Nidifugous Forum Posts (1,430)

When to say "I love you"

Wise words, esp. the bit where you say that it doesn't matter whether the other person loves you back. That's a great attitude and takes a fair bit of self-confidence.

I still think there's always something of a power play going on in a relationship as well as a fear of rejection. The one who says "I love you" sincerely is always in a vulnerable position esp. if the feelings aren't reciprocated.

RE: Can Broken Hearts get repaired.

You are lucky if you believe that a broken heart can be healed by the right hands. I think a broken heart leaves scars. That means it healed, but it will never function as good as a new one. Like scar tissue, it doesn't stretch so well anymore. :-)

When to say "I love you"

Do you say it when you feel it?

Women: Do you wait for the guy to say it first before you let your guard down?

Men: How did you feel when a woman said it to you first? Were you flattered, turned off, positively surprised?

Both: Did you ever let someone down after they said it?

Being older, does it still matter who says it first and when? or are you a believer in "it's implied in my actions"? (i.e. I don't need to say it, I show it).

How important is it that your date/partner says the magic words?

RE: What do you think about the new television show"Married at First Sight."

I saw one episode (sort of in the middle of the show). They said the people were picked based on what the psychologists etc. thought would be a match. Didn't look very promising. Distance and money seemed to have been the biggest problems and those who got along well in bed didn't get along so well outside the sheets.

Goes to show that nobody can give anybody "relationship" advice

RE: Would you get married after one date?

I think the point of an engagement has become null and void given the freedom people have today.

RE: Is it ethical to end a relationship via text messaging ?

This is not a question of ethics or morality. It's a question of manners. There is no right or wrong way to end a relationship. Nobody is morally obligated to be nice about it or to use the postal service, etc. so no moral issue here. Whoever does it just has bad manners. If someone sent me a text saying it's over, I'd thank my lucky stars to be rid of him.

RE: You meet the man of your dreams - but he is much smaller (let's say 10 cm) as you

There is a saying that a man is 10 cm taller when he stands on his wallet.

I would only consider my height or taller, tbh.

RE: What are the chances of being bit by a shark?

Some sharks are harmless, but crocks... bless your heart because I'd never knowingly go in the water with a crock in it. That's sort of where the thrill ends for me You have to report back after your trip. I'd like to hear how it went. :-)

RE: How many times do u eat Rice in a week

RE: What are the chances of being bit by a shark?

Exactly. They have sensors in their snout that sense the electric impulses that your heart gives off, so they know when you panic. You have to stay as calm as possible. Maybe wear a dive knife strapped around your leg, just in case; although I'm not sure it'll do much good, but it will make you feel better and you never know how it might come in handy esp. if there's kelp.

What exactly do you mean by you will swim around them? Sounds dangerous.

Crocodiles scare the crap out of me because esp. the saltwater variety.

RE: Describe your life in one word

adventure

RE: 180 miles between us - a too long distance for a true love?

Well, at least they have basements in Austria

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Me too Life's a lot easier as it is. Cheers

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As is 10 times zero and 2 x is less frustrating than 10 or 20

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In the grand scheme of things, that's not a bad !

RE: What are the chances of being bit by a shark?

I'm into scubadiving (rescue/nitrox) and dove in many different places, including Australia. I've also been in a shark cage and did shark dives. Rule of thumb: The colder the water, the bigger/more dangerous the sharks. The more you flail your arms and legs around, the more you look like food. Stay out of the water where there are seals or where the water has been overfished. Wear bright colors that look like you could be poisoneous. Wear black and you look like a seal; your arms and legs look like fish to a shark. If you're ever out in open water, keep your arms and legs together and curl up into a ball, so far as possible.

One thing that I've learned encountering sharks under water is that you cannot outswim them. They move so fast, you have no chance. The upside to diving is that they're afraid of the bubbles and we save ourselves in an emergency by going as deep as possible and hanging onto a rock and just wait until they lose interest. Waders, snorklers and swimmers are at a disadvantage, so best is to get some information up front about the area you plan to visit. (stay away from where they chum sharks for the tourists!!).

RE: best place in the world

I have never been in the Greek Islands. Turkish islands yes but never Greece and I love the history and culture of the country. Well, one of these days, i'll go and check them out.

RE: best place in the world

I'm afraid to ask which half you'd like

RE: Long hair on women. What length is hottest?

Hi Merri,

Omg, I can't count how many times I've heard the same line of advice, but it's not happening. I have long curly hair (straightened in the pix) and I plan to keep it. Whoever doesn't like it can just look the other way.

Whoever came up with that nonsense anyway that short hair is supposed to make your face look younger because it pulls off to the side

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Thanks for explaining. I haven't heard about this before. You know what this reminds me of? Little kids. Seriously. When they're very young and feel secure, they venture out and explore up to a point and then run back to mom to kinda fill the emotional gas tank and then when the tank is full, they venture out again. You think this is true for women as well?

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I wasn't crazy about being married, but the peer and family pressure was big and women didn't have the same opportunities that they have today. The field I wanted to go into was off limits to women back then. The role models that we had were still the virtuous Hausfrau who excels at home economics and all that. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about. In hindsight, I made the right decision in terms of choosing the right guy to marry, but perhaps that was just luck.

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Exactly. I married at 25 and that was considered late.

RE: most friendly people in the world are

Yep.

Americans are friendlier than Europeans (short of the Irish), but the Canadians are a really pleasant people.

I just asked my son here and he also said Canadians.

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Today, being old, I am genuinely not interested in dating. The whole concept reminds me too much of a job interview or a shopping spree. Back in the days, dating was a matter of going out and landing the best looking guy with the highest potential for a good future. How things change, eh

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I honestly have no clue why 6 months was the rule of thumb back then. I'm talking about when we were in our early 20s. In those days, if you didn't have a husband by 25 or 26, you were almost considered a spinster and the pickings were getting slim.

RE: most friendly people in the world are

Judging by the ones I met, I'd say Canadian and Irish.

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Holy Cow! We had one couple in school that ended up marrying, but apart from them, I don't know anybody who stuck with the first girl-or boyfriend that long. Bless your heart

Well, looking back, it was a lot of fun to date and go out and do a lot of stupid stuff. The objective wasn't to get married as much as to get the proposal. (I didn't say we were smart)

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Idealist

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I'm talking about way back in the days when we were around 20. Back then you were "going together", but if at least a marriage proposal wasn't coming forth, it was time to say adios.

Maybe we moved a bit slower in the south

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Interesting. Rubber band as in them hankering after their exes?