What doesn't kill you makes you stronger and hopefully smarter Dot you i's, cross your t's, do the math, take control of your life and be responsible for your actions. What is the use in wanting something in vain if you aren't willing to pay the price? Be real, be honest, and kick yourself in the rear when you get sidetracked; fastest way back on track
Lena, good is relative in this case , because what is good to some might be scary to others. I think intelligence and being able to read people has a lot to do with being able to please. But in general terms, yeah, it's pretty obvious when a guy is sure of himself.
To be quite frank I don't have the patience to read what I consider a novel about a complete and total stranger, and I am also sorta doubtful about their sincerity and sense of privacy when they are too willing and ready to share their most intimate thoughts with the entire world just like that; it's too easy for my personal preference; and that is if we are to accept at face value the entire story or paragraph. On a more positive note, I don't mean to offend anyone who might be just that sincere and open; I suppose it's different strokes for different folks.
If there's honesty in your communications before you actually meet, I personally don't find it so unususal that someone might become gradually attractive; the thing that can break the enchanment for moi are one of two major aspects - either he really gets on my nerves or he has some really bad habits that I wouldn't be able to tolerate much less find him adorable and desirable.
Many divorces tells me you are seeking something outside of yourself, but really the answer is within, and somehow you have not figured it out yet; never marrried - afraid to take a chance, pessimistic, selfish maybe, or perhaps just clueless with no real agenda or sense of direction, bad luck? The possibilities are numerous.
Self-awareness, recognition it's heading downhill, enforcing positive daily routines, being real and honest with yourself, do something about it when you feel bad-something positive, cultivate good habits and positive thoughts; try to end the day on a positive note no matter how hard a day you've had. JMO
It's an escape from the painful reality of everyday life for some; it's a way of coping with stress; it's a learned behavior or reaction just like any other bad habit; if you are an alcoholic my advice would be don't buy alcohol, don't go bars, and definitely go easy on yourself when you've had a bad day; pamper yourself into feeling better.
That's great; I think the first step towards change is being honest with ourselves, and wanting to do something about it; making an effort to react differently next time.
RE: An Irish love story
Me too.