Tulefel Forum Posts (2,848)

RE: Do you want / expect / or hope for an answer....from people you have messaged ?

How come I’m not on your hit list? That’s kind of… hurting my vanity, if I may ask!

RE: Do you want / expect / or hope for an answer....from people you have messaged ?

A good example. Would be appropriate to ask you why you looked at my profile? Am I on your hit list?

RE: Do you want / expect / or hope for an answer....from people you have messaged ?

Well… one can’t be always sure… Perhaps, it was a lucky escape.

It happens that I turn on my balbulator, and balbulate and balbulate… for hours. People with frail nerves may start crying or faint. So those three happily avoided their terrible fate. For this time.

RE: Do you want / expect / or hope for an answer....from people you have messaged ?

Three times I’ve taken initiative and sent messages first, and none of them was answered. Did I expect an answer? Yes, I did, otherwise I wouldn’t send them.

I send “Happy New Year!” flowers every New Year to them who haven’t behaved (ie to people I like), and most of them are answered, though in this case I don’t expect it, but it’s pleasant nonetheless.


Note to self: Include Mazza1980 in the coming New Year list, or else he’d die of thirst.

RE: Taking a sabbatical thread

So he’s also death?


Reminded me…

An older couple came to a doctor, and the wife complains:

Doctor, my husband suffers of a terrible disease – he doesn’t hear a word of what I say!

It’s not a disease, Madame. It’s blessing.

RE: Taking a sabbatical thread

Hi, T!

He better not. Otherwise it will be boring.

RE: Taking a sabbatical thread

Looks like you’ve been let out on parole?

RE: Do you want / expect / or hope for an answer....from people you have messaged ?

Yes? – Sometimes

No? – Sometimes

Don’t care! – Sometimes

Not my choice, it’s up to them – It is indeed up to them

Isn’t a reply just simple good manners? – Sometimes non-response is better manners

How long does it take to reply… 30 seconds? – Can answer only for myself: I need inspiration AND time, as I try to treat people individually, not as items on a conveyer. 30 seconds wouldn’t be enough for me to compose a letter.

Does the recipient feel any responsibility? – Depends on the situation: we are responsible for those whom we tamed, not for those who got stuck to us by their own choice.

A message doesn’t have to suggest interest? – Haven’t understood this one: if I answer that I’m not interested, then the message is clear. If I answer with a proper letter without mentioning interest, it means that I’m interested.

Isn’t it nice to get a reply? …even a no! – Silence speaks for itself, it is “no”, isn’t it?

Is it just me who thinks like this? – Don’t know, let’s see the development of the thread.

RE: Foreign men, my weakness This should be quite a thread

Sometimes they put some vodka into dough, to make it crispier or some such, but my knowledge on the subject stops there.

RE: Foreign men, my weakness This should be quite a thread

Obviously, it was French recipe.

RE: Foreign men, my weakness This should be quite a thread

Well… that was interesting. Though I never added, and have no intentions, onion or garlic or vodka (?). It kills the flavour of other vegetables.

RE: Now Hear this!

So from washing the OP turned to non-washing?

Context matters, doesn’t it?

RE: Now Hear this!

According to a legend: ”When the Emperor Napoleon of France was about to return from battle, he sent a message to Josephine. “Am returning in three days. Don’t wash.””

RE: Now Hear this!

(c)
”I got involved with a man, he smells like my happiness.
Because of this man I’m sometimes happy and sometimes unhappy.
But nonetheless
I proceed to the smell.
”

RE: Songs for your mood.............

An interesting angle… But why not? Everything that keeps one’s mind sane will do.







I too prefer temporary climate… (not that I’ve ever lived in very cold or tropical ones). I like this change of seasons. If nothing else is changing in your life for years, at least you can always rely on the nature – it will bring some changes, you like it or not.

RE: Songs for your mood.............

“Hotel California” for ever!

RE: Songs for your mood.............

You like snow until you’ve got stuck in 10 cm thick layer of it, newly fallen and wet. The experience would moderate enthusiasm very fast. Actually within 3 minutes.

The song is about love, an unshared one as a proper love meant to be. His fiancée married the other man, and he is sad about the fact.

…which reminded me of a joke:

“A newly examinated psychiatrist came to the hospital and an older doctor shows him around, makes him acquainted with the patients in the ward.

There’s a young sad man sitting in a usual room close to the window, doing needle-work, tears running down his face, indifferent to the world around him. The older doctor says:

- This young fellow got depressed when his fiancée chose to marry the other man…

Then he leads the younger doctor to another room with mattressed walls, thick bars instead of the door, and says:

- And here we have him – the other man.
”

RE: Songs for your mood.............

