Well you made a very poor choice of wording in your thread title....."importing"......so the flack you received for that alone should have been expected!
If you have such serious doubts about these profiles you describe then leave them well alone and don't fret about them so much. Simple no?
It's just not possible in my opinion. How can you understand or know anyone here in the true sense when all you get really is a tiny inkling of what they are about.
Except of course those who never seem to sleep or work and are here 24/7! They have more time perhaps to reveal a bit more of themselves.
Are -ism's always negative? Or have negative connotations?
I think we are conditioned to accept, or have been in the past, to accept to some extent specific gender roles, though I agree that men and women seem to be more skilled in certain different areas. I think you brought up nurturing which I agree is generally, but not always, one of those skills women appear to have in abundance. However, is that simply due to conditioning and the fact that women still tend to be the carers in society for the most part in spite of "feminism" or as I prefer to think of it as the sterling work undertaken by both women and men who believe in equality.
You surely cannot bleat about what men and women should or should not do, or be entitled to expect, when our lives bear no resemblance whatsover to the era you seem to yearn for. I also do not believe that desiring equality, whether it be in the workplace, or in the home, wherever, necessarily de-feminizes women or threatens a man's masculinity.
Seriously, before I get criticised for that comment, (because I wasn't really joking) it depends entirely on the individual. Some profiles may appeal to you yet make me cringe. Personally I don't like very long profiles, particularly those which include well worn stock expressions, but I rarely read them now anyway.
Lets go for all three! I wouldn't consider myself as self-centred, I have no qualms about my morals, and finally, no I wouldn't give up my life for a stranger. My kids would never forgive me!
No disrespect Monte, but you said earlier that you are 71 and in my opinion 20 years younger is still a significant age gap which is unlikely to work despite both perhaps being experienced in life and love as you say. I seriously doubt that a man in his seventies would be the ideal partner or have much in common with me as a woman in her fifties.
I think anybody is capable of childlike behaviour or thought, regardless of age or gender. I also think that it is generally men who find it more difficult to grow up.
Right, all those women are extremely wealthy, most probably botoxed, lifted to the hilt and pampered to the extent us "normal" women could never afford. I don't really think there is any comparison do you? I'd much rather be attractive to someone for who I am and look like without feeling the need to resort to procedures in order to nab or hang onto a young stud!
These relationships with huge age differences rarely stand the test of time. I've tried it briefly and quite frankly, boredom set in very early in the relationship!
A combination of two states. Anxious, but only in relation to work projects, and at peace.
I do not allow myself to get depressed for longer than a day at most, and living here in my sunny part of Spain it's very easy to quell any negative feelings I may have occasionally.
You do have a point when you mention young men in the op's peer group as this generation does seem more obsessed with thin as the ideal, certainly much more than when I was a young woman. I also agree that Kaybee's post was a pearl as she has clearly fought similar demons and therefore understands more than most of us.
But you know, young people are, and always have been full of insecurities for all sorts of reasons, weight, skin, hair, the list goes on, and sometimes they live with those insecurities for the rest of their lives sadly, so older and perhaps wiser folk can offer a few words in order to bolster self-esteem in a constructive way without being criticised for doing so.
I'm on two or three dating sites which I joined about six years ago, maybe more. However, I don't use them, and haven't done so for hmmmm let me see, about six years! I very quickly became disillusioned with online dating and only remained here because the forums are sometimes a good way to unwind and communicate with folk as friends.
The point I'm making is that I've never deleted my profiles on the other sites, partly because I tried once with one of them and found it impossibly difficult, and partly because I've been too lazy to do so. I don't think I could remember my login info now anyway!
I'm not saying the same scenario applies here, but isn't it possible? Here on CS there are many people in relationships who still contribute to the forums and I wouldn't worry if I were in a relationship with someone with an active profile on a dating site, particularly after only four months. Perhaps CS is different though in this respect compared to other dating sites.
Hmmmmm interesting but on second thoughts no, too similar, could be boring, perhaps a drummer and a guitarist? I'm trying to think harmonious thoughts.
Yes I think it's possible for some people. We have to accept that there are no "norms" in relationships nowadays, however much the loving male and female union who go on to produce children has been drummed into us as the "ideal" relationship.
Nice thought but I think the majority do go for looks first and foremost though. How many times have you heard women of a certain age say they have suddenly become invisible? The same thing happens to men though they are more reluctant to accept or admit it.
The OP is a beautiful young woman as I said in my previous post, and should try to focus on the positives rather than what she perceives as ugly, ie a little excess weight.
We don't choose who we fall in love with, and although most of us I assume try to avoid relationships with married or "taken" people, it's not always so simple for a variety of reasons, which quite frankly I can't be bothered to list as so many people are displaying their judgemental nature it wouldn't be worth the effort.
Be cautious and don't accept second best is the only advice I can offer to the OP.
As a well seasoned traveller I can only opt for Oz, and that's because my son and his wife have been living there for the past 6 months and I desperately want to visit them.
Oooh what did I do there, that previous post was solcistemoon´s not mine. However, in response to her post, I would say that after living here for 12 years I have never experienced any prejudice whatsoever. Perhaps because I don´t live in an area where there are many ex-pats, indeed very few, and they all seem to be teachers like me.
I cannot complain about anything, other than the bureaucracy, but I am extremely sad to see how many young and highly qualified students of mine are unemployed due to this damn crisis. Ironically the crisis has resulted in too much work for me as people are desperate to learn English or improve their current English skills in order to be in a better position to find work.
Last week two of my students actually found jobs after lengthy unemployment periods so we celebrated as if we had won the lottery!
Like Solcistemoon, I would never go back to the UK in spite of the hard times here in Spain.
I really don´t know, though I doubt whether photo rates or profile reviews are productive generally.
The forums may be the best place initially to get noticed, but the downside is that many forum posters are only here for the banter, debate, innocent flirting, (or ego stroking perhaps )and corresponding with virtual friends they have made during their time here.
You should also be aware that many women here receive messages and flowers on a regular basis and it is not always possible or wise (nutcases are everywhere!) to respond, so don´t take it personally.
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when reading things here. 
RE: What would happen if there were no Moon?
We would never have had the pleasure of listening to Moondance by Van Morrisson.