Tried to google “Wage gap”, haven’t found anything recent. Though I remember seeing for a couple years ago in a Swedish newspaper that the average wage gap in EU is women earning 0.86 of men’s salary, ceteris paribus, and Sweden laying exactly on that average. Conclusion: chances are, I will ALWAYS earn less money than my partner by design of this world. Just because I am a woman.
For the second, I’ve been in a couple of relationships and my experience, here as well as there, is that first things men, though fully capable to house work, do is to delegate all, and I mean ALL, house work to the nearest woman. Yes, in absence of his mother, it’s me.
That’s was a prelude. The lude itself: I don’t think that you have to put all your money into your relationship. There are some basics to be maintained and you can share paying for it, equally or in some other proportions you’ve agreed upon.
And by any means, I have no intention to “make up” by slaving in the kitchen just because my partner earns more than me. He can put the excess wherever he wants.
Don’t know whether it’s suitable to answer a question that was not addressed to me… but in absence of Matchbox (must be carrying real love into masses?) I take a freedom:
A real love as well as unreal love as well as love of all other kinds hits you as a train on full speed, drives over you, and leaves sad shreds of your soul all over your life for everyone to see. Unexpected. Unprovoked. Inappropriate. And uncontrollable.
But how one can promise as a gift to other people something one cannot control?.. That’s an enigma for me.
Well… don’t know whether there’s any meaning in given advice – every couple adjusts to each other as it suits them, and only them, best.
I’d divide as follows: my rules in the kitchen and in the bath room. His – in the garage and garden. And you have to compromise in front of TV and in the bed room.
Don’t see the difference between a Parliament’s decree and referendum’s decree. It’s about majority’s will in both cases. Yes, the majority of those who cared to express their will. But as they say, world is run by those who showed up. You disagree with the form – referendum, but I think the contents are more important.
Well… your origin may explain the title: “Germany/UK or around”. For Europeans it’s rather different countries, while for someone from such a vast place as Australia there may be a feeling that all is squeezed together here.
Try the UK forum (there’s no German forum on CS) if you comfortable with the travel it may cause.
Letter X reads as H in Russian, so I’ve read: “MATA”, then “X” and the first impression was “Hari”. An optical illusion, or just jumping to conclusion on limited information.
There is a lot of things that can’t be ”fixed” not by yourself nor someone else however you try to. Would it mean that you shouldn’t enter a relationship at all?
My opinion is: you should accept yourself as you are before entering a relationship, and be willing to accept your partner as he/she is. To make the relationship hold, your partner should be able to do the same. And the rest… chemistry, patience, good will and sense of humour will “fix” it.
Was about to answer that no, I don’t wonder, just write those events off on my general clumsiness… But it was before I’ve read day’s mail. After I’ve read it, yes, I’ve got a question “Why?”
Why, oh why do people, I don’t know, assume that it’s ok to pour over me all their sorrows? Something wrong with my face?
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RE: Marriage
Tried to google “Wage gap”, haven’t found anything recent. Though I remember seeing for a couple years ago in a Swedish newspaper that the average wage gap in EU is women earning 0.86 of men’s salary, ceteris paribus, and Sweden laying exactly on that average. Conclusion: chances are, I will ALWAYS earn less money than my partner by design of this world. Just because I am a woman.For the second, I’ve been in a couple of relationships and my experience, here as well as there, is that first things men, though fully capable to house work, do is to delegate all, and I mean ALL, house work to the nearest woman. Yes, in absence of his mother, it’s me.
That’s was a prelude. The lude itself: I don’t think that you have to put all your money into your relationship. There are some basics to be maintained and you can share paying for it, equally or in some other proportions you’ve agreed upon.
And by any means, I have no intention to “make up” by slaving in the kitchen just because my partner earns more than me. He can put the excess wherever he wants.
Deeper.