I would probably live with someone first. I used to say I'd never do it again before marriage. I just don't know at this point. I think I would, but I would want to get married before too long.
Yes, it is sweetie. It's very hard. Em had to do it too. She was 9. She heard mom and went to check on her and realized that something was very wrong. Fortunately, while I was working on her, when the neighbor saw the cops and ambulance arrive, he came over and sent Em to his house. It was her choice to stay there while I went to the hospital. The whole thing right up until I told Em that mom was gone took under an hour.
That night I had to run back to the hospital for something before they arrived from the mortuary to pick her up. I went back in with mom for a few minutes. Em decided to wait. I'm so glad she did. By the time Em saw mom again, we had her made up and looking pretty. I made sure mom was looking up to my specs before letting anyone see her - Em or my siblings.
Em remembers those first moments, but when she thinks of mom "gone" she thinks of her at the funeral home - looking pretty. Mom lived with us most of Em's life, so it was like losing a parent. I'm just glad she remembers the good and fun times instead of the bad.
Kids will work it out the best they can. I think their brains are wired that way. I think it's often harder for us.
My friend died only one month before my mother. She was 42. So losing them both in such a short time was hard. It took me a while to really getting to the point of being able to grieve for Sherry. But I do try to remember them both as they'd want me to.
Hang in there sweetie. It will all work out one way or another. Try not to stress yourself over it too much. Boys will be boys, after all. You're doing the best you can. If I'm remembering right, Merky, you believe in God. Leave it in his hands.
I do understand. Mothers passing was very difficult. And yes, I did relive those moments a lot in that first year. Though I still remember it vividly, I had to let it go and allow myself to replace my first thought of her with something happy. It was an effort to begin with. I would think of that, and have to force myself to replace that thought, but I did it. I'm glad too. We were so close and I hate to think of that awful time when she pops into my head. She would hate for me to do that. She was quite vain at times!
That sounds wonderful. My daughter has always enjoyed cooking too. And I watch a lot of cooking shows. I've learned a lot from that and gotten good ideas for recipes of my own.
We'll have to swap a recipe or two sometime! But for now, it's off to bed for me too.
Goodnight, Jesse and Mercedes and anyone I may have missed.
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Good thing Ken wasn't sharing a cell with Des!
RE: If you would get married again..
I eloped too.