I think she's right too; your relationship wasn't based on the right stuff, but I still thought you two were compatible from what you had told us, in terms of what you considered a relationship.
Look all I can tell ya from my own perspective is that you do your best when you love someone; you don't ask for anyhting in return, but hopefully it is reciprocated, and you certainly don't keep a score; a good relationship kinda happens, and if you have to ask for things it ain't happening.
Wait.....wait; we're mixing apples and pears now; let's stick with one fruit at a time; I thought we were talking about the trust issues. Materially speaking, I don't believe in putting a price on love or the relationship itself; you each do what you are able to and what you want; if you start bargaining over who did what it's already ugly and heading downhill at 100 miles/hour JMO
You two have similar ideas about showing your affection; what relationship is perfect? She has trust issues that maybe you can help fix; when you love someone you don't just walk out, you stick with it damn it for better or worse; seriously though, did you try talking to her about it?
I am happy for you both, congratulations, however, I am not surprized at all by the great news; when I saw you guys together I could tell it was special and mutual.
I'm qualifying myself here to answer your que , when the love becomes brotherly love, when you've tried everything and it feels like the horse ain't wakin up, JUST DO IT.
RE: For you to be impressed by someone, he/she must have:
And he must know when it's time to put aside exagerrating with the gentlemanliness