I suppose you are never lonely? Who says you have to pick a side? I'm happy being lonely unless I meet someone who adds to my happiness. Thanks for the hostile reply. I will whine to my heart's content.
finding myself single after an ltr I've re-discovered a lot of freedom. I'm not quite sure I'm ready to give it up for a relationship. they're such hard work and love always dies out. What do you think is the price of freedom?
I regret giving up my job to go to London with him as he'd lost his job. We've now split and I've been looking for a job for nearly two years now. Lesson learnt never give up your indpendence for anybody no matter how much you love them as love dies and you have to live with the consequences.
I wish I were spoilt. It has more to do with giving up my job five years ago cause my ex had lost his and we moved to London. Since the split and coming back I've been unemployed for nearly two years cause It seems I'm overqualified for everything. That leaves me with a lot of time on my hands to fill and having to start from scratch making friends. Dating gets me out of the house and keeps me sane but of course given my experience and how badly shafted I got by my ex I'm wary of giving up my freedom for a man again. Once bitten twice shy.
Nope statistics are no fun. Dating is and the more I go on coffee dates the less I'm interested in a relationship. I've had an ltr and know what it takes and I'm not sure I want to go back there unless I meet an exceptional man who convinces me otherwise. I enjoy my freedom to stay in, not to have to put on make up, to have a lie in, not to have to clean up after someone whilst keeping the option of meeting someone special open through dating.
yep that's a date. At that stage you are not exclusive with anyone. It's not a relationship. And in my case i don't snog my dates only if I know we're getting into an exclusive relationship.
how do i hurt my dates? By having coffee in broad daylight and neither contacting the other again, or not giving those who cancel a second chance? these are not relationships Boban just encounters with people and I won't wait for anyone. the guy who asked for a dinner date and went abroad hasn't contacted me but in the meantime I cancelled one date and had two cancelled on me. They are often people with kids, and their kids are their priority. I have no kids and don't want an instant family. If they cancel because they have to mind their kids, I say it's not or me because a relationship with them would be all about the kids getting priority and I've experienced neglect in the past. Not going down that road again. I owe it to myself.
I learnt a lot from my 12 year relationship. There is no rush. Every invite is an opportunity to put that knowledge into practice, to recognize a man's worth from the beginning and obviously a lot fail. I enjoy dating. I've made some friends taht started out as dates but am sure not wasting my time with those who don't deserve me. I did enough of that in my ltr. Now I drop them like flies and in the meantime I am on my own despite the constant stream of offers because I know what I want and will not settle for somebody who says I don't know what I'm missing out on.
Some people on here are quick to character assasinate and assume a poster is necessarily looking for advice. On the contrary I found this guy's comment that I don't know what I'm missing out on humorous. Some people need to lighten up. There are professionals you go to for advice. Besides none of the people who are quick to judge me in the forums actually know me. It's always the usual suspects who want to give advice when it's actually getting personal and not minding their own business. The gist of the thread was the guy saying I don't know what I'm missing out on. The forums are not an agony column, just a bunch of usual suspects judging and criticizing unable to take anything lightly and transforming every post into a negative.
Telling me to leave the site. It's no business of yours and why are you still on this thread if you find it so negative. Sorry find a weaker character to go tell them to get off the site. You've got the wrong number with me.
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name a spot midway between malta and India and I'll meet you there!
I'm off to nap soon too....zzzz....
Thanks the tide will turn one day!
Freedom
I suppose you are never lonely? Who says you have to pick a side? I'm happy being lonely unless I meet someone who adds to my happiness. Thanks for the hostile reply. I will whine to my heart's content.