Keep the faith. it takes a lot of patience. However if you're limiting your search geographically on an international site it may be better to try and meet someone in real life. Good luck
well I've plucked up the courage to go out....to a club. Not my scene and it won't start till 11:30 pm. so I might just doze off to sleep and not go out after all. I'm trying the venues I know of.
As to armani and pizza. he needn't wear armani but the pizza is not a bad idea and a good dvd....no i'm going out and sticking with it!
umm....my hair is down but photo was taken on a day i wasn't wearing any make up. should make the effort to put on make up and take another pic? And no you're not being rude!
I would say the key word is circumstances. E.g. I moved out to my own flat ages ago, then moved to London and returned to my native country after being made redundant and splitting from a 12 year ltr. I still own my own property but my age and experience put a lot of employers off employing me. So I'm doing part-time work just to get by, renting out my place and have moved back at parents as it's the only way I can cope financially. Hopefully the situation is only temporary but if a man were to be put off by this it means he's not for me as he wouldn't be there for me in times of need such as this one. Independence is costly and all of us land on hard times at one point or another.
I have the same problem. I'm a stay in type not because of social anxiety but because I find it relaxing staying at home. Look for someobody who shares your interests. E.g. it's no use going for an outdoorsy person if you're not into that. Good luck
Kudos to you for loving your overweight exes. I was given hell over weight issues, had my diet and excercise monitored and in the end when I cracked under the pressure, he walked out. It's put me off men big time. I'm just well rounded, not a small frame but I've done every diet in the book and I always revert to present shape. He'd say I wouldn't do anything for him cause I refused to diet on his orders. Good riddance to bad rubbish. I've found a few men after him who were ok with the way I am. How would men feel if women started demanding a six pack?
Encouraging answer! Amongst the reasons I got dumped was my preference for staying in. Needless to say not a very understanding ex of the double shift I'd been doing. Ever thought of visiting Malta EM. I'd show you around, don't worry. the only time I get to go out is when I have guests to shwo around. other times it's been there done that, can't see it witha refreshed pair of eyes.
So many profiles (men's) claim to love the outdoors and physical acitivites like trekking and hiking, are there any men who prefer to stay indoors reading, surfing th enet, cooking dinner and who wouldn't mind a stay in type of woman?
suffocation was hardly the cause. I did a lot of my own things. Except I'm not a person of many hobbies and because he used to spend so much time at his laptop, I've taken that on. Otherwise we enjoyed completely different literature, films, TV. I'm a stay at home type and he wanted an outdoorsy life. I used to excercise he never did then decided he wanted to excercise when I was having a break from my fitness regime. I used to enjoy dancing, he didn't so I gave that up. Over the years I took aerobics, pilates, salsa classes, did my postgrad, furnished the home, read books he'd never read. We were as different as day and night.
Agree. In an LTR you take on so much of each other. You don't have your own identity anymore. I'm doing what I like. I like staying in surfing th enet. guess he was an IT nerd and now I've become one. I never had time to just be lazy and stay in and sleep and it's what I'm doing now recuperating my strength after doing the double shift and living up to wonderwoman expectations for so long.
When you're used to life in two, how do you re-create an interesting single personality so that you don't start missing his hobbies and feeling like you're just wasting your life away? Is it too much effort in the beginning?
Do you distinguish between the various degrees of body build from skinny, slim to obese? Jennifer Lopez is curvy, yet you could still carry her over the treshold.
Jelous of single men wanting a slim woman. Not in the least. I just think it's shallow. I too like tall men but have left my profile open to see who I meet first not lay down requirements in advance that may rule out decent people. Maybe that's why they are single.
It is precisely the attitude that bothers me about most of my female friends. They still believe that Prince Charming will come knocking at their door and sweep them off their feet. I believe in looking for what you want but due to lack of friends am restricted to CS. I'm not complaining about the number of dates via CS I've had plenty locally and just last week had somebody visit me from abroad. It is the compatibility that is eluding me and I do feel I'm missing out on the local scene by not going out. I just don't have the guts to go to a club on my own firstly because I don't drink much and how on earth would I occupy my time in a club full of drunk and young people, staring at and observing people having a good time?
I'm giving finding work my 100% but by working in London I lost my footing on the local market and now at 37 with London experience under my belt most employers in the small maltese market aren't interested. I'm ready to give it another year. If nothing changes I might have to sell my property and move back to London, even knowing I temped there for a long time before I found anything. My profession is just not in demand and the most I can stretch myself to is to switch to teaching which I'm doing now part-time. My life has changed drastically this year and I'm still coming to terms with all the changes from being on top of my game to this. I just wish things would sort themselves out asap but I don't have a magic wand.
I've been to Paceville once in eight months. The few friends I have refuse to go there. You're more likely to meet teenagers there and plenty of drunks and junkies. It is not my scene but if my friends were willing I'd go to a few select bars there. In the summer there are good chances of meeting foreign men of a certain age there. What they're looking for is another story. I did Paceville in my 20s and met my ex there but it was different cause I'd always known him by sight and liked him at UNi. Until I get a job I can't afford Paceville or the other clubs for more mature people. I'm looking to make friends but the ones I've made just like me never go out.
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that's exactly what's so addictive about cs and it doesn't break the bank
RE: I am tired being single, and you?
Keep the faith. it takes a lot of patience. However if you're limiting your search geographically on an international site it may be better to try and meet someone in real life. Good luck