I dated a Vietnam vet many years ago who lost a leg during the war.
I dated a biker guy some years after that who had lost a leg to a shark attack that happened while he was trying to save his then-girlfriend from getting attacked. His nickname was "Kickstand."
I was really good friends with a guy who couldn't walk because he was paralyzed from the waist down as the result of a car accident.
Yes, I was about 13, I think, and my aunt let some of us have a party in her basement. No booze ...and I didn't drink then anyway. But some of the guys snuck and drank some. Anyway we were playing Spin the Bottle and someone had dared a guy I really thought was cute to French kiss me. I thought it was the most disgusting thing the world. Lord, did I ever change my mind about that about three years later.
Fertility witchuals??? I just broke off an engagement that I never agreed to in the first place and now you're speaking of "fertility witchuals?" Wish in one hand and **** off in the other and see which one gets filled up the fastest.
Here, they have homeless shelters and "soup kitchens" and stuff. A lot of the street bums don't want help. Yes, you have to fill out some paperwork, I imagine. Most are too lazy and find it easier to steal.
Prisons need to work toward rehabiliation, but I don't think that someone who has committed a crime should be able to walk away without being punished for it. They don't call 'em "penal institutions" for nothing.
The guy I talked about has had years and years of this behavior. It's never going to change until HE is turned away by everyone and he's left to his own devices. And even then I suspect it won't.
Me, if you're hungry and you steal, that's one thing. But this is the United States and there are places you can go to get food without having to steal it. I don't condone stealing in any form or fashion.
Promiscuity? BTDT myself. Bad idea. I don't condone it, but I can see why it happens. Hell, it's even encouraged these days.
If you do drugs, and you commit a crime while doing those drugs, yes, you should be in jail.
I think that people should stive for rehabilitation, and should be forgiven, but I'm very strict about a "three strikes you're out" rule. And I'm not even that tolerant, most of the time.
While I do empathize/sympathize, I believe that if people don't show any desire to heal, or change their behavior, then you have to show them the hard way sometimes.
There is a guy I know in my sister's family who is going to end up spending the rest of his life in jail because no one will MAKE him do what he's suppposed to do. They end up feeling sorry for him and letting him take advantage of them. He's 35 and has five kids and one on the way (from three women) and has barely paid a dime of child support for any of them.
He's intermittently on drugs and recently got caught and convicted for stealing some cash from a mall with his current girlfriend. Now, he's back in jail again. And, when he serves this time, he'll just do something to get back in.
A couple years ago, I tried to help him out by letting him do odd jobs around here. I figured out that i had paid him about $6,000 that year to do work for me. He spent most of it on drugs.
He had a $75 traffic ticket and he took money I had paid him and, instead of paying it, he spent it on drugs and amassed $1,800 worth of fines over the ensuing year or so.
Everyone in the family has tried to help him, and he's taken advantage of it, with nothing to show for it in return.
He's a lazy, good for nothing, bum. And he has worn out his welcome, and his sympathy, with everyone. But...I guarantee you, some dufus will take him in and give him shelter, and the cycle will start all over again. So long as he has someone who will do that, so long as he isn't forced to become a man, to grow up, that will continue to happen.
I have no sympathy whatsoever for him anymore. He made his bed, and now he can lie in it.
jeanc200658 Forum Posts (1,858)
RE: Jas
Umm, i think you've got that a tad bass ackwards, don't you?