I think one can become obsessed with another person... and then it gets confused with LOVE... If you LOSE yourself in a relationship, then it's not love... if every breathing minute of your life is obsessed with that person, then that's not love... that's obsession... and that's not healthy. Love doesn't hurt... and it doesn't totally consume you.
So, I do not believe you can love someone too much...You can become obsessed with someone... We're all capable of many different kinds of love... and if you've truly found love with someone than you both want time together, but understand that time apart is healthy too... Just my fitty cents worth
A relationship is not 50/50... It's 100/100. You both give 100%. WHen one can only give 90%, the other out of love will take up that extra 10% and vice versa. If you both only give 50%, then it's not going to work very well.
Everyone's idea of a soulmate is different... It's a term people use to describe 'the one' in my opinion.
Richard Bach has the best definition I've read about soulmates or 'the one'....
.....A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we're pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we're safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life......
Nova Scotia... I look out from my apartment window and I see the Ocean... If I walk on the beach at the edge of the Park near where I live, it's a great spot to regroup, relax, and soothe any inner turmoil. It's a great place to go to think through any problem I might be facing.
It does only go to show that the younger American generation knows nothing about Canada... Hell alot of Americans PERIOD know nothing about Canada. I know this because in my travels to various US States when people have asked where I'm from, I get the same 'pat' questions or comments. They say the name of the country like it's some Far away planet... Makes me laugh sometimes...
However, I don't feel bad because a lot of Americans know nothing about other states in their OWN country... I have encountered that too... There are people in Florida who do not know where Bangor, Maine is... or who have no idea that Washington DC and the state of Washington are 2 different places..... I've heard this first hand from people who are friends of my parents (who live in Florida now)... It's amazing...
However, I do not look with disdain upon people because they don't know or understand something and are willing to learn... I do look with disdain upon people who make comments about something they know nothing about without thinking or without researching the facts....
I just like a man to be taller than me... My preference. I'm 5'5"... so I want the guy to be at least 3 inches taller... Then I can wear my 3 inch heels!!!!!
I think it does, Wikked, and I think she is a very ill girl, who needs some help. But, I don't care to hear all about it quite frankly. In the scheme of things, with the world in the shape that it is in, whether Britany Spears is bald or not.. does not interest me.
Yeah, it comes with the territory, but not all rich and famous get this much publicity when they have 'meltdowns'... not all of them have meltdowns for that matter.... If ya can't stand the heat.....
And, if she's going through a breakdown or suffering from depression, then why don't those who love her HELP her? Jeez.. it's not rocket science.
Seems to me, there's some publicity stunt going on in these instances....
For me, I like to date someone closer to my own age... around 5 or 6 years older or 5 or 6 years younger.... I find we have more in common that way....
I dated a guy when I was 40 who was 28. We got along great, but he wanted children.... I can't have kids... So... we parted on great terms.
I speak my mind but when the anger, hatred, or mud slinging slurs start, I will just walk away. Life's too short. Sometimes it's just not worth it to me in the scheme of things.
I agree with Zdeadman... I was in the same type of situation about 7 years ago, and he was going through a divorce and we were good friends, and I knew he really was probably not ready for a relationship, but I decided to tell him. He told me he did not want to lose my friendship, and he was flattered, and did not want me to be his 'rebound' gal... Unfortunately, when he was ready about 15 months later, and started showing me how he felt, I had begun seeing someone else. Now that I'm single again, my feelings for this guy are just platonic.. I love him dearly as a pal, but we're just good pals.
I look at it as it just wasnt' in the cards for us to be in an intimate relationship.
I've quit a few times in my life... Every time I did it cold turkey. Haven't had a smoke in almost 3 years. And I LOVE IT!!!! I didn't gain a lot of weight, but what weight I did gain, I needed!!!
Actually, Jane, a friend of mine found that high doeses of a lot of those mind numbing narcotics exascerbated her fibromyalgia. I can't imagine that kinda of pain. I have chronic pain from Degenerative Disk Disease in my neck and it pinches the nerves in my neck and shoulder. I get nerve blocks done every 3-4 months. They give me some relief. I could not imagine going through what you go through on a daily basis. Acupuncture did not help me with the pain, but it helped with relaxation.
Life is a JOURNEY!!!!! And... can be adventurous along the way....
"True Love"... to me... is subjective... Everyone has their idea of what true love is...
Richard Bach best describes one's soul mates as someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we really are; we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.
I love the forums, and yah, would love to meet someone to have a relationship with. I'm not particularly LOOKING for it though. I love the friends I've made on here as well....
It's all good...
I agree with Rzr... when you're not lookin' or expecting anything....things tend to happen!!!!
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RE: Wandering eyes
I AGREE WITH YOU JANE!!!!