i was in an ltr for 12 years. he was my best friend. I was busy juggling career and home and didn't cultivate frienships. Then I emigrated and returned home five years later. I've made a few friends via cs but I reckon most people my age are either married or divorced with kids. I love my job but weekends I dread as they are empty and I don't go out.
Just wondering, when I was in an ltr, I kept on looking for the job of my dreams and was very unhappy in most of my jobs. Now that after 14 years of persisting with my profession I have the job of my dreams, I am without the man of my dreams. I own my own home, am easy on the eye, educated so where is my other half, or do we only get one real shot at love and then live with the memory of that love for the rest of our lives?
I don't believe I will ever meet someone who's right for me. I'm thankful I got out of a 12 year relationship and have got used to being on my own. I don't stress myself about being in a relationship. In my opinion relationships are overrated anyway. I've become wiser and pickier now.
I joined cs after the break up of a long term relationship nearly two years ago. Since then, I have not only come to accept being single but grown to appreciate my single lifestyle. What helped me was seeing I was not alone, sharing experiences with other singles here. What have you gained from cs?
No healthcare in Malta is top notch. To see a GP privately costs next to nothing, medication on prescription can be obtained for free from hospital. Our doctors the specialists specialize in the Uk, some stay to work there some come back.
Hi Nanners, I'm very happy for you. I will remain on cs but I need to go out there and make friends even if it means going to a bar solo for some time.
Thanks. I'm not looking for perfection. Just somebody with whom there is a degree of chemistry, character compatibility. E.g. tonight I have an unconfirmed dinner date that's been coming a long time. It's 5 pm and the guy though he's tentatively booked a restaurant hasn't told me where or at what time we're meeting, so I guess it's off. I find stuff like this very off putting. If somebody is interested in me they'll make time to meet me. I'm tired of chatting and relying on photos. I want to meet men in the flesh, have a chat and decide if i want to see them again without having to go on quasi blind dates with only a photo and chats to go by. Now that I've landed a g ood job every Friday I'll take myself out to dinner at an Intdian restaurant and then hit my favourite bar for some live music and hope to meet new people. Not having friends to go out with should not confine me indoors on the net.
I've been on cs and other sites for close to two years now. I've had plenty of first dates. However the men I've met online seem to have some negative characteristics in common such as commitment phobia, immaturity, inability to sustain a relationship. In other words they're all wrong. So even though I don't have friends to hit the bar with, I've decided it's time to hit the bars and see who I can meet in real lifo. I don't think Mr. Right is on the net though you're welcome to prove me wrong.
I don't have any female friends to go out with at night to bars etc. Am tired of staying at home. If you're alone too and would like to go out to meet new people pls get in touch
For a number of years I was lactose intolerant. It developed straight after going on the Atkins diet. I gradually put on weight and when I started drinking milk again and went off soy and rice milk, I started progressively losing weight. Do soy and milk alternatives lower your metabolism?
After 1.5 nearly two years of unemployment due to being overqualfied, I finally bagged a job in line with my overseas experience. Going to be tough and challenging. here's hoping I'm up to expecations.
A rebound relationship is one you enter when you are still dealing with the fallout of perhaps a major relationship. It is characterised by a rush to pair up at a time when your judgement is clouded and when you seek to cut short the greving period over the previous relationship. Some people can't handle being alone when a major relationship ends and get involved with someone else soon afterwards to avoid experiencing grief. Usually the rebound relationship ends when reality hits and you start feeling better about yourself. E.g. my ex of 12 years got into another relationship within 2 months. I had a rebound too and thought I was over the 12 years but I clearly wasn't. If you try to circumvent the grief from a broken long-term relationship eventually it catches up with you.
I did tend to blame myself. The relationship was all about him being right and ti took me time to realize I wasn't to blame. also we split up on the phone whilst I was holidaying at home and I've often asked myself if I'd gone back to London as planned if I could have knocked some sense into him. However I stand by my decision to leave as having been right. He'd fallen out of love with me, there was emotional neglect throughout, he was controlling and when I fell ill with depression, he didn't want to know. He effectively abandoned me in sickness and I would not have that, expecting me to heal and then see what was to happen between us. It took a lot of courage to leave but these days I blame myself less. I took a stand, the right one.
I've noticed a change in me. I've had two short relationships in the last two years since my ltr ended. In both I overlooked lack aof qualities which are important to me and it seemed I was ready to easily fall in love. Now, I am more critical of the people I meet and more able to tell whether the person is made of lasting stuff. Although I still have dreams about my ex I've accepted that I'm better off single until I meet the person I want. I think before I was in a rush to get into another relationship.
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Can you have it all in life?
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