very good question; I try not to read too much into statements and to make assumptions immediately, because there are many variables. Over time as I get to know a person I am able to trully understand them. And also our experiences of life are all so unique, our points of view.
It's objective, realistic, and it's called watching your back. Why would you betray yourself and you own best interests by giving 2nd and 3rd chances ???
RE: Secret Crushes
I had a big crush on the grandson of a neighbor, who would only spend summers there, and who was quite older.