major sites in a week. It's a good retreat from the winter cold in Europe. I actually wouldn't recommend visiting in the summer months as it's overcrowded and way too hot.
When Christopher Colombus was shot in Malta, I was an extra. It was boring, standing around all day. In the eve the crew went to a club and one of the locals working on the set invited us and there at a table next to me was Catherine Zeta Jones who was relatively unknown outside the UK at the time.
Do relationships in our twenties and mid-thirtees break down because they are based on immaturity and passion, if so what are relationships second time round based on reason, knowing what you want?
I know the feeling. I stuck it out too for years always believing it was a matter of one project finishing and then he'd find time for me. He refused to take days off work. Even on holiday we'd go on different planes a few hours apart so he could work some more, laptop in bed daily, comes home eats opens his laptop. In the end I fell ill with depression and just gave up on him. I wonder though about the women who stay in such relationships. Is it because of kids?
Longer term you might find that the obsessions just get worse and make it unbearable to live with the person. My clutter ex had lots of ocds like this.
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RE: Are you a psycho?
so what is the answer do tell!