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RE: for lovaboy...

Hi Robert. Hope you had a better day today sir.

If a man wants you..

Part of the reason, IMHO, is because sometimes we think they will MAYBE change their mind. Sometimes we think if we love them hard enough...it will be enough. Lemme tell ya...when a man/woman shows you themselves for the first time...BELIVE IT! Otherwise, you end up with a broken heart and alot of wasted time spent on a relationship that will just never be.

RE: for lovaboy...

I have never named mine...

If a woman wants you...

By the way...THIS was also written by a man.

If a woman wants you...

If a woman wants you, nothing can keep her away. If she doesn't want you, nothing can make her stay. Stop making excuses for a woman and her behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Taking your time is better. Never live your life for a woman before you find what makes you really happy. If a relationship ends because the woman was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend would not mistreat you.


Don't settle. If you feel like she is stringing you along, then she probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid women who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different men. She didn't marry them when she got pregnant, why would she marry you now? Always have your own set of friends separate from hers. Maintain boundaries in how a girl treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a woman know everything. She will use it against you later. You cannot change a woman's behavior. Change comes from within.


Don't EVER make her feel she's more important than you are...even if she has more education or in a better job. Do not make her into a quasi-god. She is a woman, nothing more nothing less. Never let a woman define who you are. Never borrow someone else's woman/especially his wife. If she cheated with you, she'll cheat on you... A woman will only treat you the way you ALLOW her to treat you. All women are NOT garden tools or....... you know.


You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if she doesn't turn out to be Mrs.. Right. Make her miss you sometimes...when a woman always know where you are, and your always readily available to her- she takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a woman who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep her in your radar but get to know others.


Share this with another man..... You'll make someone SMILE, or make some guy RETHINK their choices, and possibly another PREPARE.


They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

Relationships are a 2 way street.

If a man wants you..

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends." A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, Why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. ! He is a man, nothing more nothing less.

Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man. Oh Lord! If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and your always readily available to him- he takes it for granted. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other ladies..... You'll make someone SMILE, another

RETHINK her choices, and another woman PREPARE.



They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.


BY THE WAY, THIS WAS WRITTEN BY A MAN, SO TAKE A HINT...

Never say never...

I hear ya! I work 12-13 hrs./day, 5, sometimes 6 days/wk. My children are 15 and 10...I am almost 50...but life is what we make it, eh?

RE: omg i just came home from yet another bad date!!!???

RE: omg i just came home from yet another bad date!!!???

I hear ya...That's why I stopped!

Never say never...

Same to you my sweet man Friend....

RE: what are some of problems you have with cs

I have no problems with CS...

RE: Hod do you know when is the right time to marry your partner...

I'll drink to that Shipoker!

RE: A question to women

Definitely..emotional...

Never say never...

Never say never...

There is no such thing as no chance.
Don't think about the things you can't do.
Think about the things you can do.

No matter what the level of your ability is,
you have more potential than you can ever develop in a lifetime.

You have powers you never dreamed of.
You can do things you never thought you could do.
There are no limitations to what you can do
except the limitations of your own mind.

Your range of available choices right now is limitless.
Look at things as they can be.

RE: what do u think...

Plenty of times! But I have had to learn to view the glass as half full, instead of half empty, so to speak. If I look hard enough, and long enough, and be still long enough...there are ALWAYS positives in the negatives.

RE: Please, if you will

That was very beautiful Ice. Thank you for sharing this.

RE: Haus Bodhi's der Schmerz

No apologies necessary. I am just rambling myself...It has been a long tiring day...and I should be asleep because I am not making alot of sense. Good Night, my friend.

RE: Hey all, I am back

Welcome back! Nice to see that you made it back safe.

RE: what do u think...

Soooo very, very true. Nice post. Thank you.

RE: Haus Bodhi's der Schmerz

Yes, but its the rolling along with that sometimes causes confusion.

RE: I have to ask this?

RE: Haus Bodhi's der Schmerz

I am not sure if we ever really know ourselves. I think I learn more about me every day...I think we must change and grow, sometimes minute by minute. The trick I have found is to be still and quiet enough to hear perhaps.

RE: Haus Bodhi's der Schmerz

Well yes that is true. You sir, are a braver soul than I. If I can just finish raising my sweet kids, I will be happy...I think I have been by myself to long. There are times that I just do not understand myself...you ever have those times?

RE: Haus Bodhi's der Schmerz

Yes, you are a very nice man. A true gentleman. And I hope things work out very well for you and your new lady friend.

RE: Haus Bodhi's der Schmerz

I bet so! Good for them to have a bit of a scare now and then though...

RE: Haus Bodhi's der Schmerz

Maybe you can find the shirt and get it this time if you go, eh?

RE: Haus Bodhi's der Schmerz

I am still hanging for a few Rob...

RE: Haus Bodhi's der Schmerz

Yes you should have bought the shirt!

RE: Haus Bodhi's der Schmerz

Hear ya...Long day here also. See everyone tomorrow...