Oh how well I know hun, my youngest is the most effected, she is 13 and was 2 when her Dad and I seperated.She is attending teen counselling at the moment as she feels that it is her fault her Dad doesnt want her. And yes I chose to marry him and have children with him, so I must exceptmy part in the whole thing.
But I must also forgive myself, for holding onto it is doing nobody any good. Rightly or wrongly we make choices in our life, sometimes they dont work out for the best but we must move on.
I was originally (11 years ago) awarded 20 pound per week per child, I asked not to be named on the maintenance order as I am more than capable of working and providing for myself, my ex husband then gave up work so that his income was to low for him to pay anything towards the childrens upkeep.
The saddest thing is his lack of interest in them,I could have gone to court and forced him to have access to them but I decided against it, I didnt want my children to know that their Father only saw the because a judge said he had to.
In Ireland Somme if the parents are not married then the father has no automatic rights to be included in the childs life. I get your point about it being the childs right to have parents who love and rear them, but as it stands here if the Mother decides that she doesnt want the father involved then that is the case unless he goes through a lengthy court process.
I dont honestly think it would bother me, my ex rang me a few year ago to say he was getting engaged, I congratulated him and wished him well. He didnt get married but as I said I wasnt bothered.
I used to have everything he recorded, then he paid women to have his children, had a sham marriege to Lisa Marie Presley, hung his baby from a balcony, dyed his childrens hair and put awful heavy masks on them when they were out in public.... the list goes on. I binned all of it.
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RE: im back...LOL
Oh I cant wait for my hols, large g&t 3 euros...Happy days