I'm not a hillbilly...hillbillies aren't editors and writers and they can SPELL, unlike others whose names will remain unmentioned. And calling someone a STALKER is not an insult?? Not only is it an INSULT, it's LIBEL. You insult me, you're gonna get insulted back.
thank you..I have every faith that he will. I truly believe that God brought us together. Even if we don't end up staying together, even if he goes back to her, I still will believe that. He is a very special man, the kind of man who doesn't come along every single day, and I am a richer person for just having met him, even if it turns out to be for a short period of time.
LOL...if he or anyone else thinks I'm going to wait over 3.5 years for him to "normalize," he's got another think coming. If he wasn't ready to begin a relationship, he should NEVER have contacted me in the first place, nor even put a profile up on a dating site.
He has a specific schedule; he's not on call. And, if for some reason he did get called in, (it'd have to be some major thing) it'd have been on the news. Plus, if he had time to email me saying he missed me, he could have briefly typed out, "got an emergency; gotta run."
No, I'm not overwhelming, and I haven't put him against the ropes. In fact, I've been far less "demanding" of him than most anyone else would have been who was in the same situation.
No, he's not from Texas; he lives about an hour's drive from me. He is a respected ER physician in the county in which he lives and surrounding counties as well. (Doctors my mother works with know of him and that's how I know that he is respected amongst his peers. His stb ex is an attorney).
He's a good man; he's just really confused right now. But, then, so am I since he wouldn't talk with me. I'm sure there is some reasonable explanation. I'll find out come hell or high water..lol.
And thanks for your kind words; you are very thoughtful.
Yes, it might be possible, but he could have told me that in the email. But to get a "I'll call U soon. Miss U" message? A part of me feels happy that he said that...the last thing he told me during our phone conversation is that he missed me...I don't think he's "just saying it."
But to then turn around and he KNOWS I know he's online, yet he won't talk to me at all? Doesn't he realize how utterly MADDENING that must be for me?
I cannot think of ANY reason why he'd not respond, even briefly, except that I guess he figures if he does, then he's "sucked in" to a lengthy conversation with me. He may just be deadass tired...but..he's not too tired to be online for the last nearly two hours...
well, who the hell knows? I HATE being so freaking analytical sometimes..but it's in my blood. I picked the right line of work back when I used to be an editor for a newspaper, I think, since the first rule of journalism is, "If your mother says she loves you, check it out."
party of the second part IS married; divorce is pending very soon. Party of the second part has already bought and is living in a new house, separate from the family. She is having an affair, so that is really somewhat of a non-issue.
But even if he's at the old house (visiting with his daughters), he's still been on the site (a dating site) for nearly an hour and a half...if his wife was around, she's see the fact he was on a dating site, regardless of whether he's chatting with someone or not.
I'm thinking that because the email that he sent was short and clippy and not at all like the way he normally writes that he might be drinking. He's doesn't drink a whole lot, but has admitted to an occasional "binge." I'm thinking he might be drunk and doesn't want me to know it and figures I'd know by the way he writes...
I don't think he's chatting with anyone else; I'm pretty sure, even if he was, he'd still chat with me, at least briefly. He's not a playboy type, anyway, so I don't think he's playing me at all.
Oh, well...I'm sure he'll explain it later. I hope. As a Gemini, I absolutely HATE it when people are noncommunicative, especially when I want to be, which is all the time.
Party of the first part meets party of the second part...parties hit it off, in a big way.
Parties exchange phone conversation for a couple hours three days ago, after which party of the second part tells party of the first part that they'll chat later that same evening in an IM conversation.
Party of the second part does not come back online that evening (but has a very busy work schedule) ...but then comes back online tonight (and is still there).
Party of the second part does not respond to any emails sent, except for one via his regular email to party of the first part's regular email, stating simply, "I'm OK. Call U soon. Miss you."
Party of the second part is "online, not availble" (to chat).
What's the deal? He's always been available to chat, eager, even.
And can't even answer an email briefly, or call? What's even more perplexing is the "Miss you" comment, in light of the fact he apparently doesn't want to talk to me right now....
I've always dated men younger (except when I was very young). And the reason being is because, for the most part, younger men pursue me a WHOLE lot more than older men. And, also because I'm a lot more attracted to younger men--their looks, their personalities, their bodies.
I would probably date as young as 35 (have, in fact) but that's a bit too young for my taste. I just haven't found very many man men over 50 I've been attracted to, is all. I make no apologies for that. You can't force yourself to be attracted to someone you're simply not attracted to.
"Perhaps to him 'flirting' means to exchange facial expressions and body language WITH the intent of engaging in a serious affair. However, since he had no such intent he didn't see it as 'flirting' instead he just saw is as harmless "playing" with no serious intent to go anywhere with it."
There is not a thing in the world wrong with being judgmental. We make judgments many times a day, with regard to many issues. I'm not sure what you mean a "possible lie," versus an "outright lie," but being judgmental doesn't even fall into the same category as lying.
You all are not going to believe this! See, I went to get my mail yesterday when I saw the postman, and I stopped and said hi to him. And he proposed to me! I'm so elated! Of course, I said yes immediately...and my plans were to go through with it, but, later on yesterday evening I was pumping gas at Wal-Mart, and the cashier in the little kiosk asked for my hand in marriage! He said I was the hottest, most beautiful thing I'd ever seen and that I was his "destiny." He's a bit younger than me, (18) but, hey, true love is true love, right?
So I forgot all about Mr. Mailman and started making plans for a Christmas wedding with Kiosk Man--until, that is, I went into the Wal-Mart to buy myself a pair of warm fuzzy pajamas and slippers to match. I was in the shoe department looking at the slippers and, wouldn't you know it? One of the janitors walks by me on his way to the breakroom and he practically falls down on his knees and begs me to marry him right then and there. I was so touched by it all immediately I said yes. So, I plan to become Mrs. Janitor in February. Thinking of a Valentine's Day wedding, in fact.
Three marriage proposals in one day! Damn, my numbers are slipping; usually I get ten or more.
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A perplexing conundrum...
I'm not a hillbilly...hillbillies aren't editors and writers and they can SPELL, unlike others whose names will remain unmentioned. And calling someone a STALKER is not an insult?? Not only is it an INSULT, it's LIBEL. You insult me, you're gonna get insulted back.