Have had a seminar – 3 hours in English against 8 PhD students. Drinking brut. Feeling empty and happy. Without a reason. If you like snow, then I’ve got some:

RE: Songs for your mood.............

Mironov was one of a kind, and I’m sorry, but I couldn’t find the song I wanted. Only the music:

RE: no true love anywhere

“True love” – I’ve seen this expression many times on CS, and I asked a few times what the person means when saying so. But never got any answer.

So what do you mean with “true love”? It’s a euphemism for me, as wet water or oily oil.

RE: Now Hear this!

But you have families, don’t you?

RE: Apparently i have ''Rip me off'' written on my forehead!

The very first time I feel sorry for them.

RE: Apparently i have ''Rip me off'' written on my forehead!

I’ve blocked North America and for some time the scam flow has dried out. But now they all moved to Europe. They are irritating as flies, but if you wouldn’t reply – there will be no harm.

RE: How ready are you to change your life?

My former colleague agreed to live in our flat and look after our cat. From my point of view, nothing changed in his everyday life as he was used to come and go as he wanted, disappearing sometimes for few days in a raw, and he could continue with his routines even after we’ve left. He lived 6 months, then went out one day and never came back.

One can turn it this way and that, but I’ve evaluated this solution as more preferable comparing to confinement in quarantine for 6 months. I couldn’t ask him what he would choose, so I made my decision on the basis of my knowledge of him and my own preferences.

Well… our pets are dependent on us, it’s true. But one has to keep in mind that we are not immortal. Anything can happen anytime to anyone. What then would happen with the pet? I think if you’ve got a pet, it’s also your obligation to have a plan B for your pet’s fate as well – just in case.

RE: How ready are you to change your life?

How about the cats? Are they willing to move as well?

When I’ve decided to move to another country, our cat’s fate was a big issue indeed. I’ve got to rent out our flat on the condition that the cat will live there. Wasn’t that difficult to find someone who was willing to have a flat for free, but it was difficult to find someone who would care for the cat.

RE: Now Hear this!

I hope I wouldn’t survive long enough to tell this edifying story to my (not yet planned) grandchildren, as I try to clean my things on regular basis. There are bacteria everywhere and that one has got immunity system for – to fight those bacteria. Of course, it doesn’t mean that one has to neglect hygiene. If anything else, bad hygiene induces aversion in people who have to co-exist with you.

I was called “Raccoon” once upon a time, as I washed everything that came my way . That was a long time ago, I learned to take easier a lot of things, but I’m still convinced that one has to maintain some certain level of hygiene.


As to recovering… thank you for asking, but there’s nothing positive to report. It looks like returning to pre-operational state. When I think about it, I have to comfort myself with chocolate… which wouldn’t do any good in the long run. Especially when scrambles of it end up in the key board.

RE: Now Hear this!

Have regretted the very moment I’ve posted. Many do wash their hands indeed.

Where I’ve observed that… you can actually tell newly washed hands from not-washed ones: the washed body has slightly pinkish colour (and there’s some soapish smell as well).

But my Swedish ex used to go out (we lived in the country-side and there I could observe one and another “phenomenon”) for emptying his bladder, and then return to his chair in the front of TV as nothing happened. My mentioning that it induces repulsion, that it makes me reluctant to touch things that he uses, was dismissed as groundless moaning.

Moaning it was indeed, and as any moaning couldn’t do any good. I should have turned the very moment I’ve noticed his behavior for the first time. It never would become attractive, would it? So there’s nothing to moan about, just split without a word.

A key board is a completely different story, though. They say the amount of scrambles that there are in a programmer’s key board can support him for a week.




(A large part of my job is programming... )

RE: Now Hear this!

Here’s a link, though I don’t know whether it’s the same that OP refers to.

From my observation, which I cannot call a scientific study, men find it excessive to wash their hands after using bathroom. And I find that disgusting.


(Perhaps, it’s the main reason why I’m single)

RE: How do I overcome my shyness?

Indeed, I’ve noticed that those, who propose a meal as main activity on the first date, lack fantasy. How funny is it to watch him eat and listen to him telling through chewing about all the injustice fate dealt him so far.

A walk in a nice milieu may draw the two closer together rather fast. Though it’s not always wise to choose isolated places for the first date either. They bring the comfort of solitude and peace, but only if you already know your date well enough to trust him.

I’d suggest a shopping round. All the man has to do is to push the trolley wouldn’t even have to entertain his date as her mind would be busy with decisions what to purchase. If she’d buy something bulky or heavy, it’d a perfect opportunity for him to show what he’s worth as a man. Strong and reliable and very useful in the household.

RE: what makes a good relationship

If two senses of humour coincide – there can’t be too much