"Heya how are you? I hope you are OK. Im lieving in houston atm working as a contrater in a big firm. I have too dogs named Annie and Marie"
- That would definitely get a reply. The imaginary guy introduces himself in a polite way and starts a conversation. The typos are probably due to dyslexia or lack of education, but it's obvious he is trying to write understandable.
On the other hand e-mails like:
"Hello lol how r u hope u r okay i live in houston as a contracter *SS* wanna meet my dogs or somethin hope to heer from ya hugzzz"
… Will probably get a very short, declining answer, if any at all since the guy obviously spend no time at all writing the letter (and thus I will spend no time at all answering it).
If people have a hard time spelling because of educational level or dyslexia they could at least do something like I do and get their computer to correct the worst mistakes – I’m not asking for perfect letters, just some sign that people actually make an effort like I do.
Usually it’s easy to spot people with dyslexia or a lower level of education. They tend to spell they hard words like they are pronounced and I don’t mind that at all. But when the e-mails are filled with typos and just reek of lack of effort it kinda turns me off and makes me think the author is not trying enough or even trying at all.
I try to put an effort in my own replies and not just throw some random BS in my e-mails, so I like it when people respect my efforts enough to return them just a little.
Yes, I have a Bible in Danish and I actually read a bit every night before going to sleep.
My Dad used to read to us when we were kids and being a long way from home it's comforting to read something in my native language that I connect closely with family tradition - and we weren't even that Christian, it was just a "thing" we had as a family.
If a person writes you an e-mail indicating they are interested in getting to know you or correspond with you – will their level of spelling and correct use of grammar affect your interest and/or your response?
English is not my native language, so basically everything I post have been written in Microsoft Word to begin with, so the worst spelling errors and grammar mistakes are corrected before sending e-mails or posting on the forum. In my mind I have to at least make an effort if I want people to read what I have written and sometimes I consider it disrespectful to not even try and read a letter through just once before sending, to correct any obvious errors. Why should I use my time to respond, if the author hasn’t even made an effort to write just a slightly bit civilized?
Funnily enough especially people whose native tongue is English tend to write like they were 1st graders; and other foreigners like myself try a little harder and make fewer mistakes, probably because we have to be more conscious when using this language.
What say Thou, o’ mighty boarders of CS – am I OCD’ing or just paying attention to details?
I make the money myself, of course. I need a "stay at home" dad to take care of my million dollar house, 2 ferrari's and 3 children... and of course, my wounderful shiba dogs and my pet lizzard named Eddie.
If he could make my paladin reach lvl 70 that would be a plus, too.
To be completely honest most of the guys I have dated was average looking or lower.
I want a well-educated man and if he spends a lot of time in a gym too, when is there supposed to be room for me? ... Nah, I don't dig that. I prefer them white and nerdy, I actually think Bill Gate is kinda hot.
I understand, but why should the doctors have to get their hands dirty? It's a mess to have the people supposed to fight for life, participate in death too.
It should be special trained personel, at the very least.
I understand and I am truly sorry about your loss. But why is it the doctor's responsibility to get their hands dirty? Do me it seems dangerous to give that kind of power (death) to those supposed to save lives.
I have seen cases where the merciful thing would be to let people sleep forever. But between that thought and actually killing someone - no matter their pain - is a long way. Sometimes I feel like a coward because I can't see myself ever doing something like that. I will relieve pain (also in my oath) - and if death is a fact, not a risk I will and I actually have relieved pain even though I knew it would shorten the patient's life span (which is not a felony in Denmark where I was a student at the time) - but the difference was minutes or seconds, not weeks or months or perhaps years.
So I understand your grief and frustration, but it doesn't make me want to take lives. It's just too opposed to every other principle I have based my life and career on, and putting on whites and gloves doesn't make me numb.
But the problem occurs when people feel they have to say yes to euthanasia in respect for their loved one's. If they feel they are more trouble and pain if they fight and thus chooses death not for their own sake, but their relatives...
It's a dangerous path, I think.
That's all I really can say about it: I am very skeptic, I will not participate, but I do not rule out the good things either.
Dignity has to do with the sick person's mindset, not the disease.
When I wrote my bachelor on neuroscience I based some of my conclusions on CT and MRI scans. One of my volunteer patients was a woman my age (22) that had had a brain tumour. She had it removed through surgery, but her condition was still severe: She drooled all the time, could only communicate by blinking and making animal-like noises, had to be fed through a tube, in a wheelchair, could only move one arm et cetera...
I made the huge mistake of feeling pity for her - she felt my sadness for her and got really upset. How dared I pity her? She was alive! She had dignity! She was somebody, and if I dared to think otherwise she would certainly tell me to get real or p... off.
I had a blast whenever she was around; she was the funniest woman I ever met. She made practical jokes on all of us and she loved her life. She made certain no one thought they were better than her and she loathed it when people pitied her in any way, because she didn’t feel bad for herself in any way.
Sometimes we have to consider whether or not a dignified life is based on our own assumptions or on the wishes and attitudes of the sick.
I think it's dangerous to think we can make decisions on behalf of others, especially when it comes to dignity, which is really more a state of mind than a physical trait.
I would do "the helicopter" to the cranky old lady that lives opposite me - it's not against the law if it's done on your own property! She really spies too much...
Most of the time I understand clearly. Some people I never understand - and that's okay (it's mostly people I don't really care to understand anyway ).
3 years ago I was engaged to a man who decided it was a good idea to cheat on me with my best friend. I didn't get over him (or what he did to me) until very recently. At first I really tried to pressure myself into moving on, but I realized that something like that can't be forced. Sometimes it takes 2 minutes to get over someone, sometimes it takes a lot longer. You need to give yourself the time and space to heal, then it will happen by itself.
I'm actually a little scared by Texas cowboys - their accents can be a little too strong for me to understand what they are actually saying... Sometimes the conversations go like this:
A tall, well-built woman with good reputation, who can cook frog legs, who appreciates a good fuc- schia garden, classical music and tal- king without getting too serious. But please only read lines 1, 3 and 5.
Since the Scandinavian countries are depended on trade with other countries the natives are able to easily adopt and accept other cultures. We are generally speaking curious and open-minded.
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Does the writing skills affect your interest?
I don't see anything wrong with the way you write.Like I said I don't have an urge for anything 100% perfect - I just need to see that people make an effort.