You have a few issues on your hands right now, but to simplify it to the core, that many years have been wasted. For whatever reason/s neither have put in the necessary effort to rectify the situation = mediocrity, routine, taking each other for granted, etc. Do you want or need to waste another 15 or 20 years? He has a problem you have a problem, someone has got to make the decision to end it and forget it; your life is your own so please own it.
RE: What's the nicest aspect about someone you've come into contact with on this site.